Do some of us need mental help?

[911]

Hello everyone, I was just thinking I like many of you enjoy the idea of tickle torture and find it sexually appealing so I sometimes think does this make me a sick weirdo? Do any of you ever think this of your self? Are those of us who like tickle torture sadistic? I believe we are but not in a bad way, but then I wonder is there really a good way to be sadistic? I would never break into a women's house and torture her so maybe I'm perfectly sane. I like bondage and S&M but so do a lot of normal harmless people but maybe I could be somehow different from them, I don't know. I guess my question to all is how do u feel about your fetish? Does it bother you? Do u think blending sadism and sexuality is wrong? I just would like to hear your views on this


your friend 911.

 

[Gaz]

No i dont think we need mental help just because some people might see a tickling fetish as "different". There is nothing wrong with having a liking for bondage S & M etc provided that you would only want to do it with a willing participant. I like giving and receiving tickling, with or without bondage but i would only want to do it with a willing female.

 

[taptoematt]

Tickling is, as tickling does. If your intent is to be sadistic and willingly harm someone, then yes, seek help. If it's consentual fun, then everthing's fine.

 

[Redmage]

Hello everyone, I was just thinking I like many of you enjoy the idea of tickle torture and find it sexually appealing so I sometimes think does this make me a sick weirdo? Do any of you ever think this of your self? Are those of us who like tickle torture sadistic? I believe we are but not in a bad way, but then I wonder is there really a good way to be sadistic? I would never break into a women's house and torture her so maybe I'm perfectly sane. I like bondage and S&M but so do a lot of normal harmless people but maybe I could be somehow different from them, I don't know. I guess my question to all is how do u feel about your fetish? Does it bother you? Do u think blending sadism and sexuality is wrong? I just would like to hear your views on this.

There's a reference work called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders that contains the standard criteria used to diagnose mental illness. The latest version is the Fourth Edition (Text Revision), so you'll often see it referenced as DSM or DSM-IV TR.

According to DSM-IV TR the diagnostic criteria for sexual sadism (as a mental disorder) are as follows (both must be met):

A. Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving acts (real, not simulated) in which the psychological or physical suffering (including humiliation) of the victim is sexually exciting to the person.

B. The person has acted on these urges with a nonconsenting person, or the sexual urges or fantasies cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.

The second criterion is common in one form or another to the diagnoses of nearly all mental illnesses. It's sometimes called the "clinical significance clause" and it basically means that in order to qualify as a mental illness the other criteria have to result in some sort of difficulty (either for the patient or those around him), serious enough to warrant the attention of a medical professional.

Or as a psychiatrist friend of mine once said, "If it's not a problem, then its not a problem."

So as long as your interests don't lead you into nonconsensual behavior or cause other serious disruptions in your life, relax. You aren't mentally ill.

 

[steph]

Oh, I'm quite sure there are a lot of people who might classify me as "mentally ill." But. It wouldn't be because of this. 😀
XOXO

 

[milagros317]

Those of us who practice our fetish or fetishes with consenting adults don't need any mental help on that account. 😀

 

[minerva]

Hello everyone, I was just thinking I like many of you enjoy the idea of tickle torture and find it sexually appealing so I sometimes think does this make me a sick weirdo? Do any of you ever think this of your self? Are those of us who like tickle torture sadistic? I believe we are but not in a bad way, but then I wonder is there really a good way to be sadistic? I would never break into a women's house and torture her so maybe I'm perfectly sane. I like bondage and S&M but so do a lot of normal harmless people but maybe I could be somehow different from them, I don't know. I guess my question to all is how do u feel about your fetish? Does it bother you? Do u think blending sadism and sexuality is wrong? I just would like to hear your views on this


your friend 911.

You said yourself, you would never break into a women's house and torture her, so don't you worry at all.
I don't see anything wrong with anything happening between two consenting adults.

 

[NavelTickler75]

Those who let the fetish control them and can not live without, or treat people as objects to get a hard on, might need mental help yes.

People who break into a house and tickle, bondage or not, definately need mental help.

But those who get turned on by it, but limit themselves, and are not consumned by it need no mental help.

 

[Cokecan]

I don't suffer from mental illness, I revel in it.

 

[Cave In]

I love tickling, but do i think about it all the time? No...there are other more important things in my life, and for the vast majority of members on this forum, it is the same for them.

 

[Scouse]

I've often thought about this myself, but deep down I suppose everyone is a little bit "funny".
Look at it this way, at least you aren't into golden showers, or even worse - Van Halen..

 

[cloudgazer2k]

i need all the mental help i can get. but, with the women i have met that let me indulge, the woman i have in my life now, and future possibilities, i see tickling as a form of release more than being a mental dysfunction. but, nothing here i said was new...just kinda repeated what everyone else said. but, in all honesty, i think Navel here put it in better terms.

 

[Hapless Ticklee]

There are plenty of people on these forums who need mental help, or possibly even psychosurgery.

But it's got f*** all to do with tickling.

 

[Cave In]

at least you aren't into golden showers, or even worse - Van Halen..

I like Van Halen.....my god call the nuthouse!!!!

 

[tklgal226]

I actually looked into it once upon a time -- when I was going through my "I can't deal" ("purge") phase -- since there are places that advertise their ability to "cure" you of your fetish.

But - bottom line - it's not worth it. This is going to sound hokey, but this is a big part of ME, and the more I get to know myself, the more important a quality having this fetish really is.

Besides, I can't imagine those places are for real. How can denying yourself something you're hardwired with be healthy? Eventually it's gonna be the coke bottle effect (shake-shake-shake...you get the idea)

As for mental help in OTHER areas....well...that I'll plead the fifth on 😛

 

[love feet]

The idc manual see it as even less of classification today than the DSM-4
the idc is used in Europe

 

[..Glamorous..]

I probably do need mental help... but certainly not for tickling.

 

[Snail Shell]

I probably do need mental help... but certainly not for tickling.

Second.

Snail Shell

 

[Artoo]

This.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Health is health, either mental or physical. Both need looking after.
You don't have to be insane to need a bit of mental help now and then.

 

[Coda]

Things are only good or bad <I>for</I> things, really. If you want a happy marriage with a person who doesn't share your fetish, then having that fetish might not be good <I>for</I> that goal, and most people would advise you to find help in allaying it. But, if you're happy to live as a single person, or a person who has relationships prioritizing fetishes, then it's probably fine.

Or from a societal perspective, having a fetish isn't good <I>for</I> a healthy and safe community if it means that its bearer harms other people. But, if he or she only exercises it where and when it's appropriate, then there's nothing wrong with it.

Fetishes are such interesting and weird anomalies in psychology. They can be stifling, but they're linked to the potential for such incredible enjoyment that it's worth deciding for yourself how you'd like to balance them with the rest of your life.

 

[Rupert]

Alright i already know im crazy before i even joined this site..... Marines made it worse

if anything tickling keeps me sane.
So i'm gonna say no it doesnt bother me nor does beings a sadist bother me.

 

[RavenMoon]

Do I think I need mental health because of my fetishes and paraphilia? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

This is the idea that was beat into me (and not in a fun, yummy way) by past boyfriends. They made me think I was sick and wrong and needed to get help because I liked things a bit differently than they. It took me a long time to come to terms with who I am and the things I desire. There is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I proudly scream "FUCK NORMALITY!"

How do I feel about blending sadism and sexuality? Well, lets see... I am a well trained sadomasochist. I am highly sexual. So I would say I feel pretty darn comfortable and happy with blending sadism and sexuality. In fact, sadism involves sexuality by definition. Sadism is aggressive algolangia (the erotosexual gratification regarding involvement in pain). Pain is highly erotic to me, both giving and receiving. It is very sexual for me. Even when it comes to tickling, those who have been with me know that I respond the best to harder contact. In fact, it has not been a thoroughly satisfying session if I am not reduced to a leopard (little black bruises upon my pale flesh)

Do I think that I need help because I enjoy torturing my own little submissives until they are in tears and begging me for release of one form or another? Nope. I stop if they use their safe word. And they have given me consent to torture their flesh for our mutual sexual gratification.

Redmage summed it up pretty well regarding sadism. It comes down to consent. Without consent, then the acts would be wrong. Without consent, we are no longer playing in the realms of SCC but instead are being abusive. With consent, sexual sadism is a very delicious thing for those who are into it.

The people who tell you that you need to seek mental help for your paraphilias and fetishes, when you have done nothing abusive and only acts with consent, are the ones who need the mental health. They are the hypocrites and not us. We do not lie and deny who we are and what we desire. We find a way to embrace it and live with it safely. They are the ones who push away what they may like and hide behind a veil of "normalicy".

I soo loath the word "normal". Its just not very PC!

 

[Tckleme]

I probably do need mental help... but certainly not for tickling.

Second.

Snail Shell

Third.

 

[Rupert]

Raven ur so bold you make me very very happy to know you

sometimes im in complete awe of your honesty and boldness

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