Fetishes, and their development within the greater sexual psychology.

[kenny]

Im kind of shy about talking about this but because of my childhood I ended up with a dual fetish. As a child I was off the chain ticklish and i had reaaly evil teenage babysitters who used to tickle me to the point of almost peeing. Some made me others let me get up and go to the bathroom. After I came back from the bathroom they would start all over again. i guess they loved the fact that i was crazy ticklish Most of them had long nails and pony tails and had kind of a mean look sexy look, and they all smoked back then. I guess it turned me on but I was to young to notice it, so now i have a big time tickling fetish and smoke fetish. It definatly interfers with my sex life being normal. There is more to this but I am to shy to talk about it, thanks for listening

 

[Studious_Hustler]

Nope. Paraphilia is a term used for sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, or individuals. Fetish has the same basic meaning, with the exception of being reserved for use when the arousal becomes focused upon the paraphilia to the degree that it starts to inhibit normal sexual function, and an individuals ability to enjoy a normal life.

Perhaps I'm misunderstanding this, but several sources seem to have it the other way around:

wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism: "If a sexual fetish causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life, it is diagnosable as a paraphilia"

fetishpsychology.wikispaces.com/Paraphilia+Vs.+Fetish: "A fetish could become a paraphillia if it gets harmful or obsessive"

This is how I'd come to understand the usage of the terms, although your way makes sense to me, too.

 

[Myriads]

Part of the problem might stem from the fact that there is a lot of argument over when a preference stops and a paraphilia begins. Also for a long time, paraphilia were seen as deviancies, and thus clinically 'bad' things. So some sources might be indicating that to add to the confusion.

I've chosen to go with the way I present it. But clearly there is material that supports both ways. Basically I feel that paraphilia are not needfully harmful, and fetishes are. And use the terms thusly.

Preference --> Paraphilia --> Fetish

On an increasing spectrum of interest by the subject. From mild to unhealthy.

Myriads

Perhaps I'm misunderstanding this, but several sources seem to have it the other way around:

wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism: "If a sexual fetish causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life, it is diagnosable as a paraphilia"

fetishpsychology.wikispaces.com/Paraphilia+Vs.+Fetish: "A fetish could become a paraphillia if it gets harmful or obsessive"

This is how I'd come to understand the usage of the terms, although your way makes sense to me, too.