For those that like to combine tickling and BDSM only!

[drew70]

So, in case you havent' realized this...no one likes you Feather Feet, get out of this post please and go and cause trouble elsewhere. Anna is trying to tell people who want to listen to her story about it. And...Take the stick out? What? Can't stick to being mature in a forum? Have to resort to that kind of vulgarity? Good gracious, I feel childish just replying to this.

You should. "No one likes you.." It doesn't get more elementary school than that. For the record, there are plenty of us who agree completely with Feather Feet. I think he's been spot on with every post. So how about sticking to the topic and drop the snotty "your not invited" attitude, hmm?

 

[giggle-maker]

Is it possible to just go back to the original discussion?

Not pointing fingers or blame or whatever...let's just get back on track.

That being said, Anna, you liked your turn as 'ler'. Will you be exploring this side further?

 

[tickledgirl]

You should. "No one likes you.." It doesn't get more elementary school than that. For the record, there are plenty of us who agree completely with Feather Feet. I think he's been spot on with every post. So how about sticking to the topic and drop the snotty "your not invited" attitude, hmm?

Yipe! I find myself agreeing with Drew again? Okay, who's been drugging my water? 🙂

Seriously, while he's more forthright (or abrasive? depending on your point view) than I might be, personal attacks like "Go away, nobody likes you" are out of line.

I don't know how valid Feather's original comments are generally. His general warning about "makeup sex" makes sense to me...for my relationship. Other relationships may be different. Some of his comments do seem off-base (see below) But in any case I think it was meant as advice, not as an attack.

I can understand not wanting personal intimate details of one's relationship to be publicaly dissected. But that's a risk you run when you put such things in a public posting. People are going to respond.


On the other hand...

well, bdsm or not, i wont comment on. (Even tho this isnt a bdsm forum)

This does have a "How dare you get peanut butter on my chocolate?!?!" attitude to it. This isn't a BDSM-free forum either. If you want to avoid BDSM, stay away from threads like this. If you don't have a problem with it, why add a comment that could be construed as unnecessary criticism?

but i will point out that "make up sex" or "putting things behind you with sexual actions for making up" never works.

Making any general comment and claiming they apply to every situation never works either. Well, rarely... 🙂 As I said, I'm very wary of the idea of "make up sex" but that's for me. I wouldn't make blanket a condemnation.

couples who have the most sex are the ones who are actually having problems

Wow. So every couple who're having sex regularly are having problems? I'd just say that's flat wrong...maybe with a slight tinge of sour grapes?

[EDIT: Just wanted to add that I enjoyed reading Anna's account. Thanks for sharing it. I hope things go well for you.]

 

[Anna6-9]

Thank you to the people that stuck to the point. I wanted to know if people wanted to hear a story that actually is hard it find at times. Those of us that like to mix fetishes shouldnt have our posts intruded upon by those that dont. I respect those of you that disagree. You have your opinion and I have mine. Can in future if you dont agree with participating in these activities just let those of us that do enjoy a little share time?

 

[FeatherFeet]

Yipe! I find myself agreeing with Drew again? Okay, who's been drugging my water? 🙂

Seriously, while he's more forthright (or abrasive? depending on your point view) than I might be, personal attacks like "Go away, nobody likes you" are out of line.

I don't know how valid Feather's original comments are generally. His general warning about "makeup sex" makes sense to me...for my relationship. Other relationships may be different. Some of his comments do seem off-base (see below) But in any case I think it was meant as advice, not as an attack.

I can understand not wanting personal intimate details of one's relationship to be publicaly dissected. But that's a risk you run when you put such things in a public posting. People are going to respond.


On the other hand...

This does have a "How dare you get peanut butter on my chocolate?!?!" attitude to it. This isn't a BDSM-free forum either. If you want to avoid BDSM, stay away from threads like this. If you don't have a problem with it, why add a comment that could be construed as unnecessary criticism?

Making any general comment and claiming they apply to every situation never works either. Well, rarely... 🙂 As I said, I'm very wary of the idea of "make up sex" but that's for me. I wouldn't make blanket a condemnation.

Wow. So every couple who're having sex regularly are having problems? I'd just say that's flat wrong...maybe with a slight tinge of sour grapes?

[EDIT: Just wanted to add that I enjoyed reading Anna's account. Thanks for sharing it. I hope things go well for you.]

i agree with drew, and you. and i even agree with cloudgazer only in the sense that the confusion is partially my fault, because of my being vague normally when I respond to such things I respond way more in debtph, but i was tired when i did the OR and wanted to get through it quick, so some things i said may have come off the wrong way.

i never claimed that this was a BDSM free forum, and the comment i made was only a statment, not an attack.

make up sex in the terms of just being sex rather than working out the issue will never work. no matter who you are. and that's the truth. people can disagree with me all they want, but if you just go to sex to distract you from the problems without working them out, its really just putting a temporary stop on what oculd end up being a permanent problem.

and i didnt mean all couples who have lots of sex are having problems. but statistically, psychologically, (and no i dont have the numbers but i have seen the studies, and just common sense can say this anyway) relationships where there are major problems, the couples tend to have way more sex than they normally do rather than less. because they are trying to get that closeness back, and they think that sex will be a bonding experience. or they just have nothing else they can talk about or do without their problems coming up so they just try to thump the problems right out. each time, it's doomed to failure, however.

my overall point was simply sex doesnt solve couple's issues. talking it out does. and yes, it was meant as advice, not as attack.

it wasnt my intend to offend anyone, but im not going to apologize if i did, because people get offended way to easily, and take things out of context so abstractly, that if they get burned by it, it's their own damn fault.

 

[tkdemons]

the reason

This is the man that suffered at the hands of Anna6-9. Im replying because I want every one to relax on this issue. I cant say any thing that my wife(still,thank god!) hasnt said so eloqently thus far. This used to be a flame free forum,years ago when I first came here. I never knew that so many people were into tickling, growing up I thought it was a rare thing. I thought I was weird,and strange and when I found a girl as a teen boy that liked to be tickled,I was estatic! As an adult it was even harder to find some one that shared this fetish,and until I went online and found this place. I didnt know what a fetish was. We all need to be open and non-jugemental with each other. Some of us have multiple fetishes (I have developed many over the years) and we need to stop flaming each other. Im out of the tickling closet, have been for along time. How many brave souls here have opened up to friends and family about their tickling fetish? Its far more liberating than u think. We are a comunity that needs to stick together and be supportive. My wife and I have forgiven each other for lots of things over the years and we like to punish each other to (seal the deal) so to speak. Anna just wanted to share a cool, intimate aspect of our life, one thats always changing and evoleing. And Demoness,youve helped me a great deal,so feel free to verbally ream me any time you want. But next time do it on the phone, I want to hear you do it in person (growl....).

 

[FeatherFeet]

This is the man that suffered at the hands of Anna6-9. Im replying because I want every one to relax on this issue. I cant say any thing that my wife(still,thank god!) hasnt said so eloqently thus far. This used to be a flame free forum,years ago when I first came here. I never knew that so many people were into tickling, growing up I thought it was a rare thing. I thought I was weird,and strange and when I found a girl as a teen boy that liked to be tickled,I was estatic! As an adult it was even harder to find some one that shared this fetish,and until I went online and found this place. I didnt know what a fetish was. We all need to be open and non-jugemental with each other. Some of us have multiple fetishes (I have developed many over the years) and we need to stop flaming each other. Im out of the tickling closet, have been for along time. How many brave souls here have opened up to friends and family about their tickling fetish? Its far more liberating than u think. We are a comunity that needs to stick together and be supportive. My wife and I have forgiven each other for lots of things over the years and we like to punish each other to (seal the deal) so to speak. Anna just wanted to share a cool, intimate aspect of our life, one thats always changing and evoleing. And Demoness,youve helped me a great deal,so feel free to verbally ream me any time you want. But next time do it on the phone, I want to hear you do it in person (growl....).

as ive pointed out, what i said was never a flame. if anything demoness is the one who was flaming me. all my comments were observations or meant to be taken as advice, not attack.

maybe this forum does need fewer flamers, but this forum also needs people to grow a bit of a vertibre and or a shell and not be offended by every little word they dont like. for god's sake, sometimes here it's worse than elementry school parents harassing the school board to ban books they dont like because of "offensive content" (like banning freaking harry potter because "it supports the art of witchcraft and that's anti christian! >_<)

 

[Anna6-9]

FeatherFeet-

Thanks for only trying to give advice. I know you were only trying to help. But if you had really read what I wrote you would realize that "make up sex" was a generalized term. I have all kinds of things I would like to point out but I didnt want this thread to be what it has become and refuse to participate in the back and forth bickering.

 

[FeatherFeet]

FeatherFeet-

Thanks for only trying to give advice. I know you were only trying to help. But if you had really read what I wrote you would realize that "make up sex" was a generalized term. I have all kinds of things I would like to point out but I didnt want this thread to be what it has become and refuse to participate in the back and forth bickering.

my first reply (which got flamed my demoness) was in reply to your first post, when you hadnt posted the story. it was ambiguous in that first post what you really meant by make up sex and wasnt made clear until the story. by that point i was arguing the origional point, not arguing against you or your story.

 

[tkdemons]

Can we just drop it?

 

[Anna6-9]

Wednesday my husband broke my heart. Im talking worst night in my life news. Not going to go into what it was (no he didnt cheat) (not really anyways) but he felt really bad. He begged forgivness and I decided to give him that (Im not perfect either). After talking to my TMF gf he decided I needed to relese my frustrations on him to put it behind me. It wasnt my idea and I really didnt feel I needed to but he insisted I beat his ass and really make him pay.

What I want to know is do any of you want to know what I did? Yeah I didnt feel the need but when I got into it I did some really hard core shit!

If your not into BDSM then please dont reply and dont read on. This thread isnt ment for you. Its for those that will enjoy: Tickle Torture, Humilliation, Bondage, Spankings (I used 4 implements) and GREAT make up sex.

I know its dumb to quote yourself but I would like to reinterate what I said to begin with. Can we just be grownups and put the bickering aside?!

 

[tickledgirl]

Thank you to the people that stuck to the point. I wanted to know if people wanted to hear a story that actually is hard it find at times.

I'd say the answer is "Yes." 🙂

And as you pointed out, those that aren't interested are free to skip to the next thread. I don't think anyone here has a problem with you posting what you did, and I'd hate for you to feel otherwise.

 

[FeatherFeet]

I know its dumb to quote yourself but I would like to reinterate what I said to begin with. Can we just be grownups and put the bickering aside?![/QUOTE

i never had a problem with either of you. i still dont.

 

[Anna6-9]

No harm done.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

i agree with drew, and you. and i even agree with cloudgazer only in the sense that the confusion is partially my fault, because of my being vague normally when I respond to such things I respond way more in debtph, but i was tired when i did the OR and wanted to get through it quick, so some things i said may have come off the wrong way.

i never claimed that this was a BDSM free forum, and the comment i made was only a statment, not an attack.

make up sex in the terms of just being sex rather than working out the issue will never work. no matter who you are. and that's the truth. people can disagree with me all they want, but if you just go to sex to distract you from the problems without working them out, its really just putting a temporary stop on what oculd end up being a permanent problem.

and i didnt mean all couples who have lots of sex are having problems. but statistically, psychologically, (and no i dont have the numbers but i have seen the studies, and just common sense can say this anyway) relationships where there are major problems, the couples tend to have way more sex than they normally do rather than less. because they are trying to get that closeness back, and they think that sex will be a bonding experience. or they just have nothing else they can talk about or do without their problems coming up so they just try to thump the problems right out. each time, it's doomed to failure, however.

my overall point was simply sex doesnt solve couple's issues. talking it out does. and yes, it was meant as advice, not as attack.

it wasnt my intend to offend anyone, but im not going to apologize if i did, because people get offended way to easily, and take things out of context so abstractly, that if they get burned by it, it's their own damn fault.

thanks for clarifying things.

 

[LindyHopper]

I hope it's not too late (in this crazy thread) to ask what feels, at least to me, like a reasonable question.

If I were thinking about spanking, flogging, or tickle-torturing my husband, I would need to be coming from a positive place, emotionally. I would need to feel an affectionate and loving connection.

I wouldn't want to do any such activity in the aftermath of anger. One reason is that if I was upset about something, I simply wouldn't feel inclined to do anything that I enjoyed, and that I knew he enjoyed. The even more important reason is that if my own negative emotions were in play, I wouldn't want to trust myself not to overstep the boundaries of mutual enjoyment. I don't feel that an SM scene a safe way to "take out" negative emotions on another person.

I know that in your case, a few days had passed, that you'd already talked about it, and that these emotions weren't so immediate at the time you did the session. Still, the idea of him doing something upsetting as a context for an SM scene just makes me uncomfortable. 😕

I'm not trying to judge or criticize, I'm just curious about how it felt to you.

 

[Anna6-9]

I agree compleatly Lindy! I wasnt mad any more and the feeling of hurt was signifigantly lowered by the time I did this. It wasnt a revenge thing for me. He thought its what I needed and I didnt. I let him think it was revenge. It enhanced his dread and that was fun but I was releived that things are getting better. We really did work it all out before this. This was just fun for me. And I have been telling him for some time now not to be so easy on me and was hoping this would encourage him to be rougher with me.

I recieved some rath last night in the form of massive tickling. Really tickling is the highlight of what we do. The BDSM is secondary most of the time.

 

[lk70]

I agree compleatly Lindy! I wasnt mad any more and the feeling of hurt was signifigantly lowered by the time I did this. It wasnt a revenge thing for me. He thought its what I needed and I didnt. I let him think it was revenge. It enhanced his dread and that was fun but I was releived that things are getting better. We really did work it all out before this. This was just fun for me. And I have been telling him for some time now not to be so easy on me and was hoping this would encourage him to be rougher with me.

I recieved some rath last night in the form of massive tickling. Really tickling is the highlight of what we do. The BDSM is secondary most of the time.

You know what I wondered? You say you're usually the sub or the lee. Maybe he had a hankering to be on the bottom for a little while and this was a good opportunity for him to be there because "he had to" not because "he wanted to."

Either way, NICE story! Thanks for sharing.

 

[Anna6-9]

He does enjoy being sub and lee from time to time. He tells me he needs a visit from Mistress Devine and I know what he wants. I know what his limits are and I am always open to try new things. He knows if he wants to try something Im all ears. And I can ask to try new things at any time as well.

If you can get your hands on Screw the Roses Give Me the Thorns it has a questionair and a slave contract thats good I think for most fetishes. We have it scanned into the computer and like to refill them out from time to time. It has great ideas for role playing and is a good way to understand boundries. One that he likes thats on the list of role playing is nun. He wants me to get a nuns outfit and tickle me sensless. Thats why we love Halloween. Losts of opportunities for new costumes!

 

[Tickle_Demoness]

You know what. I'm taking myself out of this conversation. I'm sorry it went this far. "Nobody likes you" was immature, and I'm sorry I said. Yes, I did get offended because FeatherFeet, what you said was plain rude. I care about Anna a lot, and that was just really really mean. BUt I'm done with this. Sorry guys.

 

[Tickle_Demoness]

I'm really sorry guys. I didn't mean to blow up like that. That went a bit too far.....

 

[cncreteman]

ARRG!! Why couldn't YOU have been the one that was bad,, SIGHHHH,,,,yeah Im all for the bondage and tickling,, the more the better, nut the guy gettin it ... it was , well, um a bit much for me,,make hime cut the grass or take out the trash or take you out to dinner or something,,lol, but then again, the guy asked for it,, have fun, wail on him ghood i guess if he really wants it,, to each his own,, but i would def be up for hearing about you being bad tho , in the future

I couldnt dissagree with you more. I specifically said for those that like to COMBINE tickling and bdsm ONLY. Both the tickling and bdsm comunities frown on interfetish mixing (god it seems racist) and I thought if there was a demand I would supply. If your not into it read the title and say to your self "there are hundreds of threads out there that I can participate in. I dont need to respond to them all".

As I said I didnt feel the need for vidication he insisted on it. I had forgiven him and was just happy that we had worked it out. We have always had a healthy sex life and we have it more often when we arent having problems so I dont know what your getting at with "couples who have the most sex are the ones who are actually having problems"

I actually enjoyed the tickle torture the most anyway. I dont get to be ler that much and I really pushed his limits. I didnt do anything I havent done to him in the past. I would never do anything that I knew wasnt ok with my sub. The only thing that was different about this was the amount of punishing not what I did. I wasnt angry and I lovingly rubbed and soothed his tortured skin when I was done.

 

[Anna6-9]

Im plenty bad! In fact I provoke nearly all my punishments. Its "Oh you are so getting it when we get home!" and I say "PROVE IT!" and just keep doing what I was doing to get in trouble in the first place. I will start a new thread and tell you all that enjoy this kind of play about one of my most severe punishments I got back in November.

 

[orangetickler]

Im plenty bad! In fact I provoke nearly all my punishments. Its "Oh you are so getting it when we get home!" and I say "PROVE IT!" and just keep doing what I was doing to get in trouble in the first place. I will start a new thread and tell you all that enjoy this kind of play about one of my most severe punishments I got back in November.

My kinda of person...

 

[giggle-maker]

Ok...now I'm going to be dying in anticipation...November huh?