Do You Really and Truly Want It To Stop

[gitcheycoocoo]

When you are being tickled---and you say STOP...do you really want it to stop?
This is for those without a safeword that would make it stop asap.

 

[LadyInternet]

Ideally common sense would rule here. There are times when "stop" is playful and contradictory. The lee wants you to keep going. But sometimes "stop" seriously means stop, and this is no longer consensual. But common sense is probably asking too much.

So get a safeword to clear up the ambiguity. Or you're going to tickle rape someone. And not in the joking fun way. That's not going to be a good time for you or your lee.

 

[m/m_ticklee]

I would say if you don't have a safeword yet and they say "stop!" then that's a good time to stop and agree on a safeword.

Always play it safe.

 

[rhiannon]

That's the reason why there is a safeword - to use when it really NEEDS to stop.

 

[Aphion]

I just think you have to know how to distinguish between 'stop' as in 'It tickles but I like it', and 'STOP' as in 'it tickles and I really can't stand it'.

Just like Rhiannon said above, that's why safewords exist!

 

[milagros317]

Nope. That's why I do use a safeword. 😀

 

[Brattysub5]

"Stop" really is a contradictory term as a lee! At least it is for me! So I would prefer a safe word so there is no confusion!!

 

[FLBowler]

I would never start a session without a safewrd for safety and respect to my lee, if I allow myself to be a lee, I'd want the same.

 

[rhiannon]

Personally I use a safe word more for my ler's sake than my own. I know he wouldn't be able to relax if he had to be wondering constantly if he is going too far or not.

 

[TB1024]

I've never been in that situation before, but I'd assume that if you paid attention to a lee's facial expression, body movements, and kept a safe word, those would be sufficient signals that let u know u should give them a break.

 

[Mane'o]

For some, perhaps many, part of the fun and the turn-on with tickling is the lee squirming and saying (yelling or shrieking) stop! whlie giggling and laughing and struggling for breath and part of her really is sincere but part of her also wants the tickling to continue. So the safe word is essential. Early on in our relationship my ticklish girl ( who became my ticklish wife ) admitted to me, blushing as she said it, that when she said stop she didn't really mean stop. And safe word became an integral part of our intimate play.

 

[daturaskiss]

I won't play or be played with unless there is a safeword, first off. It's a no-brainer if you respect your partner.

And, with that safeword intact, I am free to yell and protest, scream "stop!!!", say I hate it, generally surrender to the sensations. My 'ler can take pleasure in it and relax without having to analyze my tone and determine if I'm seriously in distress or just enjoying my masochism. They can push me farther and I don't have to watch my reactions, I can just be blissfully in agony.

 

[Maestro1874]

Yeah, I'm on the safeword bandwagon here.

 

[realista_magica]

Hahaha not really, is just something i can't stop saying. But nah, I don't mean it.

 

[clean_kitchen]

Not usually, no.

//CK