Do tickling images/videos set unrealistic expectations?

[benr]

I've watched a ton of videos of people getting tickled over my lifetime, and I've always wondered if it's affected the excitement and pleasure that comes with tickling someone in real life. I think it has to do with setting unrealistic expectations, and part of me wishes that I would've saved my first tickling experience for a real-life session with a fellow tickler. Instead, although the sessions I've done have been fun, I feel that they would've been a lot more exciting had I not had any expectations going into them. Has anybody else experienced this? Do you try to avoid images/videos to make real-life tickling more fun?

 

[hcdreader]

Yes I agree with what you say.

I also think that watching so many tickling videos over the years adversely affected some of my previous relationships (as it became a sort of addiction) and I wish I had been able to resist the temptation of watching them as often as I did.

 

[RevyBL]

I feel like people only get unrealistic expectations if you don't have any real experience with tickling. Kind of like how if you watch porn it gives you a false perception of sex. Personally for me I've had better experiences with real life tickling than with the majority of videos, a lot of the women I've tickled whether friend or partner usually were more ticklish or have better reactions than what I would get watching a clip. Although vanilla tickling clips I'd find on Youtube, Dailymotion, Vine, and Myspace back in the day were also pretty satisfying.

 

[ticklishess]

This question varies depending on who you ask. For the most part I believe that they do, since a good portion of clips that surface on this forum and pretty well produced, and feature attractive models engaging in a practice we ourselves derive pleasure from. That being said those factors: attractive models, engaging in the practice of tickling, setting, etc. those are factors you don't have to concern yourself with because they've already been acquired. All that's left for you to do is enjoy the clip for what it is. If life let everything fall into your lap, well that would be some life, but obviously it doesn't work that way.

 

[duderino84]

Well, I'll bite.

In videos I see girls in all sorts of ties going nuts. In relationships I'd say an overwhelming 7/8 (let's just call the remaining 8th "supercharged/unpredictable) are associating any form of bondage with "whips and chains" and the fear is I'll suffocate them with their own laughter (even if I pace out tickling so they enjoy it).

In videos sensitivity is to extremes/sometimes leads people to believe their responses are exaggerated. Actual sessions have been based on a lower "kinky fun" tickling that isn't associated with torture as it is just erotic fun. I've met girls that I haven't been sure if they're ticklish and they're enjoying it on an erotic level vs a "you're killing me" level.

Looks; need I say more?

Basically yes it's a fair bit different and I obviously notice but I don't press any expectations on anybody because I realize content made in the industry is made for maximum intensity. That being said it's shaped my ideas. It's also taught me to diversify my fetishes.

 

[BeautifullyBNT]

Real life will rarely measure up to the fantasies portrayed in videos and movies. Try being a superhero for a day, see how exciting that would be in the real world.

 

[chicago]

I mean, I don't have access to suspension bondage or stocks and x frames, but other than that, what's unrealistic? Besides maybe not being able to tickle a 19 year old model?

 

[duderino84]

some people want the next level experience with bondage.

 

[chicago]

some people want the next level experience with bondage.

Gotcha. I've been wondering about some recently myself. Curious about head immobilization (with a hood tethered to bedframe type deal) and how that might trick ones mind into feeling more helpless.

 

[duderino84]

I thought the encasement shit with full body nylons was kind of hot for a while but I'm still looking to just meet someone who's down with the idea of my stocking or spread-eagle-ing them. maybe if I move to a more city location. I live in too white of an area to pull it off.

 

[FFT32]

Wow, great opening question and one one the better listing of posts I've read in a while.

After much "sole searching" (pun-intended) I actually am on the complete opposite side of the equation. Watching tickling videos, viewing tickling pics and reading tickling related material makes me very excited to tickle in real life and quite honestly enhances my real/in person experience. If anything, I get too excited and have to kinda "talk myself down" if I have a sexy pair of ticklish bare feet inches from my hands, lol.

 

[duderino84]

Ah, that happens to me too. Getting over-excited by my own abstract fetish world to just meet people. I guess that one applies to this thread.

 

[dr_random]

I can see how it can set unrealistic expectations. Having grown up when there wasn’t internet, transitioning to internet, I feel I’ve avoided seeing material that might’ve skewed my perception early on.
While I do enjoy some of the harder, less realistic scenarios. Having experienced tickling in real life, I find myself preferring the more down to earth clips as I grow older.


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[The Listening]

I was never one to confuse reality with the unrealistic and superficial environment from the tickling world. I have no desire to meet up with any model for a session or to acquire a custom clip derived from my sick mind. I know and understand that 85% of tickling material (like most porn) is all hype-job and the lee (or model) is in on the joke. If I'm not mistaken, most producers request their models to sign waivers before participating. With that being said, the entertainment value of a beautiful woman's soles being mercilessly tickled until she's reduced to helpless belly-aching laughter, is enjoyable. As long as the script doesn't deviate from what appears to be a consensual tie-up session, it's fair game. Years ago, I harmlessly tickled many girlfriends or women that I eventually developed a close enough relationship to do so. Very seldom it happened, but once in a while I'd meet a girl who hated being tickled or having her feet touched. One crush (who will forever remain nameless) had some of the most spectacular peds in the world. One day, together at a party, she sat barefoot on the couch, and I went in for the kill. I could barely swipe a couple of fingers across the pads of her toes before she swung her feet away and tucked them into the sofa and wouldn't move the rest of the night. I later asked her about her ultra-sensitive soles and she went on to tell me how much she hated being tickled. I asked her on a scale of 1-10 how ticklish was she and she said, "An 11! So, don't ever touch my feet again!" I've met other women who didn't mind at all indulging in my fetish. But, I never revealed the joy that tickling brought and I never overdid it to the point where it would make any of the victims feel disgusted or uncomfortable.

 

[chicago]

I do like watching videos to get ideas for real life xD

That said, I can see how people view the videos as unrealistic if engaging in legit tickling IRL (versus playful shit with people who have no idea about your fetish) is not an option for them for whatever reason.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

I'm wondering what sort of expectations you mean, too. Willingness to tickle or be tickled? Level of enjoyment? Reactions?

I guess it all depends on how one goes about finding partners with whom to indulge. Obviously, if you're hiring someone and paying them you can't expect too much. But if it's someone you love, even a close friend you enjoy being with, doing you a solid, it should be a lot of fun. Of course, that's assuming all willing participants know what's going to happen and no one is surprised or taken beyond their limits. Even if limits are going to be pushed you need to have that conversation before hand. Like most things, I suppose it's got more to do with how much effort you put into it more than anything else.

Far as bondage goes, I can see expectations being dashed to pieces. Bondage isn't easy, especially when the 'Lee is very ticklish and thrashing. You might buy some restraints only to find them broken and destroyed before you're finished playing. Or, realize you haven't put as much thought into restraint as you thought you did. I have an X-Frame, and stocks, and I've had two women for whom the holes were too big just pull their feet straight out. I had to wrap their ankles after that, it sucked, I felt foolish. However, shit like that can get laughs, and laughter in the bedroom is always fun.

 

[GirlMeetsTickle]

Ehhh..I like to think people for the most part can tell what’s realistic and what’s clearly rehearsed.

 

[duderino84]

Hey Irving, how about double stocking? Like doing a set of stocks at the ankles and wrists? Too unrealistic? Or just realistic enough? Lol. I mean, it might be less restrictive because a Lee can potentially roll, no?

 

[Libertine]

I realize I've posted this before, but one rarely hears from the models themselves.

So (and I think I'll call it quits on reposts for this one) here is My Dear Wife, who's done several types of softcore FapFilms (OK, I've done the same kind of work too...) writing about her own take on the subject.

Hope you find it illuminating.

A Real Live Model Reveals Why Filming's Not Sexy In The Least-Long Post With TMI

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...ng-s-Not-Sexy-In-The-Least-Long-Post-With-TMI

 

[ISUmark]

I think part of the reason some people might feel this way also is that their real life LEE reacts differently then the professional models in the videos. This is also why you have a lot of people around claiming to be expert "fake spotters." Im not saying models fake it(although we would be fools to think nobody didn't) but some might definitely ham up their reactions a little bit. So when someone watches vids and then goes to real life, they may feel slighted because their lee isn't exploding with laughter at the slightest touch.

 

[sadi]

From my naive point of view it’s provided me with a slew of imagination material, but leaves me feeling pretty inept when it comes to anything in real life. For all my talk (and there’s a lot of it!) I don’t think I can live up to even the text persona I’ve created. Not to mention any of the real life encounter parts of how I’d respond.
Truthful or not, I don’t know how it affects me, other than making me already think I’m disappointing someone. And that they’re lying in response, faking it, or that I’m hurting them by going too far in real life.

 

[siamese dream]

I can't say I had really watched very many videos before I had my first sessions... My first serious boyfriend was very willing to indulge me, I almost exclusively read tickling stories on the tmf rather than watched videos, so by the time I was in my early 20s, I was probably unusual in that I had watched maybe a handful of video clips, but had done dozens of sessions with that boyfriend, and later had 2 sessions with guys from the tmf (which paled in comparison to the ones with the boyfriend, who didn't even have this fetish oddly enough)...and MUCH later had more sessions with another tmf guy, thankfully that were fantastic this time.

I have watched more videos in the last year than ever in my life honestly... And one thing the ones I really like the best all seem to have in common is:. They're OLD. And playful, and silly... They have less of a "hardcore torture!!" vibe to them than videos seem to typically have that are newer... Maybe because that's just what sells better, idk. I can enjoy some pretty sadistic fiction stories here...but seeing a real person who looks like they are suffering, and not in a fun or sexy way, is different.... I don't have to worry about empathy and ethics for fictional characters; I can't shut off the empathy and disgust I feel seeing a real person who looks like they're in agony.

 

[WildLaughter]

Short answer for me is yes.
Watching videos and looking at images since discovering there was such content on the internet gave me the impression and expectation that meeting someone who would be open to trying this tickling thing would not be very difficult.

I still can't believe how wrong I was.