I want to add one more thing here. Since I've joined this forum, a friend of mine, who isnt into tickling, but knows I belong to TMF, and that I've asked female letter pen pals tickle questions in the past with a good degree of success, tried it out for himself on one or two occasions. If I recall correctly, one time was with a co worker, and another time in a social situation where he knew the woman, but not well enough to call her exactly a "friend", she was more so an acquaintance. In both instances, he used the opening that I did, about having previously been tickled by his sister, girlfriend, or a family member, and asked if such had ever happened to them. Both times, he got answers, because he casually brought up the conversation, and didnt make it seem like he was bringing up something that was going to sexually charge and turn him on. In every day conversation, this is about the only way I'd do so. Remember, guys, (and girls) while we are a small, but ever growing, close knit group on this forum, we are still a relatively minute portion of the population by being into this. I have learned this more and more through conversations with pen pals, girls in college, etc. Most of them have said to me: "Tickling, yes, sure, I'm ticklish, but I hate to be tickled. It's torture" I can recall exactly one pen pal out of the 40 or so answers I got from 1996 until I joined this site, who said they actually like to be tickled. Even my late pen pal Don Fraser, who got me into talking about this, would tell me that many women he asked, or even tickled, hated it, except for a rare case or two. Many view it as either playful action in the course of sex play, or control and domination, where an older brother, sister, or larger family member, held them down and tickled them against their will. Unless you are into bondage, discipline, or domination, as many of us on this site are, many people hate that. For this reason, it isnt that easy to bring up tickling. It has to be done at the right time, and in the right way.
From the reactions to this thread, I would say that many would agree with my assessment. Iam not saying bringing up tickling in the mainstream cant be done, because it can, it just needs to be done in a discretionary fashion. I can think of one more instance where I've been successful in getting an answer. One time, I was at the house of a girl I know, who is closer to my best friend than she is to me, and my friend and her got into a tickling fight. Her older sister, who is about six years older than me, was in the house with us, and I casually said to this girl, whose name is Robyn, :"Oh, have Pam (Her sister) and you ever gotten into tickle fights, is she ticklish?" The girl said that yes, Pam in fact was very ticklish, and even as adults, they still occasionally got into tickling fights. Their parents were even in the house at the time, and no one thought anything of it. (I will admit, that Pam is a gorgeous girl, abit married now, and, while it was before I joined the TMF, I had already gotten into tickling, and had Don as my pen pal, and was eager to find out if Pam was ticklish.) I managed to find out what I wanted to know, but in such a manner where I didnt make Pam, her sister, or her parents angry, or put on the spot, or like I was even into tickling. This is what I mean by discretion. Tickling questions can be asked in certain situations, and you are more likely to get answers, if done in the way I did so.
Mitch
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