Male switch reporting for duty
*salutes*.
I definitely look for someone I can get along with outside of just tickling. Someone who has a good sense of humour, who I can have intelligent conversations with as well as ridiculous and nonsensical ones, who I have respect for and who respects me. To me, being able to have a relationship that stretches beyond just her tickling the hell out of me is more important than "how much hell she can tickle out of me". It goes with physical interactions and even when I've done RP's online, I get really turned off someone who is all about the tickling without any substance.
In terms of what I find really attractive explicitly in the 'ler-ing, I really love a 'ler who expresses how much fun and satisfaction she's having through tickling me. Maybe it's through verbal/physical teasing, laughing along with me, playing little games in the middle of it to mess with me, or just flat out saying she's having a good time. While I can't really put a finger on what triggers this sort of thing but a 'ler who can make me feel submissive is like a drug. I would have to feel absolutely comfortable with that person and have to trust them an incredible amount before I could ever do it but I've had that feeling once or twice and it was intoxicating as well as humbling and intimate. I would love to explore that kind of thing again but it's not really an easy thing for me to open up about.
With that being said, I can have an enjoyable time if the session or instance is playful or intense/intimate; it depends on the person.
That might be a $5 answer where a $1 one would have sufficed but I like this kind of introspection.
EDIT: I had thought more on my answer here and I remembered a specific image that I was show a
while back and even though it's just an illustration, I felt strongly drawn to it and what it represented of how I saw a serious female 'ler. The posture and facial expression would probably make my heart rate instantly go up and I'd have a hard time diverting my attention if I had someone look at me like that in real life.
