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Deal breaker or not?
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Well in my last relationship, my girlfriend was not very ticklish... thankfully she did enjoy tickling me. So no, it wasn't a deal breaker...
And a relationship is about a great many things more than getting off on our tickle kink... I can think of more important things that would be deal breakers for me if it were someone I was in love with.
My two cents 🙂
And a relationship is about a great many things more than getting off on our tickle kink... I can think of more important things that would be deal breakers for me if it were someone I was in love with.
My two cents 🙂
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I don't care too much if a guy is ticklish, although it'd be nice.
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Deal breaker for me too...what's the point? It would be like dating a frigid girl who doesn't like sex. It's not like there aren't plenty of ticklish girls out there, most of them are, so why deprive yourself and set up a potentially unsatisfying relationship?
Exactly!
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Doesn't matter to me if a guy is ticklish or not.
I would hope though that if I am with someone they can maybe not hate it.
I would hope though that if I am with someone they can maybe not hate it.
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not a dealbreaker. that would suck though. i don't think i've ever met a girl who was not remotely ticklish. certainly haven't dated one.
Yeah I'd say it's a deal breaker. That's why it's important to find out and discuss these things from the start, before you develop serious feelings, find out your partner isn't ticklish or hates it, then curse the gods for letting you feel this way about a person who doesn't share an important part of who you are. That is teh suck. Like Santa Fe said, there are plenty of people out there, why deprive yourself.
That's the good part of being a "switch"... because at least if they're not ticklish and they don't mind indulging your fetish, they can tickle you. That's fine in my book.... I was even challenged to find a way to make her ticklish.. there were moments, but it certainly wouldn't have done it for me if I was a strict LER.
However, as I said... for me anyway, there are more important things to consider as deal breakers than if one is or isn't into tickling. And relationships are built or should be built on give and take and compromise even sometimes... if you love one another, you will do what it takes to make your lover happy.
Leafs
Hey, when it comes to relationships, I know what I want. The same way every person has a certain set of things that makes them compatible with a member of the opposite sex.
Some people require their potential romantic partner to be of a particular gender.
I require my potential romantic partner to be ticklish and to be, at the very least, willing to satisfy my perverted needs.
You call it shallow. I call it pre-emptive.
Some people require their potential romantic partner to be of a particular gender.
I require my potential romantic partner to be ticklish and to be, at the very least, willing to satisfy my perverted needs.
You call it shallow. I call it pre-emptive.
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As far as being ticklish goes? No, not a deal-breaker.
Enjoying tickling? Honestly; I'm not sure. I mean if the guy just absolutely hated everything to do with it, I might not be that interested. And I don't really see it as being any more different then a guy/girl who prefers a companion in a certain physical context. We just have other "applications" that we apply then other vanilla folks might. So, I don't really feel it's shallow.
Enjoying tickling? Honestly; I'm not sure. I mean if the guy just absolutely hated everything to do with it, I might not be that interested. And I don't really see it as being any more different then a guy/girl who prefers a companion in a certain physical context. We just have other "applications" that we apply then other vanilla folks might. So, I don't really feel it's shallow.
Okay, you wanted it, here it comes:
MY GODS, ARE YOU GUYS SHALLOW!!!
Seriously now: In a German forum, a guy just started a thread. He really has a tickling fetish. He can not have an orgasm without tickling. But still, he stays with his girlfriend who hates being tickled...because he loves her!
Wow, that actually exists! I guess he discovered all the other great things about her!!!
MY GODS, ARE YOU GUYS SHALLOW!!!
Seriously now: In a German forum, a guy just started a thread. He really has a tickling fetish. He can not have an orgasm without tickling. But still, he stays with his girlfriend who hates being tickled...because he loves her!
Wow, that actually exists! I guess he discovered all the other great things about her!!!
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What if that person you love was into it, into playing with your friends, and then everything just stopped? Furthermore, what if that loved one wanted you to stop as well?
Sorry Viper, I didn't mean that as an insult... though you did say to call you shallow, haha! 😉
You're right, all of us have different wants and needs and ideals about what we are looking for in a partner.
For myself, personally, it wouldn't be the be all and end all in a relationship if I was quite happy in other aspects of the partnership. Although I do agree, at least some sort of understanding of our "kink" should be recognized if its going to work.
If that makes sense :S
I read your other thread, so I know what this is all about! 😉
Honestly, it seemed to me like she was into it UNTIL the playing with others started, but that is just me. 🙂
And you know...people change sometimes. Maybe the person just tolerates for a while because he/she feels that he/she isn't able to hold you if he/she doesn't, and then maybe finds that it's not bearable anymore.
You have to decide then what you love more - the person or the preferrence. (Although I do think that staying away from fetish forums and porn completely is extreme. My husband is very jealous, but he would never want me to do that.)
I wouldn't care, so long as it doesn't impact on our own personal relationship.... if she was truly into it, I can't imagine she would just stop such play altogether in the confinds of our own relationship? If it did, I can imagine that would put a strain on things.... but then you would have to explore with her why exactly that was happening and make steps to alleviate whatever is the root of the problem 🙂
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Found myself in a similar situation as far as trying to make a person more ticklish.... and was accused of having an obsessive preoccupation... Well, what do we think a "fetish" is? Did you encounter this Leafs?
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Wow, you too man? Damn i'm sorry to hear that. Certainly feel for you there, brother.
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Or try to get into it for quite some time, then figure out they hate it and relentlessly ridicule you about it when they actually understand the deep undercurrents and hard-wiredness of it all.
The one thing a partner should never do - ridicule you. No matter about what!
I do find it a little weird myself to try and make someone more ticklish though, I have to admit that.
