Every ticklephilles's dream, or my "what do I do"

[Aachen1983]

As most people know, I don't like bondage and don't have a tickle fetish (I do like feet and legs though). My fiance has a foot fetish (no joke) and wants to be tied up and tickled, seeing how what happened a few hours ago.

Her left foot got stuck betwwen the matress on the bed and the little hole in between the post on the end of the bed. I decided to have some fun and tickled her for about 45 seconds. She laughed and tried to swat my hand away before just giving in and taking it. Well, after I helped her loose, she pounced me. Turns out, it turns her on like that. She decided that she wants to be tied up and tickled for a while. Well.....

Do I fulfill her fantasy, or do I not due to my aversion to bondage. I am asking for help from the married men on here, as well as some of the married ladies. As you know, she isn't just some main squeeze or girlfriend, I am marrying this woman. This can affect a great faucet of the marriage. Any help would be accepted. Thanks guys.

 

[jmedic20]

Sometimes you have to do things for your partner that just don't turn you on. Compramise is one of the things you do to have a successful marriage. I would give it a try. Since youre not a fan of bondage try doing some very light ropework.

If you have a serious issue that has made you anti bondage then you need to talk to her and explain your position. Perhaps instead of tying her you could wrap her up in a blanket and work her feet over. Anyway, talk to her. Find out what she wants and do your best to give it to her. Then, if you don't mind, send her over to my house so she can straighten out my wife.

 

[mabus]

Of course! But this is coming from me...

If it bothers you so much that you can't stand it...maybe then don't do it. How many people would be bothered that much - maybe highly religious judgemental people, or just plain judgemental stick in the muds.

There's something hopefully you can one day understand - everyone wants to be accepted and feel "normal," especially by their significant other. The goal of everyone here is to find someone who shares their passion, and therefore feel completely accepted and content with themselves. For example, a guy has a pantyhose tickling fetish, and meets a girl who is crazy about him - who loves wearing pantyhose, and is turned on by being tickled - then, they probably will live happily ever after. They will be happier than most couples, and they will be happy with themselves.

It could work out that a ticklephile meets a non-ticklephile, obviously. The chances of the above scenario happening in the real world is possible, but rare. What usually happens is that we meet someone who either tolerates our fetish, or doesn't, but puts up with us anyway.

-and there's an ever-present, subconscience and conscience nagging, unsatisfied feeling, like "God, I wish she'd accept me," "I wish she'd be into tickling..." You start to feel unwanted, like you're in high school again, trying to hide any differences in order to fit in. Always dreaming of "something better..."

Now, Aachen1983, if she starts to feel that way, you're looking at trouble down the road. If she is made to feel "wierd," that will put a damper on her love for sure. She may love you, but probably won't get you roses as often as she'd like, or whatever little treats lovers get or do for each other if she made to feel less than perfect. She may hold it in, not say anything to offend you, keep her disappointment to herself. But you can bet it will surface later on down the line, on many, many occasions. She'll never say why she's mad, she'll just get angry over the dishes, or whatever. Or, she may always have an eye open for "Mr. Right," the guy who will indulge her fantasies. She may never find him, but oh boy if she does, more trouble...

I'd tickle her and just enjoy it, maybe you'll start to be turned on by giving her pleasure. Or find some way you can enjoy it with her, do you like bare feet, pantyhose feet, her in different outfits? Just tell her, "Yeah, I'll tickle you, but let's role play," or something, and put her in an outfit that turns you on.

Good luck, and hope it all works out!

 

[daddy]

I don't understand...561 posts and NO tickle fetish??? Am I missing something here? Why are you here? And if you are here for your partners sake, then that should answer your question. That's what she wants bro! 🙂

peace out,
daddy

 

[Aachen1983]

Ok......

Bondage doesn't turn me off. I am what is known as a "worry-wort". I think that as soon as I tie her up, the house will catch fire, or someone will break in, or Gerald's game style, I have a heart attack or a brain hemorrage or some shit. It doesn't really bother me, I just get scared that something bad will happen. Once I put away that fear, it's all good. I have decided, over a nice cup of coffee and a cigar, to do it for her. After all, she does shit for me, and I don't mean sexual, I mean like cook, clean, do laundry, feed and water my cats, hell even live with me (she is allergic to cats).

To dady, no, I don't have the fetish. I can have sex without tickling or thinking about tickling. I was almost never tickled as a child, and when I became an adult and started dating a girl a few years ago, she was into it. I discovered this forum soon after that (we broke up, like, a week after I discovered the forum), and made a lot of friends here. I have found out ticklign is fun, and is a greta way to bond with your significant other.

To Jmedic, why isn't your wife into it?

 

[MasterPaladin]

use handcuffs and leave the key in her reach so she can get out without you she will still be secured . I would have to say do it if it's her fantasy even moreso that it turns her on

 

[jmedic20]

Aachen, check out a prodcut called 'sports cuffs'. They're nylon wrist and ankle cuffs that secure with velcro. In an emergency she'll be able to get loose easily but these cuffs are secure enough that she'll be albe to 'struggle' and not accidentally pop out of the restraints. If you are a worry wort you'll want to avoid handcuffs all together. Keys can break and do get lost in the sheets sometimes. Oh, and your house isn't going to burst into flames just because you have your gf tied up and you could just as easily die of a heart attack or brain bleed while you and her are driving in your car doing 55 on a four lane highway. I'm not telling you that to freak you out, though it prolly did. My point is bad things can happen when we least expect it but we still go about our day to day lives and we have fun. Use restraints she can get out of in an emergency, turn off all the appliances when she tied, and go see your doctor for a routing physical and all will be well

As for my wife...she is into it. The problem with her is that when she's pissed about something else she uses my kink against me. It's very annoying especially when you consider it's her kink too. Her thing is force or rape play, that's what she likes. I introduced her to the bondage aspect and for several years we've had lots of fun. Latley she's been using it against me when it suits her to do so. Incidentally, pretending to commit a rape is something that I had a very difficult time with, still do today. I have limits and there are some things i won't act out for her because in my view they go too far. Everyone has limits.

 

[isabeau]

hmm what MP said makes sense to me..my husband also has an aversion to bondage. could you maybe try some light bondage first? or hmm how about pinning her down with your body...you know, hold one of her wrists with your hand..the other arm of hers would be behind your head, pinning it in place..then wrap your legs arounds hers..and that could work for some tickling with her being unable to prevent it..that way you could tickle her upper body..then hmmmm without full bondage, you could tie her ankles to the bed, and tickle her feet..and she still has her hands free but still couldn't really fight much..and see how you like that first..i'm not sure..i'm not great at giving this kind of advice. she sounds like me..you sound like my hubby..sort of..

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Bondage doesn't turn me off. I am what is known as a "worry-wort". I think that as soon as I tie her up, the house will catch fire, or someone will break in, or Gerald's game style, I have a heart attack or a brain hemorrage or some shit. It doesn't really bother me, I just get scared that something bad will happen.

There are many cuffs to which you can attach quick disconnect clips. This is what Drew and I use. We attach the cuffs via these clips to rope in which I've tied several hitch knots for easy adjusting of positions. Unless the bondage is so tight that one can't move at all, it is simple for the lee to reach the clips and disconnect themself. The cuffs will still be on. But, they'll be free to get out or assist you if necessary. If you do something along these lines, there is no need to let this concern get in the way. You can even have her try to get loose a few times, just so you can be sure for your own peace of mind.

Ann

 

[lk70]

I'd have to say I agree with most everyone else. Find some bondage that is secure enough for her to fight it (because she likely wants to) but that she can actually get out of if she makes the effort. Ann's idea sounds good.

And what mabus says is absolutely right. Since you're not repulsed by it, give it a shot. Once you get over the phobia aspect, you may find yourself into it, too.

Sounds like you're a good man, Charlie Brown. 🙂

 

[Aachen1983]

LOL! Thanks guys. Yeah, I will have to give those a try. She does SO much for me, that it is all I can do. I'm just paranoid (comes with my terrority, even on meds, just not way out there paranoia). I'm sure nothing bad will happen. And hey, if she really wants it, we have our whole lives to do it again.

Thanks for the nice comment lk70.

 

[daddy]

LOL! Thanks guys. Yeah, I will have to give those a try. She does SO much for me, that it is all I can do. I'm just paranoid (comes with my terrority, even on meds, just not way out there paranoia). I'm sure nothing bad will happen. And hey, if she really wants it, we have our whole lives to do it again.

Thanks for the nice comment lk70.

Now that's the spirit!!!!

peace out,
daddy

 

[TickledToDeath]

As most people know, I don't like bondage and don't have a tickle fetish (I do like feet and legs though). My fiance has a foot fetish (no joke) and wants to be tied up and tickled, seeing how what happened a few hours ago.

Her left foot got stuck betwwen the matress on the bed and the little hole in between the post on the end of the bed. I decided to have some fun and tickled her for about 45 seconds. She laughed and tried to swat my hand away before just giving in and taking it. Well, after I helped her loose, she pounced me. Turns out, it turns her on like that. She decided that she wants to be tied up and tickled for a while. Well.....

Do I fulfill her fantasy, or do I not due to my aversion to bondage. I am asking for help from the married men on here, as well as some of the married ladies. As you know, she isn't just some main squeeze or girlfriend, I am marrying this woman. This can affect a great faucet of the marriage. Any help would be accepted. Thanks guys.

Brother, you KNOW the answer.
Give and do to the lady exactly what she wants you to do to/for her!
Turn on that faucet!
Your aversions will dissolve. Your love and life will prosper!

 

[Aachen1983]

Well, I spoke to her on the phone about 20 minutes ago, and, she wants to do this shit tonight or tomorrow after church (damn). I told her about break-away cuffs, and she said "no, belts and neck-ties are fine. The house isn't going to burn down and you aren't going to suddenly die". So here we go, I shall keep you all posted. She was very excited over the phone that I said yes and that I have a surprise tonight. Rock on.

 

[isabeau]

Well, I spoke to her on the phone about 20 minutes ago, and, she wants to do this shit tonight or tomorrow after church (damn). I told her about break-away cuffs, and she said "no, belts and neck-ties are fine. The house isn't going to burn down and you aren't going to suddenly die". So here we go, I shall keep you all posted. She was very excited over the phone that I said yes and that I have a surprise tonight. Rock on.

good luck..and keep us posted..you will do just fine..

 

[TickledToDeath]

Well, I spoke to her on the phone about 20 minutes ago, and, she wants to do this shit tonight or tomorrow after church (damn). I told her about break-away cuffs, and she said "no, belts and neck-ties are fine. The house isn't going to burn down and you aren't going to suddenly die". So here we go, I shall keep you all posted. She was very excited over the phone that I said yes and that I have a surprise tonight. Rock on.

Good luck. Don't worry. Have fun! You will have no regrets of that I am sure!

 

[50greg]

There are many cuffs to which you can attach quick disconnect clips. This is what Drew and I use. We attach the cuffs via these clips to rope in which I've tied several hitch knots for easy adjusting of positions. Unless the bondage is so tight that one can't move at all, it is simple for the lee to reach the clips and disconnect themself. The cuffs will still be on. But, they'll be free to get out or assist you if necessary. If you do something along these lines, there is no need to let this concern get in the way. You can even have her try to get loose a few times, just so you can be sure for your own peace of mind.

Ann

Ann,

I've wondered how I might secure a woman and still have a safety factor if anything went wrong. It also seemed to me that there was no point in securing a woman if she could free herself at will. It was a conundrum. ) Maybe you have a solution.

 

[mabus]

Oh my God...

You found TWO girls with a tickling fetish? God, if ONLY you were a ticklephile!
I'm 31 years old, I've never met anyone with ANY kind of fetish yet, much less tickling. Unfortunately in south Louisiana, where the conservative, no-sex having christians live, people don't advertise these things, or have any kind of fun, unless it's getting drunk. And she does all kind of stuff for you, she's exceited about having sex, she takes care of your cats, even with an allergy - have you stopped today and thanked God you were so blessed and lucky? Most people could search for a lifetime and a half, and never get close to what you've found in this woman!

 

[Aachen1983]

Oh my God...

You found TWO girls with a tickling fetish? God, if ONLY you were a ticklephile!
I'm 31 years old, I've never met anyone with ANY kind of fetish yet, much less tickling. Unfortunately in south Louisiana, where the conservative, no-sex having christians live, people don't advertise these things, or have any kind of fun, unless it's getting drunk. And she does all kind of stuff for you, she's exceited about having sex, she takes care of your cats, even with an allergy - have you stopped today and thanked God you were so blessed and lucky? Most people could search for a lifetime and a half, and never get close to what you've found in this woman!

Every time I say my prayers, I thank the Lord for her. And that's a few times a day.



Anyways, it happened. I am going to write about it in a few minutes. The whole thing lasted only about 15 minutes, if that. It was interesting, and yes, fun. And the prize at the end was fan-fucking-tastic!

 

[911]

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There's a woman who likes to be tied up and tickled and she's with a guy who dosen't like bondage. Life is so cruel. Why can't I get a woman like that or a woman at all 4 that matter. 🙁