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Ever been "outed?"

mpath....

you bring up a good point... it had never even crossed my mind that an ex could use that information against me, but if one ever did, I would take it as a huge slap in the face and a declaration of war.....one cannot be in a relationship without both learning and divulging very personal information of all sorts...... for either memeber of that relationship to use those kinds of secrets after a breakup as a weapon to hurt is just about the most horrible and childish thing I can think of..... so I'm sure it probably happens alot LOL.

anyway, these are the risks we take by letting people into our lives.... is it worth it? I think so, embarrassment or not.
 
LOL MadKalnod! That's straight out of some wacky sitcom or teen sex comedy, ain't it? :blaugh:

Mimi - good lord, I would have been mortified. There's just some things you don't want your parents to know, no matter how cool they'd be with it. Fortunately, my parents take the approach of not wanting to know either, so I don't have worry about snooping . . . if they did, though, I'd probably have to move to the outer edges of Saturn.

With regards to friends' knowing . . I'm a bit taken by how cool the few people I've confided in have been about it. They don't even consider it weird by "weird-sexual-things" standards. It's sort of liberating not having to hide it from the world.
 
Mimi:

Sounds like you handled that situation well, but that was a major invasion of privacy by your parents. Even if they did invade your privacy, there was still no reason for them to then bring it up. They have just kept quiet once they satisfied themselves that you weren't doing something dangerous. You don't sound upset, but you have a right to be.
 
Slappy McGee,

Actually, what I meant to say is what MadKalnod mentioned regarding people finding my interest in feet and tickling a little too fascinating and unique. Hence, they bring it up in the middle of a normal conversation as something worth discussing. It is never in any sexual terms.

That's why it takes me off guard. We could be talking about the latest mission to Mars and then she would bring it up like,

"Oh, did you know that he likes feet?"

"And my feet are not even that cute."

"So and so feet are more attractive than mine."

"Do you like anybody's feet, or are you selective?"

It is sometimes amusing because they look like they have genuine interest in the matter, but sometimes I think they find it too wierd and bring it up just to see how I react...

In any case, it is never around anything sexual or as a weapon to attack me with. That would be bad and an invitation to war, as you put it. So far, it has always been OK.

Actually, I just remembered one instance at work. She was of German background (if that makes any difference) and had a very stuck up personality. She had somewhat attractive feet, but she was always wearing open shoes and without socks or stockings. Too much of an invitation...

We were never "close" at work, but we had interacted in many occasions regarding some updates to documentation. One day, we had been working on a project for a while and had gotten kind of "close". You know, kidding with each other and stuff. (Note that she is about 10 years older than me, married and with children. Thus, we were not getting romantic in any way. We were just getting friendly.)

Anyway, the conversation about men interested in feet came up several times during our long interaction. Nothing much. I just wanted to find out her position in the matter. She let me know that she did not care much about feet and that she thought her feet were not attractive.

She was playing with her shoe a lot and in one instance you could see her sole. At that instance, my pencil feel off to the ground (surprise!?) and I bent down to grab it. When I was down I could see her sole up close and personal, so I decided to run my finger on it for a quick tickle.

She jumped and moved away and looked at me surprised. Then she let me know that she did not like when people touched her feet. We discussed a little longer about the subject. I wanted to find out if it was based on some experience or if it was just that she did not like it. It turns out that it was because she did not think her feet were attractive and she did not feel comfortable with other people looking at or playing with them.

The conversation ended and we kept working on whatever we were doing. We saw several times during the week in our normal interaction pattern,

"Hey, how are you doing?"

"Fine, and you?"

"Fine, thanks."

One day, we are together again and there was another female co-worker. When she greeted me she said,

"Hi, here is the guy who likes feet?"

The other girl was like,

"What do you mean?"

and then she kept going,

"Oh, yeah. He likes women's feet."

I kept my cool, but I was a little petrified. It was off the blue and I did not know how to respond. Fortunately, the other girl did not think much about it and quickly dismissed the point.

Anyway, this woman used any pretext to bring it up with other female co-workers. I am pretty sure she was doing it on purpose to embarrass me. However, I was already prepared. The next time she said something, I responded,

"Yes, and you are the woman who does not like feet. I guess we keep the balance."

and the next time,

"Well, other men like breasts and butts. I just happen to like feet."

and the next time,

"Oh yeah, and I give an excellent foot massage. You should tell me when you need one."

and the last time,

"Yeap, I am just fascinated by them. They support the entire body for the whole day and people do not pay attention to them. Did you know that most pains in your body and directly or indirectly related to your feet? You should visit a podiatrist, you would be surprised with what you would learn. Also, you could try a session with a foot reflexologist. I am a licensed masseur and foot reflexologist. I could give you a session free of charge. I also know a line of products that would make you feel like walking in the clouds. They would feel so soft that your socks would tickle the soles of your feet while you walk."

Needless to say, that was the last time she brought it up. I guess that since that time, I am more comfortable with my foot fetish. However, I still get cought off guard some times.

Thanks for reading.

Bye,

Knight Tickler
 
Never been outted. I clued some friends, and my immediate family, some time ago. Found that they didn't really have any issue with it at all.

Some of the friends are workmates, too, but they're out to me, so it ain't a big deal.

dvnc
 
damn! I gotta say.....haven't the rest of you figured out how to delete things from your history file yet? god damn.
 
out and about

When I was a kid, a bitter ex-girlfriend made a comment in front of a group of people that was kind of embarrassing. She was steaming about my prom date, and said something like "Well, I'm sure she'll just show you her feet and you'll be in love with her." The other folks around us, though, didn't register any reaction, maybe because my ex was obviously bitter and therefore it was an awkward moment for all. I responded with a bonehead "What do you mean?" I may as well have said a "Duhhhh..." before it, it was such a numbskull, badly-poker-faced response.

Aside from that, no real outtings from others. Through the last 4 years, though, I've begun outting myself more and more. After my first Tickle Gathering (at the home of the illustrious DeViaNCy) my courage to out myself grew lionhearted. Before then I would just tell girls that I was heavily dating. But after that momentous occaision for me up in the San Jose area, I began telling people whom I considered good friends, guys and gals.

I want to tell y'all something, it feels great to be out about it. And NOBODY I've encountered thinks it's too weird! It's tickling! Whitney Houston does that song about it, "The Greatest Fetish of All," doesn't she? Well, she ain't lying.

It's relaxing to be out. The latest girl in my life is getting her doctorate in psychology, and she knows all about it. She does not have the fetish, and I told her BEFORE we ever got romantic.

I've had two girls who don't have the fetish tell me they're envious of it, that they want a cool fetish. And one of them later told me she thought she was developing it. (In fact, this one just called me recently. We live a distance away from each other -- you'd think there was an ocean between the valley and Hollywood they way we treat it -- and haven't seen each other in over a year. She said "Oh, Johnny, I'm so busy getting my business off the ground, but I just want to drive out and see you and get my feet tickled.") (Why she called me Johnny I don't know. She's loco.)

Be out about it because it's balancing for you, but don't share too much with the wrong people. Nobody at my current job knows, but that's because they shouldn't, it's not proper. My friends, they all know now. Some roll their eyes, some smile about it. And I get to be me.

Tickling and Loving,
Johnny Boomtown
 
"out" with"out" telling....

I have never "outed" myself (nor has anyone outed me)to anyone outside this community, except for one of my sisters (and she GETS it!)

But what's really really weird to me is that since I've started relaxing within myself about "this tickling thing" (as someone once called it when talking to me), strange things have been happening...

Once in a sports bar (kind of appropriate, in a way, I guess)I was just sitting at the bar, not talking to anyone, watching a basketball game...a guy came up behind me & goosed my ribs, which of course caused me to jump! He laughed & said "You just looked like you needed that!" and walked out the front door!

Tonight, in the same sports bar, a gentleman sat down next to me and in the course of conversation managed to ask me if I've ever had my toes sucked.

Now...if I were NOT bent this way, would I have had these two guys arrested? Mayyyybe

Apparently, I'm "OUT" without even trying to be!!! LOL

Kimmie :angel:
 
Out in the open.

Right on, Boomtown. It does feel better not having to be so secretive. I just reunited with an old flame who, while not really being into the tickling scene per se, is open minded enough not to think it weird. She lets me indulge in a bit of tickle play and totally enjoys it. It's not the kind of thing she's used to, but I think she'll come around. At least we both feel comfortable talking about such things. KEEP IT REAL, Y'ALL!
 
I have had gf and my wife find mags and videos...the gf kind of took it in stride...the wife took more work! lol!

I've only acutally spoken the fact that I have afoot fetish and a thing for tickling )both sexually and nonsexually) to two people: My wife and a good female friend of mine...the latter finding out while we were chatting one night...I just opened up and figured what the hey?

Lately I've found that while I do not tell people per se I will join in on a conversation about tickling or feet when it is brought up instead of turning red and avoiding the whole thing!

I'm sure many ex's knew I had a thing for tickling them and some had a thing for tickling me and others...I've always felt best to leave it unspoken, same as if I was interested in someone's breasts..really none of anyone's business.

BTW, I also found it easier to say I was a leg man...then I could look at legs/ankles/feet without drawing suspicion from my "normal" friends.

~ toyou
 
Recently "outed" myself....

I recently "outed" myself to my girlfriend and I feel GREAT! It was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders.
It's all rather funny. We were in bed (just talking until we fell asleep) and I decided I was going to tell her of my love of tickling. I hesitated a bit, after all I didn't know how to start, so she knew it was something serious (to me at least). When I finally gave myself a swift mental kick to the @$$ and told her, she seemed relieved. Her EXACT words were "Oh, that's it?"
It seems she was afraid that I was going to literally "out" myself. Years ago, her father left her mother for another man and she's always had some fear that something similar could/would happen to her!
After a good laugh and assurances that I am strictly hetero, she took it all in stride and just asked some questions about it. I answered them and the only thing she thought was odd was that models in tickle videoes are not (always) naked. Go figure.
She hates to be tickled although she's begun doing stuff like putting her feet on my lap while we are watching T.V. and letting me "sneak" in tickles. I just give her that shrug like "hey, what do you expect...."
I have to go now, she told me that tonight she's going to tie me up and tickle me for awhile! Soon, very soon, it will be my turn...
 
Tell me how it goes Sandrock74, everything she says and acts...please😛
What exactly were her responses when she asked questions or when you told her.....I am soo close to telling someone....:wow: ....I just need the right timing and words.....:wow: 😱
 
Hope this helps...

To answer your questions 'Life, in my personal experiences, there's rarely the "right timing". Just tell the other person and be done with it! Of course I prefer to be head on and not screw around with this stuff anymore. I think all my friends know by now anyway, so no sense in hiding. I figured I wanted her to know (for my own personal reasons🙂) and before a friend could "accidently" say something.
As for her responses, she took it all in stride. Like I said, the only thing she didn't get was the general lack of nudity in tickling videoes. I guess she was trying to equate them to pornos or something.
Here's the important thing to remember, it's better for your signifigant other to hear it from you as opposed to them finding out some other way. That way you are available for questions and answers. She didn't scream and call me a freak before running away. She didn't break up with me. The world didn't come to an end.
It was nice to talk about it with someone and I now have no secrets from her. I've always felt like a superhero with a secret identity and another life that I had to protect and now I'm just your average shmoe.
I hope some of this rambling helps! It may be difficult but just tell yourself what I kept repeating to myself..."I know I'm not alone." The other 3,000+ members of this forum attest to that!
I hope everything goes well for you! Keep in touch and let me know how things go!
 
Yup. Its Happened

Well... To start, Ive found out that mentioning feet around certain people is an automatic sickness. "You like feet?" (Followed up by several different "unique" remarks) It wasn't much of a big deal, but i get the little typical smart ass comments by people about it. Its not really an embarrasment, more like an annoyance.

Makes ya feel like :sowrong: sometimes dont it.
 
I totally agree with you Sandrock74, thats exactly what goes on in my head, but........"easier said than done", if you know what I mean. 😛 😛 😛 😀
 
hmmmm...

I think with tickling, it is easier done than said....

by that I mean I feel no real need to explain my fetish, I simply let my actions speak for themselves, and I think most people figure it out after a while 🙂 at least on some level, and usually feel no need to verbalize anything about it, they either show that they enjoy it or they don't, merely by reaction....
 
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