"breaking" the ticklee

[ticklovinamy]

Can anyone explain exactly what the feeling of breaking a ticklee is like?
And/or being broken?
This seems to be a popular saying but I am not sure what is desired
by the term.
Thanks,
amy

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

This is my take on the meaning: making the ticklee completely surrender (physically, mentally, emotionally.) Most of the time, when I'm involved in a tickle session with my 'ler there is a safe word which we use. I'm so completely stubborn that I would generally do anything to try not to say this word (and give him the satisfaction of winning!) But when the word does finally come out of my mouth, I consider myself broken.
It's kind of like taming a wild horses...they call the process 'breaking'. I don't think it's meant by most to mean anything harmful, it's just the point when the person being 'tamed' (or in our case, teased..lol) can't go on any longer.

Maggie

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Breaking? What's that? 😛


Oh... and I have a question. Do lers feel just as successful or effective if they do not break their lees?

Live, Laugh and TICKLE
Sunriseticklee

 

[TickledToDeath]

I am with Sunrise on this one.

Breaking?
Never heard of it, as far as I am concerned as the lee.

However I know all about the breaking as the LER!😛

A very nice feeling of achievment.
The thrill of victory(for the ler) the agony of defeat{dafeet}😛 😉
for the LEE!!!!


TTD

 

[Deleted member 2452]

i just don't get the mind set

of wanting to "break" this wonderfull person who is giving of them self so freely. the whole idea of tickling being a contest of wills is forgein to me. tickle should be about sharing, and giving ourselves, to our partner, and to be cherished in return.
steve

 

[venray]

Breaking? What's that? 😛

Come to SBG 2 and you may find out.........


Ven

 

[TickledToDeath]

😛 😛 😛 😉

I was at SBG 1 and they couldn't break fine china with a sledge Hammer!😀 😛

TTD😛

 

[P50]

Re: i just don't get the mind set

Originally posted by areenacto
"...the whole idea of tickling ... is ... about sharing, and giving ourselves, ..."

I wish I could think up stuff like that, then folks would think I'm cool.

Tickling should be a type of sharing between a man and a woman on multiple levels at one time: physical, emotional, and mental. I still say that something happens when a real 'Lee and a real 'Ler engage in the right level of tickling (with the phrase "right level", indicating a state that is never constant from one day [or even a given context within a day] to the next). Exactly what that "something" is, I don't know.

(I can see the U.C.L.A. researches now: connecting bio-feedback strips to the craniums of volunteers who have shaved their heads; then a quiet speaker on the wall says in a monotonic voice, "Ok, you may now begin the tickling." with video cameras rolling while computers record the bio-feedback impulses 50 times per second.)

 

[BellaRisa]

Um, Steve?

of wanting to "break" this wonderfull person who is giving of them self so freely. the whole idea of tickling being a contest of wills is forgein to me. tickle should be about sharing, and giving ourselves, to our partner, and to be cherished in return.
steve

Hi Steve,

With all due respect, please don't tell us what tickling should or shouldn't be, it's different for everyone-hell, I'm even giving the real noncon folks a chance to be heard without judgement over in that thread 🙂.

Furthermore, it *is* about sharing and giving yourself to your partner-I don't allow just anyone to see me that vulnerable; if you've witnessed it, you know that I love and cherish and TRUST you.

Even those of us who adore being tickled have an admitted love/hate relationship with it. Being 'broken' in a contest of wills can be one of THE sexiest and most erotic of experiences-trust me on this one . BigJim and others have mentioned how a lot of girls will continue to be 'sassy' throughout being tickled half to death, it's a feisty-yet-submissive behavior that we don't quite understand but is part of who we are. A lot of us love of having our control temporarily taken away by someone bigger and stronger, as long as we trust them not to disrespect or harm us-that's why those cheesy romance novels with the vikings on the cover still sell so well🙄.

Tied and blindfolded, utterly helpless, wrapped up in his arms while he's tickling and tickling and TICKLING...you feel as though you've been laughing since time began...he's whispering in your ear that all you have to do is give in...knowing that you can stop it anytime you want just by uttering one tiny little word...damn that's mindblowing.

Some girls fear the Ticklemonster. I leave him milk and cookies. And extra rope

Bella

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

Even those of us who adore being tickled have an admitted love/hate relationship with it. Being 'broken' in a contest of wills can be one of THE sexiest and most erotic of experiences-trust me on this one . BigJim and others have mentioned how a lot of girls will continue to be 'sassy' throughout being tickled half to death, it's a feisty-yet-submissive behavior that we don't quite understand but is part of who we are. A lot of us love of having our control temporarily taken away by someone bigger and stronger, as long as we trust them not to disrespect or harm us-that's why those cheesy romance novels with the vikings on the cover still sell so well🙄.

Tied and blindfolded, utterly helpless, wrapped up in his arms while he's tickling and tickling and TICKLING...you feel as though you've been laughing since time began...he's whispering in your ear that all you have to do is give in...knowing that you can stop it anytime you want just by uttering one tiny little word...damn that's mindblowing.

If we were in church, and you were the preacher I'd be standing up to shout a big "AMEN SISTER!!" Very well said Bella.
Oh, and because of your last little descriptive at the end there.....I've got to go take myself a very cold shower now I'm sure you could sell a romance novel or two yourself if you tried 😉

Maggie

 

[Deleted member 2452]

bella i know we agree on few things

but i WILL tell my ideas, and thoughts on this topic. you are free to disagree (like that would be something new).
ok you hit in your example, the thing that leaves me scratching my head. he has you tied, blind folded, and laughing. and he asks if you want it to stop? huh? unless this is at a gathering, party etc., why would you need a safe word? why would he need to ask if you want him to stop? why would you want him to stop?
when two intimate people are in the situation you decribed (i liked it by the way, you made it sound quite appealing) i don't see that as a "contest of wills" type situation. verbal teasing aside, that was a very romantic scene. i wouldn't stop unless i thought she really needed the tickling to stop. and i wouldn't need a safe word to tell me that! actually, a person shouldn't be that kind of possition with a person that didn't know them well. if you need a safe word, you need a different partner! also if you need to "break" someone, or need to be "broken" then i don't think the tickling is what you are really in need of.
steve

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

actually, a person shouldn't be that kind of possition with a person that didn't know them well. if you need a safe word, you need a different partner! also if you need to "break" someone, or need to be "broken" then i don't think the tickling is what you are really in need of. steve

I think you're right Steve, everyone should get to share their opinions....even if you're wrong! LOL...just kiddin'. I do disagree with a couple of points though.
I use a safeword with my husband (and we have been married for over 6 years). I use it in part because he is of the 'vanilla' persuasion and honestly can't understand how I can take so much tickling at a time. When I'm thrashing around screaming things like "STAHAHAHAP!" or "NOOooOOo!" he doesn't know if I really mean it or not (most of the time I don't 😀 ) So, the safeword is put there to help him out and take the guess work out of being the 'ler. It also takes away any of his potential feelings of guilt for tickling me to such an extreme. (because he sees tickling on our level to be torturous...but he still indulges me anyway ...thank God)
I also don't agree that those of us 'lees who enjoy the feeling of being 'broken' have the wrong point of interest. I can see where someone coming from more of a sensual/romantic point of view (like yourself) might miss the reasoning behind why a 'lee might get off of being 'broken' but I can assure you, WE DO! 😀 It might help if you stop looking at 'being broken' as something bad because we 'lees don't look at it like that (at least I don't). Like Bella said before, we ENJOY the battle of wills. It's an extremly intense, and erotic game between the 'lee and the 'ler. I'm not saying that it's the only way I enjoy being tickled. I certainly have my romantic tickling needs too, but the battle of wills (and all of the fiesty fun that goes along with it) is one of my favorites!

Maggie

 

[1golfer]

It's amazing.....

that people actually can agrue over such silliness. "people should do this"--"don't tell us what people should do"--"oh, but i will express my opinion"---jeez...grab a xanax.

 

[BellaRisa]

Re: It's amazing.....

that people actually can agrue over such silliness. "people should do this"--"don't tell us what people should do"--"oh, but i will express my opinion"---jeez...grab a xanax.

Yes, I agree that people shouldn't agrue, damn those agruers! And damn those folks who post in a thread without actually discussing the thread topic!! 😎

Sorry, couldn't resist.
Steve, by all means, express your opinions, you're as valued a poster as any of us! It's just that when someone states how things 'should' be, it sounds definite and closed-minded, as though other ideas are automatically wrong. But I assume that you meant that's how it should be for you personally, not for everyone, and that's very fine🙂

Bella

 

[ticklovinamy]

bella, i love the way you described the "breaking"

bella's description makes sense to me personally.
thanks to all who have replied.

amy

 

[Deleted member 2452]

so much variety

yes bella i was talking about how things are for me, with a little how they should be for others thrown in, lol. but really as i said, i just don't understand the whole breaking the ticklee thing. so after reading what you, and the delightfull maggie have said here, i'll just accept, and leave understanding for another day😀
for me tickling is romantic/sexual, and can also be just fun, w/o the overt sexual turn on. after all we're not animals, we can control ourselves...well once in a while anyway...
i see that for some it is also a game of challenge, and something else i can't find a name for. so, let us all enjoy the tickling for what ever purpose we indulge it in.
steve

 

[1golfer]

word

just wanted to get the last one in.

 

[BellaRisa]

Re: word

just wanted to get the last one in.

Dude, you've managed to get a nonconsensual giggle out of me-you're now one of my heroes 😉

Bella

 

[BigJim]

Re: It's amazing.....

that people actually can agrue over such silliness. "people should do this"--"don't tell us what people should do"--"oh, but i will express my opinion"---jeez...grab a xanax.

If you think it's silly mate, then don't read it. Problem solved and you even get fewer ulcers thrown in for being clever.

 

[BigJim]

Re: i just don't get the mind set

of wanting to "break" this wonderfull person who is giving of them self so freely. the whole idea of tickling being a contest of wills is forgein to me. tickle should be about sharing, and giving ourselves, to our partner, and to be cherished in return.
steve

Depends on what the two people in the relationship want out of it and how their individual feelings run. Different horses for different courses. You and your wife may not like that sort of tickling ruthlessness steve, but some guys thrive on the trip and some ladies go weak at the knees at the very thought of being in the hands of such a ruthless tickler. Sadly, I've never yet met one in r/l but people like Bella and Maggie keep my hopes up that such wonderful "beings of light" do exist somewhere in this be-shitted country.

Tickling should'nt be about anything but what the two people who are doing it want it to be.

 

[Havsoker]

Oh... and I have a question. Do lers feel just as successful or effective if they do not break their lees?

For me the fun is in trying and getting a reaction out of the lee. As a ler and a lee, it is almost disappointing if it ends too soon. 🙂

Hav

 

[njjen3953]

God, how I want to respond to this. I won't though. Seems for me, when I post to a thread like this I either get flamed or hit on.

What I will do is echo Venray and say,

COME TO SBG 2

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9749

Jen

 

[BigJim]

God, how I want to respond to this. I won't though. Seems for me, when I post to a thread like this I either get flamed or hit on.

What I will do is echo Venray and say,

COME TO SBG 2

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9749

Jen

Your participation in a thread like this is always welcome Jen, and especially relavent to in this case. 🙂

 

[Deleted member 2452]

Your participation in a thread like this is always welcome Jen, and especially relavent to in this case. 🙂

i echo what jim says jen. you and i have compared notes often in the past, and i think you have a lot to share with the group. plus you do a wonderfull job explaining your thoughts, and ideas.
steve

 

[njjen3953]

Re: Um, Steve?

it *is* about sharing and giving yourself to your partner-I don't allow just anyone to see me that vulnerable; if you've witnessed it, you know that I love and cherish and TRUST you.

Even those of us who adore being tickled have an admitted love/hate relationship with it. Being 'broken' in a contest of wills can be one of THE sexiest and most erotic of experiences-trust me on this one . BigJim and others have mentioned how a lot of girls will continue to be 'sassy' throughout being tickled half to death, it's a feisty-yet-submissive behavior that we don't quite understand but is part of who we are. A lot of us love of having our control temporarily taken away by someone bigger and stronger, as long as we trust them not to disrespect or harm usBella

Ok. Here I go. I have to agree TOTALLYwith bella on her points above.

1)I would NOT let just anyone get me to the point of being that vulnerable either. That is reserved for my one and only, Pete : and select few who have shown they are trustworthy and respectful over a period of time.

2)I also have that love/hate relationship with being tickled. I actually hate the act, unless it is being done very sensually. It is where the act of being tickled sadistically and unmercifully takes me, that makes me submit to it.

3)In order for me to get to that level of "masochistic euphoria", however, I often need to go to a special place deep in my mind. A place that many of you have heard me talk about as sub space.
Going to sub space takes a huge amount of concentration on my part and understanding and patience on the part of my ler. This is one of the reasons I prefer not to take part in group scenes.

4)As for that sassiness mentioned above. I am the first to admit to being a SAM(Smart Assed Masochist). It is not uncommon for me to be in that highly vulnerable state, only to have me say something like, "So, when are you going to get started?"

5)Finally, the part about giving up our control to another. I am becoming very independent in my day to day life. It is very exciting to have someone else take complete control over my mind, body and spirit for a while. Not that I would ever relinquish that control permanently,but for those few hours during intimacy, there is just nothing I would rather be doing. 😀

Jen