First Try.. Didn;t Make It.. (Insurance Exam)

[C.A.B.]

Okay.

This once noble thread has now become a quagmire of maudlin kabuki theater.

 

[Mitchell]

Marty, Two things..

One, I'm sorry.. okay.

The reason for my reaction was.. I'll explain it.,. instead of blowing up.

Your first post in this thread.

"You don't understand why I continue to fail".

I've never been a good test taker. I got poor SAT scores, yet got consistently high grades in college. The insurance exam is very much like the SAT';s.

"My dad is totally supporting me".

Not that it's anyone's business, but this is not true.

Yes, my dad does pay my rent.. but.. my day to day living money comes from things I sell, money my mom left me, etc etc. He';s never "totally supported me". In fact, one of the things I said to him this week was. "Dad, I want to pass this exam, so I can get off your back". He said he understands and appreciates this.

Please have all the facts before making such statements.

Thank you for saying you hope my dreams come true, Marty.

The reality is.. the e-mail I got from my trainer on Wednesday night scared the shit out of me. It said, and I quote. "We need all perspective employees to pass the state final ASAP, as we cannot guarantee employment opportunities will be offered after the end of this year".

I took that to mean,..

"Pass the state final before the end of 2013, work as a benefits consultant at Aflac. Don't pass it, and.. you lose your chance, and become a castaway in the insurance business. "

I hope and pray I pass it Monday to get it over with. After that, with the darn holidays coming up.. I don't know how many more chances I';ll get.

I've got three more days to study, and was nine points short last time. Hopefully such will be enough. All I ask for is a passing grade of 70. Once I get my foot in the door, I can learn as I go along.

 

[GQguy]

Could you work for another insurance firm if it dozens work out with AFLAC? What makes them special and your only shot?

 

[Mitchell]

GQ, I don't know. I'd still have to pass the licensing exam no matter what firm I work for. The thing is,. I think one has to be "Attached to an insurance company" to qualify for the exam.

I had a momentary great day today, posted in the blog. Tonight after Mr Gardner it's back to reality. I don't know if the great day I had is an omen that I'm going to pass after all, or a consolation for the greatest disappointment since my mom died.

 

[kurchatovium]

Good luck Mitch. I am rooting for you. I am sure you will do well. Just relax. You're well prepared.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks pal

 

[Crackity Jones]

Good luck pal. I just passed my driving test on the fourth attempt and I'm willing to be you're a better insurer than I am driver.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, Crackity. Congrats on passing your driving test.

I knoweth from what you speak about the driving test. When I was driving, it took me 3 tries to pass my test

 

[Mitchell]

To give everyone an example of what I'm dealing with..

Aside from the pressure I'm feeling to pass my exam for myself, my trainer.. who I genuinely like, is beginning to drive me berserk.

I was home all day on Saturday, using every possible tool to study for the exam.. cram sheets.. notes.. definitions. For hours on end.

A few hours ago.. I got another ominous e-mail from my trainer.. again..general.. not addressed to me, but which said the same gloomy statement..

"All perspective employees must pass the state exam before the end of 2013, or the employment opportunity will not be there".

I KNOW this.. How many times does he have to keep sending me the same dreaded e-mail?

I sent him an e-mail, calm, not emotional. I will not lose my cool at this guy.

"Jay, I'm working extremely hard to pass the test ASAP. As you know, I have an exam apt scheduled for Monday afternoon. You are making me more anxious by continually sending me the same ominous news that I already know".

Not to mention.. his e-mail title discusses the "proctored final", which I've already passed.

His reply. "Sorry, my bad".

I like Jay. He's an incredibly nice guy, and I appreciate all his help to me.

Part of me, though, is getting very pissed.

Don't first tell me "Most don't pass the state final the first time", and then contradict yourself, like Ed the review guy did.

Don't make me more anxious, less than 48 hours before the exam.. by twisting the vice around my neck further. All I should be worried about now is studying.

My dad had no reaction when I told him what happened. I think his mind is on something else.

My aunt was pissed. Her attitude is how can I work for someone whose twisting the vice around my neck.

I just woke up from a nap. My plan is to work at least some of the night, and then tomorrow. The review guy advised us to do only one hour of brush up the day before the exam, and then chill besides.

I'm having a feeling I shouldn't be having. I know I will be crushed if I don't pass and they boot me, but part of me is so pissed by Jay's constant pressure every night, when he knows how hard I'm working, that I might not feel as bad as I think.

I don't want to sound negative, or self fulfilling prophecy but, my gut.,.

I'm going to get a 69 on Monday, one point short, and get the boot.

I got 69's many times on the way to passing the proctored exam.

I hope I'm wrong, and that I either pass, or if God Forbid I fail again, they give me more time.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

If you think that's stressful, try being unemployed without anyone to pay your rent!

 

[Flatfoot]

Mitch, I hope it all goes well for ya. Just keep pluggin' away with your notes, but make sure it's QUALITY studying! Cramming isn't going to help you if the state's test questions are going to differ from what you've been reading. You'll just be mentally parroting certain facts without really being able to apply the info in a feasible fashion. You need to be able to know the context of what the questions are asking to answer appropriately, so just take the time to read and learn.

Also, I know you're under a time-crunch, but mastery of anything takes a LOT longer than any 80s movie montage will portray. If you've got a history of poor test-taking, I don't really know what I can say that will help take the pressure off. You're 43 years old, and you've maintained that pattern for a long time. Old habits are hard to break. The best I can say is to not put the test on a pedestal, but I don't know that you're mentally capable of turning off that "give-a-fuck" switch. Worry is a terrible demon. I wish you the best.

 

[Mitchell]

Brighteyes, why don't you stop it with the potshots already. It's old.

I didn't see you say "Mitch, you've worked so hard, I hope you pass your test". No, you couldn't say that. It has to be a potshot.

If you think I LIKE my position, you are severely mistaken.

I told my father.. this week, that I want to be making enough money to cover everything, so he doesn't have to help me, ASAP. He said he understands that. He, who its affecting, understands it. You, who it doesn't affect, has to take a potshot.

Why don't you try following the "Golden Rule". Your posting history with me is just dreadful.

Flat, thank you. I see your point, and I know what you're saying is well meaning.

I'm hopeful that maybe for this one day.. I can turn it off.

I was advised by the review teacher to study only one hour the night before the test. He said that relaxing and not driving oneself crazy the night before the exam.. is just as important as study.

It's still early, and the test isn't until 145 tomorrow. I may do a bit of a happy medium, and do a total of 2 hours of study time tonight. One hour early, and another hour a bit later.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Man, you really like that word "potshot."

In all seriousness, when are you gonna learn that posting your business all
over the TMF is simply not a good idea? You don't like when people tell you
anything. Someone else said they hope you pass your test and you told them
to bite you. LOL.

 

[Mitchell]

First of all, your post is really out of line. Are you Myriads or Jeff? If they want to tell me not to post it,. let them do so. As for the person you referred to, you mentioned how I told them to bite me,,. but you didn't mention my apology to that person?

Stop talking to me in the condescending manner like you're the parent, and I'm the child, okay, it's old. If you don't like what I post, use the rule of what Larry Flynt said about Hustler, and don't read my posts.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

You're right, you did a great job apologizing.

 

[Mitchell]

Admiral, I was thinking about your post.. How the hell do you know what I would. and wouldn't "Survive". I suppose dealing with my mother's illness and death all alone, and nearly dying from a seizure myself during that time.. wasn't enough for you?

Unfucking real. To turn this from a discussion about whether or not Mitch passes the exam. which is the subject of the thread.. . into a few people taking vicious potshots at Mitch, for no fucking reason other than to be mean spirited.

Whether I pass or not.. I wont post it, okay?

I could see if I was posting a rant about my family in the main forum. Then maybe I'd deserve the posts from the previous two posters. Those posts, are nothing but mean spirited viciousness.

 

[AdmiralBeatty]

Simple in my world you get ONE chance to make up an exam. You have to score an 85 to pass.

 

[CrystalLight]

Howdy folks,

Let's keep this thread on-topic. If you are just going to throw barbs around, then please leave the thread.

If this continues, this thread will be closed up.

 

[chicago]

Hopefully this doesn't turn into a "Mitch Blow Up Thread". I've been trying to keep personal things to my blog. I wanted to post this piece of info in the main.

Hopefully... not a big deal thread. Something I was discussing with a friend.. but not about myself..

Hopefully, the replies to this will be at least somewhat positive. This is nothing about family, only about career.

I still haven't learned my lesson it seems to either blog it.. or keep it off of here.
This thread serves as a reminder.. one I need to remember.

You know you post a lot of personal threads. Take one look at just the ones you've started in the last six months. A good number of them start off with "Hope this thread doesn't turn negative" or some such. All the threads that start that way have topics that really should be kept in your blog and you have to know that otherwise you wouldn't post the disclaimer. 9 times out of 10, those threads end up just the way you hoped they wouldn't ( or maybe how you secretly hoped they would?)

Also:

I'm not saying you can't post what you want, but you've now introduced your entire family drama into the conversation, so don't act shocked if you start getting opinions on that too.

This thread hadn't been replied to in almost 24 hours, so it had some chance of dying. You're the one who brought it back...

...stop acting like you don't love this when you clearly do. You love this drama, and all this attention, and you don't want it to stop, or you'd stop feeding into it.

Which by the way, I'm about the hundredth person to point out to you.

 

[Mitchell]

Okay, Admiral.. you're the maven on "Real life". You make the rules of the insurance laws of NY state, Aflac insurance, and the various exams.

Your post makes you sound completely uninformed, okay? It matters not what you think in this case.. the rules are what they are. You don't make or change the rules of Aflac insurance or the laws of NY state.

Other professional license exams give you more than one chance too. I know many people, Lawyers, and CPA's, who didn't pass their license exam the first time either, and then did. They didn't just make the rules for Mitch

 

[Mitchell]

Crystal, I tried to keep the thread on topic. Interesting how no one said anything to Admiral and Brighteyes as they were doing nothing but throwing stones at me.

Annie, why are you posting exceprts from other threads that have nothing to do with this? Again, just to take a potshot at me, right? Interesting how you didn't say anything to those who posted their judgements about my life, and the laws of insurance/NY state, etc.

 

[chicago]

Annie, why are you posting exceprts from other threads that have nothing to do with this? Again, just to take a potshot at me, right? Interesting how you didn't say anything to those who posted their judgements about my life, and the laws of insurance/NY state, etc.

There's the issue right there. That you don't see that those other threads have a lot to do with this one. In that you continue to post personal threads that lead to arguments like this and seemingly never learn your lesson even though you say things like "This will serve as a reminder..." or people like Jeff telling you that you bring it upon yourself.

And there's no point to comment on what other people in this thread say because you continue to reply to it instead of ignoring them, which contradicts your point and you were the one that opened the door to those comments in the first place.

 

[CrystalLight]

This is just blowing out of control.

Mitchell, I would suggest perhaps blogging about it. And if you are having any issues with how I am moderating, please contact Jeff and discuss that with him.

Thank you.

I'm closing this thread up.