At What Point Should You Become Concerned?

[Mimi]

I'm really walking out on a thin limb here, and opening up in a way I never have on this forum before. But I have been noticing something a LOT lately, and I would like to share it with you fine folks, and perhaps get some feedback.

At what point should you be concerned about your fetish/interest becoming an unhealthy obsession? I have noticed an overwhelming increase in my interest as of late, and frankly, it's starting to worry me a bit.

I think about tickling 24/7. Every single night for the past week or two, my every dream has revolved around tickling. I often find myself waking in the night, and fighting so hard to get back to sleep, just to pick up the pieces of the dream I was having, and let it continue on it's path. Every morning when I wake, the fragments of my latest tickling dream remain on my mind, and carry me through the first few hours of my day. I find myself almost constantly attempting to instigate tickling around any male friend I have...to the point that I'm sure it becomes almost annoying for them. But I just can't help myself. It's such an extreme force, that I must act on it, just to try to get SOME satisfaction and relief from the nagging desires. I have even found that my chat room shinanigans have been on the rise. I'm doing anything and everything to curb this addiction. Yet I remain insaitable.

Is this normal? Does anyone else live their life this way...with tickling consuming your every though? Is there anything I can do to curb these thoughts? Or is there a point that someone needs to considering seeking professional help? I honestly do not think I could see a professional and openly discuss this with them. The thought alone terrifies me. But so does the recent rise in this obsession.

Does anyone have any ideas they can share, that may better help me cope with this?

Thanks,

Mimi

 

[daddy]

Mimi...at this point I would not worry about. For me, it comes in cycles and also depends what else is going on in my life at the moment. That will determine how much time and effort goes into the thought process. I have had times where days have gone by and I have not thought about tickling at all. But then, I have my moments where I am just like you described...with it on my mind 24/7...and that's when I usually have most of my really "bold" moments!!! LOL At least your aware of what you are thinking and doing.

daddy

 

[qjakal]

Mi-mi-mi Mimi!

And I thought it was just a "guy" thing...lol.! I think almost every tkphile worthy of the title goes through these 24/7 phases...I know I still do, and I'm teetering around the half century mark...at 25 I think that was the normal state I lived in constantly. It does take self control and discipline not to drive your friends and acquaintances crazy, but being a cute female has gotta help! Try being in that state when you're a big 'ol hulk with a chrome dome! Your chances seem pretty good for getting "relief" on a daily basis...if not, you can relocate to Long Island amid our little hive...someday we just HAVE to get organized though! Hang in there, Mimi...cold showers (be good) and the husband will see you through it! 😉 Q

 

[Cyrano]

I agree, just about everything comes in cycles. If you do wish to rid yourself of such thoughts, try something traditional. Dancing, meditating, even martial arts (Taijutsu and Jeet Kune Do can take up every bit of your concentration) That's how I dealt with my emotions when my best girl left me for my best friend. Don't get me wrong, let the feelings out now and then, but utilize your physical tension into something healthy. I may not have experience beyond 19 years, but it's worked for me so far.

You're truly loved in this community, even though I'm not around too often, I appreciate people like you keeping this community so friendly. Thank you, you're a great person Mimi.

 

[Haltickling]

Mimi, don't get worried before tickling occupies your mind 25/8. Until then, everything is under control... 😀

But seriously. If you lose friends or family or your job because of your thoughts about tickling fuzzing up your priorities, it's time to pull the break to full stop. Everything else is normal. There are times when you're too occupied to think about tickling, and you've just got to make up for that sometimes with a bit of 24/7... 🙂

 

[tklr5150]

I think about tickling 24/7. Every single night for the past week or two, my every dream has revolved around tickling. . .

Hang on - am I to understand this is not usual? Cause I've been trying to cut down to 24/7, I'd hate to think that's still considered "overdoing it."

 

[gargoyleofdusk]

Hi.

Well, I am not versed on the psyche of one's mind, but I don't think you are in trouble. I understand how seeing the cyber-tickling in the room wants us to seek it for real - as a ler or lee. I myself wish to meet some of the grrls in the room in person to tickle them, as you I'm sure wish the tickles were real from others in the room.

Keep busy I guess, try not to push your mind too far, and just let it happen naturally.

We care about you Mimi - we will help you thru this.

*Wolverine hugs*

deadling

 

[Oblesklk]

I do have to chime in here and agree with most of the other wise folks on the thread: that the interest if VERY cycical. As a community, we are quite varied in our tastes, but I would hazard a guess that the interest does indeed become cyclical for about 95% or more of us.

If you would like to talk about it, my email inbox is always open. Naturally, that goes for anyone here on the boards, not just Mimi 🙂 I've spoken with several people in the past about these cyclical trends...I don't go so far as to say I could ever "cure" anyone, but hopefully I've helped nonetheless.

 

[shark]

I wouldn't worry about it until you can't "function" without tickling,
or until it starts to interfere with your regular life activities,like
a junkie's habit does.

 

[daryl]

Mimi:

I would agree with everybody so far that you have not turned any corners yet. If you do want to talk to a professional about it, however, please realize that many professionals deal with this sort of thing routinely and you don't need to be embarrassed or think you will tell them something they haven't heard. AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, counselors, and therapists) is an association of just such professionals. I know some people who have had referrals from them and been quite happy. They were not judged and it was discussed openly and candidly and people became more comfortable with their interests. I can send you a web page to look at if you want.

[email protected]

 

[BigJim]

Meemster, you aren't going through anything that I havn't been or am not going through. Like many posters on this thread I find that my obsesivness goes in cycles. Just lately I've been spending five hours and upwards a day on the TMF; more if I'm off work! However, in the past I've been three weeks without visiting.
There is nothing you should be overly worried about, unless you find that other aspects of your life are being seriously interfered with. From what you say, it just appears that you are being slightly more provacative lately( Damn! I thought it was my chat room techniques that were getting better!😡 LOL) and there is nothing wrong or even especially noticable about that. You are not losing it and there is nothing wrong or unhealthy about you. If you ever want to discuss this in person, then I'll catch you next time I'm in the chat room. Be good babe......

Jimbo

 

[giggledude]

What I've found helpful for such periods has been writing, sometimes very long projects that take months to complete, sometimes just quick, silly little things like rewriting a song or a poem. At least when I can't quite get my mind entirely on something else, it lets me internalize the focus enough to keep it to myself. Maybe you can find some outlet that works for you, maybe you can occupy your mind in another direction, maybe there's even an external reason that you've become obsessive recently. Whatever happens, good luck in getting your life ordered in a way that suits you.

 

[hiram]

Obsession?

Now, this is an interesting question, and the responses are equally so.

First, let me admit that my consciousness gets invaded by tickling thoughts all the darned time. This has always been the case since I was about ten years old, and unlike qjakal, I teetered over that horrible mid-century mark just a short time ago.

Second, I stopped worrying about it while I was in the Navy around the age of 20. The fact is, I whiled away more than one midwatch (midnight to 4 AM) daydreaming about my last (or next) tickling of my latest girlfriend, or some other fine tickling event.

Third, this is a gift, not a curse. Streaming in and out of REM sleep at 2AM is the best time to daydream about tickling. It feels so real at that time, and yikes, what a turn on.

It's more than a gift. My poor wife has been getting tickled to death and all the time for nearly three decades. While I can easily imagine tickling every woman I meet, I'm strictly monogomous. That includes tickling since for me it's a sexual turn on. The gift is that gorgeous woman that lets me tickle her is more so due to her ticklishness. It says right here that I can't wait till the next time I get her in a ticklish predicament. It stiffens my resolve as much today as it did when I was 25, if you get my meaning (I think I do). I feel sorry for anyone not into tickling.

You can't let it overwhelm your obligations. Short of that, enjoy every second of it. Revel in it. Then go start a tickle fight.

Hiram

 

[kurchatovium]

It is interesting you brought this thread up Mimi because I have been having sort of a similar crisis. I too think about tickling constantly and have been buying maybe too many magazines and videos. Although it has not gotten to the point where I am strapped finacially. I do wonder about it in religous terms. I guess its the curse of being Catholic and then I wonder why would God make me this way and then punish me for behaving the way he made me. I suppose I have figured out that God grades on a curve and sees how well you do with the hand your dealt. At least I hope I am right. I would say one indication of if you are going too far how is it affecting your friends, family, job, finaces, etc if these are OK then I say your fine. The religous ramifications I guess we all have to deal with ourselves. Hope I have been a help.

 

[tkl325]

I also go crazy sometimes with the tickling obsession, and in my case, it was on the verge of being sexual addiction.

I would skip dinner, not answer the phone, go to bed late, become anti-social, etc. just so that i could browse the net, for yet another picture or story.

It got in the way of living, and after a while it got me depressed.

As long as you are not neglecting other important things in your life, i guess your obsession is OK. But maybe the vellicating of the office co-workers might be an alarm bell. I don't know what they are like, and I don't know how often you do it, but maybe there could be a problem there.

Is it possible to get it out of your system by some other means?
I wish you all the best, and I'm sure i speak for everyone here, that we are all here for you.

 

[ktickler]

Mimi,

I agree with everybody about the cyclical aspect of this obsession. Some times it will be very bad and some time you will barely think about tickling. However, I disagree with the comments that you should not worry about this until it becomes pathologically dangerous.

You have to realize that your mind and body are the best indicators when something is not OK with you. If you are starting to feel preoccupied about your obsessive behavior, then this may indicate that there is something different about your life that is causing discomfort.

I would look at recent changes in your life and figure out if there is something that changed your everyday activities in such a way that now you are more obsessed with tickling. I would try to get busy with other activities such as painting, reading, exercising, studying, or even working. This will maintain your mind occupied and you will probably go easy with your obsession with tickling.

It is not a matter of suppressing your feelings about tickling. It is a matter of finding a balance in your life in such a way that tickling is just another activity and part of your personality.

Don’t get me wrong, I do think of tickling and act in every way possible to find opportunities with tickling, but at the same time I know when it is not appropriate and when it is not desired to follow this obsession. If you are very obsessed, but you feel you have control over your obsession, then I would worry about.

Take care,

Knight Tickler

P.S. And also, if you ever need to "talk", you can e-mail me any time. We Winconsians or Wisconsonites (whichever the right term is) should stick together. 🙂

 

[Mimi]

Thank you everyone, so much, for contributing to this thread. You have all helped to significantly ease my mind.

It has not interfered with my real life, yet. I still go about my normal daily functions in the same manner, just with tickling on the brain. The reason this caused alarm for me, is because it never dominated so many of my thoughts before. I felt I was lucky to have a dream about tickling, now every dream revolves around it. There were times I just wasn't in the mood to be tickled, now I anxiously await every opportunity. The sudden rise in my thought consumption set me off guard.

I can not think of anything happening in my real life right now that would be triggering this. I don't know if it's perhaps, all of a sudden I realize I am not getting any younger, and I am anxious to act all this playful energy out, before it becomes inappropriate? Or, if like suggested, I am merely going through a cycle, and hopefully with time, it will stop being such a demanding force. Don't get me wrong. I love tickling....every aspect of it. And I doubt that will ever change. I just wish I could understand why all of a sudden, it's become such a driving force in my sub-conscious.

I will try some of the wonderful suggestions made here. Hopefully I will be able to find my way back to the happy medium I once knew. In the meantime, however, Sept. 20th just can not get here fast enough!! LOL

Thank you all, for letting me know I am not alone, and that what I am experiencing is somewhat normal and shared by others. Thank you, also, for your support and words of encouragement and comfort. I don't know what I would do without this place, and all the wonderful people who have made their home here. Thanks for taking the time to listen to me, and for sharing your thoughts and ideas.

Mimi 🙂

 

[njjen3953]

Imagine This

You are in that insatiable state. Tickling consumes your being, yet you still need to function in the everyday "Vanilla" world.

Then you go to work where you must be a role model and authority figure to 22 kindergardeners.
Every morning at 9am. sharp you need to lead the class in:

Timmy Tiger tickles Tommy's toes. With a tickle tickle here and a tickle tickle there.....

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH😱

Ya just got to get through it.

Tell that man of yours that he'd best give you more action or I will personally attack his feet in September.

Jen

 

[MadKalnod]

If it helps, here are Mad Kalnod's first four rules governing all Sexual, Religous, and Political behavior:

Rule #1: Are you hurting anyone? No? Fine with me.

Rule #2: Is it keeping you or others from doing your/their job? No? Fine with me.

Rule #3: Are you demanding that others join in whether they like it or not? No? Fine with me.

Rule #4: Are you doing it in the street if it's likely to frighten the horses and small children? No? Fine with me.

If you answer "yes" to one or more of those questions, then you might have a problem. If not, I woudln't worry too much.

 

[Dave2112]

Wow, lok at all the responses to this thread! I didn't even see it yesterday, so I guess I'll have to chime in late.

Mimi, I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes a sexual obsession. As many others have commented, this sort of thing is very cyclical. You need to have a care that other important thoughts have room in your mind and that you are still capable of prioritizing, but we all go through these phases. I call it my "Davy gotta have it" time.😀

If you get to a point where you simply cannot either have an orgasm or enjoy sex at all without tickling involved (for an extended period of time), then you might want to at least take stock of what you feel. If you're still ok with it, then what the hell? Guess what?

You've developed a fetish in the truest sense of the word. If you get really technical, that's what a fetish is...an object or act that is neccessary for sexual enjoyment.

I'd only start to worry if it overtakes other aspects of your life. If you stop going to work, eating, spending time with family and friends...or otherwise notice major changes in your routine. And I mean for an extended period of a few months.

Other than that, just enjoy the phase.😎

 

[Mischief]

re: professional help

(slight tangent)

Mimi, I certainly understand your reluctance to seek professional help because that can be very intimidating. I know because I recently made the trip to professional help regarding my fetish (among other issues). It was not nearly as weird as I had been concerned it might be. A little awkward, but the outcome was not nearly as bad as it could have been in mischief's overactive cranium.

Let me put it this way: the stigma attached to professional mental health is total freaking BS. If you broke your arm while rock climbing, you wouldn't refuse to go to the hospital because of what people might think, right? So, if you have problems in real life that are messing up things like work and relationships, why on earth should you not talk to someone about it? I mean, if you have friends/SOs/mates you can keep counsel with that's great, but my personal experience is that when I tell my friends about issues like this, I have it thrown back in my face a la ad hominem the next time we have an argument. It's human nature, sadly, that people go for the jugular and use such endearing terms as "Monster, freak, weirdo, pervert, sadist, sociopath, etc." I've had it done to me, and even (hate to admit this) done it to others in the heat of anger.

Although it is tempting to post what I learned from the experience here about my fetish, I don't think I am willing to do that in this particular venue. Something about "once bitten, twice shy?"

 

[TicklingDuo]

Wow! Great responses and support. That's great. I'd agree with what's already been stated. As long as it's not interfering in your ability to carry on with "normal" life, I wouldn't worry about it. I do agree with Mischief also. If you feel it's getting out of hand at some point, don't be afraid of seeking counselling. Having done some myself to deal with past abuse issues and having this fetish come up, I was pleased and relieved by the response from tha lady I was seeing. Sometimes, it just helps to talk these things out. It can be done through this type of venue to an extent. But, again, if you ever feel a need to do more, I wouldn't hesitate in doing so.

Ann

 

[kurchatovium]

Love your four rules MadKalnod. I wish more people would adopt them.

 

[Lionhart]

You mean i,m not the only one!

Mimi..This is an excellant confession that you have chosen to discuss..I also have the same problem..I wake up in that morning and just imagine tickling some of my female friends..I go to work and every female I see all I can think is..Wonder how ticklish she is?Sometime,s i,ll loose sleep over trying to stir up a tickle chat with someone on the chat room..It really got to be a problem for a while..
Although sometimes I wish I had more dreams about tickling..They never seem to come to me..
Anyhow..I began coming out of it when I started getting back into spirituality..Meaning I started reading the Bible,praying,getting things in line with my walk with God..Since then it has still been an obsession..However a tolerable obsession..I rarly loose alot of sleep,or neglect things that are important..And my phone bill is more tolerable since i,m not caling Fetish Hotlines..😱
I am a true believer that if you put God first..All things fall in line behind it..Thanks for the great post Mimi..

 

[TicklingDuo]

Mimi, I understand what you're going thru. I've been at that point also where it can get so consuming. I would go nuts looking for some kind of mention in the media(movies, videos, t.v., etc.). Although I've been less obsessive about it since meeting my wonderful wife, Ann.😎


Drew