Do You Tell People Your Age?

[Mitchell]

I'm placing this question in the main forum because of something that happened today, and I also wanted to ask a larger question.

First, yes, I'm 43. No fib there. My bday is January 23, 1970, and I had my 43rd bday on Wednesday.

The reason I ask is this: In addition to my biz, I'm going to be looklng for a part time job, and when my dad and I were discussing it, he said something like "You dont have to put your age on your resume, or the year you graduated college".

Everyone I know knows how old I am. When I met the attorney I'm going to be working on my business with, he asked me my age, and I told him I was 42, which I was at the time, because it was before Jan 23.

I probably shouldnt post this, but it really doesnt matter now.

I didnt know my mom;'s real age until 1996. I knew she was born Jan 19, but she told both my dad and me that it was 1940, not 1938. My grandfather, in probably the only dishonest thing he ever did, doctored her birth cert to say 1940, because my mom was afraid my dad wouldnt want to be with her if he knew she was born in 1938. His bday is 10-9-40, and she was sensitive about the whole thing of her being three years older than him. I didnt tell him until last year after we found out about the brain cancer, and he was not happy that she had not told the truth.

Another goal I have is to start dating this year. Yes, I know I've shunned companionship, but lately I'm beginning to feel better. Even if I do find someone in the next year or so, I couldnt see lying about my age. Its like: I was born in 1970, deal with it. If you dont like that, we shouldnt be together.

So thats the question: Age. Do people know how old you are, or dont you discuss it?

 

[Bizkit]

I'm a little younger so telling folks my age doesn't bother me much. I would think that lying about your age when starting a relationship in most cases probably isn't a good idea. People react to things differently and even if you hook up with someone you like and that you're compatible with, that relationship may very well be torpedoed once, and if, they find out you've lied to them.

Lies generally have a way of slapping you in the back of the head at some point so it's best to steer clear from them and walk the straight line. At least that's what I've learned and in reality it's a much easier, more balanced way to live.

 

[milagros317]

Yes. I'm 62. I will be 63 on March 17, 2013.

 

[Gothika]

yep have no problem with it

 

[chicago]

I tell people how old i am, it aint a big deal, but I dunno how much longer Ill be doin that. Maybe Ill stay 25 for a while.

 

[paracarl44]

Yes. I'm 62. I will be 63 on March 17, 2013.

^😀^


Some people yes, and some people no.

 

[Bothersome]

I'm twenty. I'm still young enough that people can usually guess my age pretty accurately. It makes little difference if I do or don't.

 

[Mitchell]

Okay, so the consensus is no lying about age.

I have two aunts, as I posted before. One aunt is 71 and married to a guy whose 60. I dont think she told him immediately, but eventually she did.

The other aunt just turned 65. She's living with a guy, but not married to him. I think they are more "friends", but who knows. She claims that she hasnt told him her age.

The funny thing is: When I was very little, my maternal grandfather supposedly told me everyone's age in that side of the family, including his and my grandmother's. Such is why I was shocked when my mom told me her real age in 1996. I personally dont understand why she never told my dad her real age after they were married, but it doesnt change how I feel about her.

I agree with the people who say lying about age to a partner isnt good. I'm not going to do that. As I said before, if someone doesnt like that I'm 43, 44, whatever, they shouldnt be with me. Everyone I know says I dont look 43. Hopefully, even if I find a girl who is somewhat younger, she will love me for me, and my age wont be an issue.

 

[Bugman]

Sure, why not? I turned 58 a few weeks ago. Age really is just a number. Some people (I've known a few) seem "old" in their 20's because they see no joy, no wonder or beauty in life itself or in the world around them. That's very sad I think.

 

[Tickleeteenuk]

I'm 23 and I don't think I will ever lie about my age

 

[PhilipRJ_UK]

Well I've got nothing to hide, age-wise. If people don't, or won't accept your age, that's something they'll just have to deal with.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm just climbing onto the rooftop to shout 'I AM TWENTY-THREE YEARS OF AGE'

 

[GQguy]

I don't lie about my age...but I will admit....I am a bit self conscious about it. I'm 30....I don't look 30....I don't feel 30. When i tell people i'm 30 I usually get some sort of big reaction so I don't advertise it too much. Won't ever lie about it though. If one lies about their age it's pretty safe to assume that they'll lie about anything.

 

[unit5610]

I'm 52 and have no problem telling anyone my age.

 

[Mitchell]

Thats cool about you guys not lying about their age.

GQ, what you're saying is a generalization that a person who lies about their age would lie about anything. My mom was the most honest person I knew, and yet I didnt know her age. On the other hand, I know my father's age, but not other important things about him that other children know about their parents,, which I wont get into. Telling someone one's age doesnt automatically make them an honest person, and not telling age doesnt make someone dishonest.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I don't lie about my age...but I will admit....I am a bit self conscious about it. I'm 30....I don't look 30....I don't feel 30. When i tell people i'm 30 I usually get some sort of big reaction so I don't advertise it too much. Won't ever lie about it though. If one lies about their age it's pretty safe to assume that they'll lie about anything.

Just like GQguy, I am also thirty. And just like all other posters here, I have no problems with open disclosure of my age. People who like to keep it very secretive, probably has some insecurity issues.

 

[iloveddub]

I'm very upfront about my age. I'm 37. It's no secret. I prefer guys in my age range, so I put it out as a heads up. 🙂

 

[The Last Laugh]

While I can't honestly say I'm thrilled about having recently turned 40 (physically I feel like 50, but mentally I still feel like 25), I see no reason to lie about my age. I've no clue why some people do. It seems so insecure and pointless to me.

 

[Gothika]

Sure, why not? I turned 58 a few weeks ago. Age really is just a number. Some people (I've known a few) seem "old" in their 20's because they see no joy, no wonder or beauty in life itself or in the world around them. That's very sad I think.

Well happy belated birthday my friend ...I always thought u were like 25 😛



im a young/old 33

 

[Mitchell]

Last Laugh, I can relate to how you feel. I was pretty upset on my 40th bday also.

I dont look 43. Many people who find out my age, tell me that I look.. mid 30s. I dont sit in the sun, so I have no wrinkles, and I still have most of my hair, except for slight recession.

 

[JoePTickle]

Good points. My FetLife profile's had it, so just updated my profile here too. Age, photo, and post contents ought to give a pretty well-rounded understanding.

 

[tickledorange]

I'm almost 30, so I just say 30. Twenty-nine is such a long word.

 

[PhilipRJ_UK]

Just as a matter of interest, are most of us buying into the old phrase of 'Age is just a number'?

 

[Mane'o]

Just as a matter of interest, are most of us buying into the old phrase of 'Age is just a number'?

I think age is both "just a number" and a reality. As the numbers get higher some things are less likely. The 50 year old is not a likely candidate for the NFL draft.

On the other hand it is just a number and there are 70 year olds more active than some 30 year olds.

Attention to lifestyle and medical advances are extending the average lifespan.

Some are sensitive about revealing their age for a variety of reasons. I'm 28 years older than my wife (she is 33-do the math) and we are often mistaken for dad and daughter. At which point I give her a tickle and a kiss and then people just think I'm a dirty old man.

So age is both a state of mind and a physical reality.

 

[Bothersome]

Just as a matter of interest, are most of us buying into the old phrase of 'Age is just a number'?

I certainly don't.

If it were just a number, we wouldn't keep track of it. I find that similar to saying, 'my blood pressure is just a number.'

 

[Brock Samson]

Sure, why not. I'm 28, and have had a pretty interesting life, to put it nicely. But I have to disagree. I see age as just being a number in most respects. Your experiences make you who you are. You're age plays a physical part, but what you go through, what you experience, makes up the mental part.