GF wants me to stop my tickle fetish!!!

[impaler09]

Great.....now that Orco knows, it's all over.....

In all seriousness, whoever mentioned it first previously is right on....your fetish is part of who you are. If she's not willing to accept that, then you need to take a step back and reconsider your relationship with her. I"m not saying you should break it off but you should talk to her and tell her how you feel and make sure she understands what it is she's asking you to give up.

Someone who truly loves and respects you would not ask you to sacrifice this part of your being.

Anyway....just my two cents but I do sincerely wish you the best in this difficult situation. It's easy for all of us to give you advice as to what we think you should do but know that we're all hear to listen.

Good luck.

Impaler

 

[Kalamos]

'Cause the little fella had saved Adam's bacon, giving up his own magic for the brat's life.
And they f*cking needed some comic relief, believing kids wouldn't agree with the original grim Conan-like setting.

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I actually liked it better.

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Oh yeah, and consider becoming single once again.
It ain't half bad.

 

[bellylicker3]

we have been together for over 5 years now, and she has known about my fetish for 2 of the years, so i dont think that has anything to do with it, and as far as her sexual intrests, I've done everything possible with her, to make sure she was sexually satisfied, she thinks that i should just be involed with her intrests and the hell with mine! and I'm not having it that way

 

[TiCkLeSoCkS1]

time to find a new gf bro! Your fetish is part of who you are.You just can't stop it on someone elses whim!QUOTE]

Yea I agree with gilmourwaters. If she can't accept that its a part of who you and she's making threats like that, it may be time to move on

 

[-Kunoke-]

we have been together for over 5 years now, and she has known about my fetish for 2 of the years, so i dont think that has anything to do with it, and as far as her sexual intrests, I've done everything possible with her, to make sure she was sexually satisfied, she thinks that i should just be involed with her intrests and the hell with mine! and I'm not having it that way

In that case, bluntly, I'd have to say dump her like a sack of potatoes and find someone else. 😉 There are plenty of girls out there who arn't like that. Find one of them and I'm sure you'll be happy. 😀

 

[Tickler Bart]

There is the possibilty that she has found someone else & this is her way of getting out of her relationship with you.
She knows you will never give up tickling, so she already knows that you will break up with her.
OR . . . she told her girl friends about your tickle fetish & they conviced her that you are a creep & a weirdo, & talked her into breaking up 'before something bad happens'.
I hope that neither of these are what what's really going on with her.
No matter what the reason is, ANYONE that gives you an ultimatum like this is NOT worth holding on to because she refuses to accept you as you are.
Count your blessings &, as hard as this is, move on.
I know, it's easier said than done, but this is for the best.
NEVER change for the sake of someone else.
If she truly loved you, she would accept you 'just the way you are'.
Ooh, I feel a song coming on . . . .

 

[Federkitzler]

I'd dump her. Damn, what will come next? No more singing while showering? No beer with football? No more going out after 8pm? I'd dump her, definately. Just my 50 uuuh 2 cents. Easy said, easy done. It'll hurt, but in my opinion... It's better that way.

 

[Kalamos]

I'd like to point out we're hearing only one version of the full story.
Maybe this guy's really gone overboard with tickling.
Let us not dismiss the girl's claims as bs, nor take his claims as 100% truth.

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I'm not saying that you lied, man; I'm just saying that *maybe* you should consider her point of view too.
Maybe you'll realise she's being abusive to you, and she has no right to ask you to quit with your fetish.
Or you'll see your fetish has taken a focal point in your sexual and sentimental life, and you should take a more detached stance.

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Once again, being alone is not that bad... 😉

 

[sole seeker1]

Man, I'm sorry to read your post! 🙁

The truth is, she might as well insist you become homosexual.
You can't help what turns you on. No one can.

You can control your actions.
You can choose not to visit any of the tickle-sites.
You can choose not to tickle her ever again.
You cannot choose to not be turned on by tickling - it wasn't a conscious decision in the first place.

Truly sorry, dude. Probably time for a new girlfriend.
"This above all else, to thine own self be true!"

 

[Kalamos]

The truth is, she might as well insist you become homosexual.

😀

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Somebody might object to that.

 

[Camel26]

I object...wait...nah...frankly man, if she asked you to join my team, I'd laugh in her face, get all of my stuff out of her place, and just leave...first she asks you to give up tickling...but asking to give up women...I could NEVER do that!!! We are TOO HOTT!!! 😛

Thank goodness it hasn't gone there...😉

Hang in there man...and talk to her before making any big decisions...

 

[padrefan671]

Ultimatums are a form of power and control - and never any good in any relationship, regardless of the reason.

Having read through everything, I would consider talking to her the best way to go about this to see if the issue is just right there or something deeper. You didn't mention your age (and no need to) but there are many factors that go on after a five-year period in any relationship. This may or may not be the case. But some serious soul-serching would be a good first step prior to going to her, and then be prepared to discuss everything, because this one topic could lead to something related or completely different.

Good luck.

 

[Betchass1]

'Cause the little fella had saved Adam's bacon, giving up his own magic for the brat's life.
And they f*cking needed some comic relief, believing kids wouldn't agree with the original grim Conan-like setting.

I was a kid, and I *despised* Orco from the bottom of my being. He sounded like Number Five from Short Circuit.

 

[Betchass1]

advice from the internet: SERIOUS BUSINESS

Aww, get over it. There's lots to be learned on the internet. It's not that hard to figure out what is useful and what isn't if you're not a moron. There's no harm in asking for people's observations.

 

[Betchass1]

My Girlfriend has threatened that if i didnt stop with my ticke fetish she was going to leave me! She says that I'm am more into tickling than her! She was ok with it to start with, she would let me tickle her before sex, but all of a sudden she wants it to end. She even wants me to stop coming to this site, what should I do? I could really use some advice from you guys.

I told my first girlfriend about it, and when she wasn't repulsed, I soon started bringing it up every day. Big mistake. If there's a lot to your relationship besides tickling and sex, it's probably worth standing your ground and negotiating. If all it is to you is someone who's okay with your predilection, she has a point.

 

[dukezydeco2]

You can't change or hide what really makes you tick, what really moves you. It would be just like trying to make a non-tickler a tickler. My ex girlfriend was totally weirded out by my foot fetish, but my wife loves taking part in it with me, and has actually grown to enjoy having her feet sucked on while sex (I'm still working on the tickling part - hehe)

Keep looking for someone else...there are people out there who are much more compatible. These differences won't go away, they will keep coming back the longer you two go one, especially as each of you become more assertive and confident with your stance on issues.

That is just my thought. Don't sell your self short when you can be happier!

 

[alchemy1]

My Girlfriend has threatened that if i didnt stop with my ticke fetish she was going to leave me! She says that I'm am more into tickling than her! She was ok with it to start with, she would let me tickle her before sex, but all of a sudden she wants it to end. She even wants me to stop coming to this site, what should I do? I could really use some advice from you guys.

Hey man, don't change for anybody. If you are indeed a tickle fetishist, this is a part of who you are. People either accept the whole package, or not at all. I'm not telling you to break it off with your girl or anything, but she either accepts you for who you are or not.

 

[bellylicker3]

thanks man, its good to know that i have surpport from all you guys. i really appreciate it!!! and im not going to change for her or anyone else, you guys are right, this is who i am, either love me or hate me...im me..and thats how its going to always be

 

[-Kunoke-]

thanks man, its good to know that i have surpport from all you guys. i really appreciate it!!! and im not going to change for her or anyone else, you guys are right, this is who i am, either love me or hate me...im me..and thats how its going to always be

Good choice. 😉

 

[snap2914]

My advice:

1. She didnt mind your tickling earlier so there is hope. Make it clear to her that she is the ONLY girl you think of when you have tickling in mind. That's very important because she will feel special and understand that your fetish is something that will spice up your relationship, not destroy it.

2. Hold back a bit, tickle her less for a while, and not every time. Make her feel safe that she turns you on even without tickling. Show her that it's something you love to do with her (and only her) and not something that you have to do no matter what.

3. If everything fails, I got some good news for you: You are not married yet! Imagine your wife telling you to quit tickling her....

 

[kingzorak1]

you will be better off without her.. ultimatums are a sure sign of that the relationship will not last....

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

****warning: Advice From A Divorced Man, Use At Your Own Peril**** Seriously, I Am Sorry To Hear About Your Problems After So Much Time Together. I Second The Advice To Really Talk It Out To See If The Tickling Fetish Is The True Problem Or An Excuse/cover For Another Issue(s) Hurting The Relationship. You Must Know What You Are Really Up Against To Know How To Proceed. She Loved You As A Ticklephile Before, And I Agree With Others That Asking You To Change Will Not Work. Good Luck In Any Event.

 

[jj82277]

it is a comonly held myth that if you don't get married that your realtionship is a failure and that is not the case. the point of a relationship is to see if both the participants are marriagiable, and compatable. the biggest sign of incompatability is differing belief systems, and differences in sexual orientation fall under that category. It would be better in this case for the two of you to part because by definition tickling is a must have for you in a relationship and she is being very upfront with you that it is not something she wants to willfuly provide for the rest of her life to the degree that you want so that means that you two are jsut not eternally made for eachother and thats not a bad thing. It is better to part as friends now because you are not completely compatable, rather than get a divorce five years from now because you tried to save the relationship ignoring the writing on the wall. I know that it is hard because you genuinely care for her, but its like a stone in your shoe, it seems like a little thing, but eventually if nothing is done then the entire body falls apart.