Creepers in the Chat Room

[jk66uk]

Screen shots of bad behavior in chat sent to me will lead to account kills.

The web is an open platform where Identity is fluid and consequences are easily avoided. That means some people will do things they would never consider in real life. It means some people will not be as advertised. It means some people will not even be real.

There is no effective way to weed out such people from the real ones on a fair and easy basis. Kill a name another appears.

Your 'pushy' creeper who PM's women for cyber, then gets angry and insults them in main chat when they refuse to take up his gracious offer of getting him off has run through almost a 100 names in his 7 years here. We kill one, he makes another. Such is the web.

On the other side:

I've seen the gender police hound real females off the site by demanding they prove their XX genetic make up. Yes, they do point out a lot of fake females, in their quests to protect everyone from talking to a fake, but they also stomp the occasional real woman also, and scare her away from the forum and community.

You Can't Know. You can suspect, you can be almost sure, but you can't know for the most part.

SO screen cap bad behavior and I'll end the accounts if it's called for. Then we'll repeat a week or so later with the new name. It's a never ending fight.

Just remember one thing. You are talking to a stranger, via a medium that is very low bandwidth in information capacity. Meaning, all you have is words on a screen. Base your trust on that fact. Build relationships, and as they progress you'll get clear signs of reality or non-reality. Fakes will hedge on providing any proof of themselves, avoid phone or skype interactions. Never send images outside of a one or two off. Real people slowly expand bandwidth of communication. You get pics, you may Cam, you then talk on the phone. Etc.

Some will say "But all that time wasted on a fake!" Well yah. But then you can date a person for a long time before you find out they are a bag of fake under a smooth set of lies. Same here. Interactions are risk. To get the rewards you spend your coin of time for, and take a risk.

It sucks to be trolled. But it's part of the web. We continue on. We don't like it, but we move on.

Myriads

what's happen to you Myriads ? your turn into a pussy
to busy polling female members

 

[thelady]

Hmmmmmm, I'll go ahead and let you address that, Myriads. Good luck with that.

 

[Hardy191973]

Hello Lady,

it is good that finally someone makes a topic about that - though we have to make sure not to care about those creepers too much. As already said before the ignore button is a mighty weapon - and I already talked in the room over the idea too to create a seperate room with a password to keep annoying people out.

I don´t want to see lovely people leaving the room because they are fed up with the hassles of some weird people.

Lady I hope your thread will bring up some ideas and will change something if only a little. You do good work for the room and we need more women like you there...

Greetz from too far away Germany.
Hardy.

 

[thelady]

Thank you, Hardy! I'm not going anywhere. I've met too many wonderful friends here at the TMF especially in the chat room. There will always be creepers/trolls in one form or another. Kurch gave us all the best advice. Don't play their games. Ignore and new rooms will be the best bets. I still like laughing at them!!! Like the person we spoke about the other night, who asked to imagine he was a whale so he could either tickle or be tickled. Yeah, that's gonna happen!!!!

 

[AJ2007]

Sooo it's not acceptable to force yourself rudely on a woman via PM? REALLY??? I'd love to see some screen shots talk about a few good laughs. I'm sorry that you've had a bad experience Lady. Hopefully there's enough good experiences to off set it.

 

[thelady]

AJ2007:Oh hell yeah!!! That would be hilarious! We'd love to hear other's experiences and stories! We should give out prizes! For the goofiest come on line ever!!!!