Anyone struggling to get it up when the magic happens?

[pfromptown]

Am I the only person to be experiencing this? I've just started seeing a girl in my building and the other night... I had a case of the floppys!!! We were making out for ages, unclothed, and I just couldn't stop worrying about it and, quelle surprise, I just couldn't get hard; It's as if all my sexual thoughts are dominated by tickling. There are several possible factors: (1) I was nervous beyond belief (I'm still a virgin) (2) I have a terrible diet with a lot of fat, which decreases blood flow to the penis (3) I'm so engulfed in this fetish that I just wasn't aroused, which scares the shit out of me!!! I ended up giving her head and she came, which was a nice ego-boost, but understandably I want the full caboodle. Afterwards when we were lying around chilling I got hard, so I know the problem is purely psychological and not physical: I CAN get it up, but when I was expected to deliver I just couldn't. She's been great and is willing to be patient about it which is what I needed but regardless: I was just hoping that I'm not the first person to go through this...

Apologies if this thread is a bit too crude for some folks, but technicalities need to be touched on...

 

[Headsnap]

That happened to me once. His name was Big Bob. We shared a cell in Walton. Long story short he asked if it was because of him, so I shivved him.

 

[pfromptown]

Blimey! Sounds grim to me, although not as grim as where you live if it's between Liverpool and Scotland!

Peace

 

[Sandrock74]

Most likely a combination of all of the above.

 

[max4545us]

I am a psychology major, and from all the materials I have read, and been taught about sexual drive and other things, it is perfectly normal to experience non erection when on the verge of intercourse. There are a lot of things that could be the reason for it, most of them not dealing with any fetish. Stress, nervousness (especially if you are a virgin), trying to please the partner (an example of this would be not having foreplay for you. You said that you went down on her, did she do anything to try to stimulate you?), and there are other reasons too, but my guess is your issue deals more with either one or a combination of those three. I would advise you to get to know the girl better, and it seems as if she is very understanding with this to begin with, but since you are a virgin odds are you are just second guessing your decision to make this girl the first. So I would recommend just getting more comfortable with her, and the best way to do that is to converse with her, and if you are still having difficulty with it after that, just try sneaking in some tickles here and there and see if that helps to give you an erection. I hope that helps you, and remember it is not some rare issue, every man has been in that same position before, and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Yeah that happened to me my (attempted) first time back in the day. It's just nerves. Regular anxiousness regarding your first time having sex, PLUS the worry that having the fetish means you can't get an erection when vanilla game-time happens.

No worries, I was in that boat, but I'm a success story. 😀

 

[Tidas]

VIVA VIAGRA!!!!!! sorry, someone had to though. Honestly i've never experienced this because of the fetish, but I do have a hard time cumming unless some kind of tickling/fetish activity is happening during intercourse. I don't go soft, but I never get to cum either.

 

[kyle]

Dude, don't sweat it. On my first time I was too nervous to get it up. Also, if you're wasted or taking pills it'll make it floppy.

 

[Sleepy Jean]

My guess is it probably was nervousness. But don't sweat it, hon. It can happen to any guy at any age.

It happened to my future husband one time when we started dating. He was so embarrassed and apologetic and tried to assure me that it wasn't anything to do with me ("you're beautiful...you're sexy..."). I thought maybe there was too much tickling and not enough genital stimulation (I was tied up, as usual).
Even when he untied me it did not get erect. But the next morning he had an erection that would have made Smiling Bob jealous, and we had a great time. It's just one of those things, I guess.