Does your tickling fetish cause problems in real-life relationships?

[mikeytheman921]

I'm thinking about trying to get over my tickling fetish. I think my obsession with tickling is preventing me from meeting women who otherwise might be able to make me happy. I don't know that i will ever get over it completely, but i might try to get interested in more mainstream fetishes. It is hard enough to find a woman with mutual compatibility and attraction to begin with... trying to find someone who is into tickling makes it 100 times harder. Let's face it, a lot of people hate tickling! It's not quite so bad in my case, because i'm more of a Lee then a Ler... most people don't really MIND tickling someone else, but if it's not their fetish, they are going to be more or less indifferent, rather than really enjoying it.

How have you dealt with your fetish in terms of real-life relationships? Have you gone out of your way to find people into tickling? Or have you found a compatible partner first, and then tried to get them interested in tickling? Or have you just decided to limit your fetish to video clips, and not tried to fulfill it in real life?

Thanks for your thoughts!

 

[scorpionldr]

generally I tried meeting people into tickling. When that didn't work I tried dating "vanilla style". well, that was one girl and one girl only. she was cold-fish personality and I just asked myself "what the **** am I here for?" I checked if she didnt' mind being tickled; didn't work out. I think you just have to meet a girl that's into you personally.

 

[shygirl08]

I've never dated someone with the same fetish, and once I've shared with them the extent of my enjoyment... no, it's still not their fetish, but they are far from indifferent about it. Finding someone that's interested in you will, at least in my experience, lead them to want to do things to you that pleasure you.. and vice versa. You shouldn't have to give it up.. especially if you're a 'lee! 🙂

 

[Mane'o]

Don't give up and it will happen. I have had a lifetime of positive relationships that included tickling.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

It has hurt a couple of relationships but i made a mistake in doing that and wont do it again

 

[alixandrya]

I understand where you're coming from, but you should never give up on something that makes you happy. I tried, and I was miserable. it took me a year and a half to share my fetish with my girlfriend, and it was still another 6 months before she accepted me as I was. but i didn't meet her here, and didn't tickler her much because it made her upset. but once she saw that I wasn't going to hurt her, torture her like crazy, and that I actually knew when to stop, she was more open to it. I get little sessions here and there, yet it's better than nothing at all. and once you do meet a lovely lady, show her that having a tickle fetish, a rather tame and innocent one, can be wayyyyy more fun that mucophilia, a fetish for mucus.... (it exists, look it up)

 

[Catgirl42]

So far it has not been a problem in my real-life relationships.

 

[jonny86]

I didn't meet my ex-gf on this site or any site like it. She was entirely vanilla. Despite that, was practically giddy about indulging me in my fetishes. You're just finding bad people to be honest (in this department, at least). There are girls out there who simply refuse to indulge their partners in something they aren't interested in, there are some who will be indifferent, and there are some that will be happy to do it. It's just another part of finding someone to be with. That's a qualification you should have just as if want to know whether or not a girl wants marriage, whether she wants children, how devoted she is to a career, etc etc (all, of course, with varying degrees of importance). There are girls out there that will indulge you, though, and it will all be part of the whole adventure of finding someone you love. Maybe you just can't accept it and maybe you'll end up alone forever. Maybe you'll force yourself to give up an important aspect of who you are and find someone. Is the trade off worth it? It's up to you.

 

[Cif]

A person who fails to accept you for the person you truly are is not the person who is going to make you truly happy.

Rather than getting over your fetish you need to learn to get on with your fetish. There will be people who jive and those who disagree, but you'll be surprised by how many people aren't quite as bothered about it as your anxiety may make you believe.

 

[skyaurua1]

I've been there. Most relationships usually ended badly as soon as I tried to tickle my b/f's I at last I found someone who loves to tickle me. Being a switch helps but I still get in trouble when I try to tickle him.

 

[mustang]

The biggest problem with having a foot tickling fetish is that those who have this fetish think that it is weirder than it really is. It all goes back to having confidence. If you think that it is weird, so will the girls that you want to tickle. If you act like it is no big deal, the girls will tend to feel the same. I have only dated straight women all my life and tickled the feet of just about all of them. I indulged in foot sex with all of my long term girlfriends. If the girls like you and you don't come across as a weirdo most will go along with your fetish.

 

[Toptickler]

It has never been a blemish on any of my relationships. In fact, all have given in, in one way or another, but it would be something different i suppose to actually meet someone who seeks it as much as i do. I can however say that i have broken up with women who have NOT been into it at all, because in the end i know i will lose interest. Also, it does seem difficult to find someone by mutual fetish FIRST then see if there's a mutual interest to date. Good luck and best wishes though.

 

[maniactickler]

I hate this fetish. i will die single.

 

[JoePTickle]

I found a compatible partner first, then let them know about my tickling.

 

[PhoenixRising]

I think it did for one relationship. She sort of freaked out realizing how much I was into it. I don't know why she freaked out. All I did was mention "safe word".