Fakers

[Merciless1]

I'm feeling uneasy.
Why?

Because I am mad at fakers.
These are people who arrange to meet up with you then not respond back to you.

My last 3 fakers:
1. Someone wanted to get me tied and tickled in Houston but they bailed on me when I mentioned I only like to be tickled on my feet.

2. Someone arranged to meet me, but on the day of the meet, he never showed up at the motel, and I wasted $45 for that motel room.

3. Someone arranged to tickle me in my college, but he later blocked me from emailing him, calling him, and even messaging him on fetlife. It happened with no reason.

This has discouraged me from setting up tickle meets.

My last 3 fakers:
1.Not everyone is into just feet. Your profile states multiple ticklish spots yet you limited the tickler to just the feet and that probably turned this person off.

2.Meet outside the room prior to paying for the room. Motels need not an advance booking and payment Or as has been stated, let that other person pay for the room however meeting at a bar or diner first then going to the room is the best and safest bet. There will always be "no shows". For some, the fantasy and chatter is their reality. Right up until the time they are supposed to meet for true reality.

3. Some people love the fantasy and the talk...then when it comes down to reality, they bolt and start anew with another fantasy game with another person. Easy to hide behind the screen and keyboard and play the game. That or fear got the best of him or he was spooked by something. You can guess till the end of time and never have the right answer. People do what they do for reasons known only to them. Again, fantasy is their reality.

Discouraged? Understandable but don't let it prevent you from finally meeting someone. It will happen. Go over what you did with the aforementioned 3. See if there is a common denominator and remedy it. Live and learn.

 

[SoleMates]

Amazing! I never met a guy before in my LIFE who backed out of something sexual!

Well, now you know two. I had the opportunity for a one-nighter with a woman I met while in Philly recently and I declined. She didn't quite know how to process it, either...

 

[helplessandhappy]

A lot of people have fantasies of doing something sexual with someone but back out at the last minute, either because they feel shame at their fetish, shame at doing something sexual with a random person, something else came up or any combination of those reasons.

It could also be something you're doing. We don't know you, so we don't have any way of seeing what you're like. I've had two separate occasions now when I was talking to a guy on the net (not for this reason just in general), agreed to meet up with him and then backed out at the last second. Why? Intuition. I've always had a strong intuition and it's never led me wrong. In both of those cases, I got a scary vibe that I didn't like. Something just felt wrong. And you know, it's a good thing I listened to it, because the first guy ended up being a deranged lunatic who threatened my life and the second admitted in a letter after I stood him up that he was "probably going to do something he would regret to me" which I can only imagine means rape, or worse....

I'm just saying, sometimes people think better of what they're doing, and when you're entering into an already weird and sexual situation, you have to expect that.

 

[rhiannon]

I had the opportunity for a one-nighter with a woman I met while in Philly recently and I declined.

Having the opportunity for something and having agreed on something already are different things! 🙂 Not every guy is into every kind of woman!

 

[SoleMates]

Having the opportunity for something and having agreed on something already are different things! 🙂 Not every guy is into every kind of woman!

Not to split hairs, but technically I backed out of something she thought we'd agreed on. We were making out and doing 'foot stuff' but I didn't want to take it any further.

 

[rhiannon]

We were making out and doing 'foot stuff' but I didn't want to take it any further.

Had you said upfront you would? I've had tickling sessions that could technically have gotten further and we decided not to do it.

 

[NoNo]

Yup. It's a form of non consensual cyber. Complete waste of time for the party actually trying to make something happen.

Alright see it the same but can't it be that the other person could be turned off, too, by talking about subordinate stuff. Like: why arent we talking about tickling?!

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Well the way you described the first person doesn't sound like a faker. It sounds like someone got turned off by you just wanting your feet tickled. Because you said you told him you only like your feet tickled and he bailed on you, like you told him and he told you nevermind or no thanks. So no reason to be upset with that... if you were a woman I was thinking of meeting and you told me I could only tickle your feet, I'd bail too... after telling you of course...

As for the other people, as someone said you were at fault for renting the motel right away. You should have offered to meet first. Maybe they would have liked that first before going somewhere private..

And well there are cases were people feel uncomfortable meeting people online. And sure they should have told you they weren't going to make it but sometimes it can be scary... guys get nervous about that too, and some freak out and decide not to go through with it right before they're going to leave... one of them could have been there but couldn't find the courage to get out of their car. I'm sorry you had problems meeting people though.

 

[ebony_F_Lee]

A way I found to avoid these situations is I arrange to meet possibly 3-4 lers on the same day at a hotel bar. If 1 turns up I book the hotel room. Usually 1 is a no show but on the occasions no one turns up at least ive had a drink and lunch lol

 

[rhiannon]

So what do you do if they all show up? 🙂

 

[ebony_F_Lee]

Have a very very very fun and tiring afternoon lol

 

[rhiannon]

What if they don't want to share? 🙂

 

[ebony_F_Lee]

Then they get an hour each lol