Hard fetish to be into

[BklynFrankie]

Just a rant.


This is a really hard fetish to be into. especially for male lers. How many feel as i do

Frankie G

 

[maniactickler]

It actually sucks. ive met some nice women, but i cant further any relationship due to the fact they werent ticklish. this damn fetish restricts my choices to a very minimal percentage of women.

 

[Redmage]

Out of curiosity, what do you find hard about it?

 

[BklynFrankie]

its easy to meet people. but not people into this and many women arent into it

 

[makemlaugh2003]

I think it'd work much like anything else that could be "unusual" about a guy...

...if you're really hot, 49 times out 50 the woman will just go along with whatever you're into. She may not be into it at all, but she'll be more than willing to play along and accommodate you, learning to deal with it and accept it and even join in, if you're a very handsome man. So hang in there and just let that work for ya...and, by chance, if you're NOT handsome, well...that's why God created tickling videos *^)

 

[indivision]

It's kind of tough for male 'lees, too. Oh well.

 

[ViperGTS]

I have NO idea what you're talking about.

Being a male 'ler is easy peasy, man.

 

[Love2DayTrade]

Is this a hard fetish to be into? Well, I would have to say no. I'm responding in the negative because I'm comparing tickling to other fetishes. Ok, perhaps I should have said compared to other fetishes, tickling is not a hard fetish to be into.

Think of the other fetishes/perversions that exist. Shoes...beastiality...stuff involving fecal matter. I would imagine that it would be rather difficult to invite a girl over to your place and try to work in animals or crap into the evening. Not true with tickling...tickling is something you can do before you've even reached first base. Maybe not the tied to the bed tortourous kind of tickling but rather the playful/wresting/rolling on the floor tickling. I think that tickling can be seen as playful and something that you can do to a girl without coming across as weird. Recently I've invited two nice ladies over...(one 22 the other 41, both superhot) and I've been able to tickle them (which ultimately led to other things). The 22 year old was super ticklish in all the usual places and would simply lay there laughing hysterically and not struggle to much when I attacked her feet. The 41 year old was only moderately ticklish but was still fun to tickle. But anyway...can you imagine how creeped out they would be if I had a feces fetish??!!?

I'm glad that I have a tickle fetish. Tickling is something that one can relatively easily work into an evening and as we all know is often foreplay to foreplay.

 

[Excess]

I have NO idea what you're talking about.

Being a male 'ler is easy peasy, man.

What are you talking about?! Don't you know how super-hard it is to find a nice female that is actually ticklish? I mean, it's not like most are, y'know?

Oh wait.....it kinda is. Like Love2DayTrade said, while the whole hardcore tie-up and such is hard, just finding someone to tickle in general (especially for a straight male ler) is pretty easy. You'd have to just have bad luck to find a nice female and have her not be ticklish.

 

[Redmage]

She may not be into it at all, but she'll be more than willing to play along and accommodate you, learning to deal with it and accept it and even join in, if you're a very handsome man.

I don't think looks have all that much to do with it. I'm not especially good-looking, but I haven't found it hard to be a male 'ler. I think you're right that if the woman enjoys being with you then she'll be open to a certain amount of experimentation, but that's not really a matter of looks.

 

[makemlaugh2003]

Your point's well taken, Redmage...

...but I just personally feel, and many would agree with me, especially women, that looks ALWAYS have quite a bit to do with MOST types of relations between the sexes. I mean, seriously, what sane woman would PREFER to get tickled by an ugly man? I mean, a lady 'lee is gonna honestly say she'd rather be tickled (or have much of ANYTHING done to her, for that matter) by Mel Brooks than Mel Gibson? Not likely.

 

[Spenser]

Frankie,

> Hard fetish to be into

In what way, what do you mean?

> Just a rant.

Hey guy, I got rants goin' back 25 well over years, wanna hear 'em?

> This is a really hard fetish to be into. especially for male lers. How many
> feel as i do

Still not sure what you mean?

Spenser

 

[cloudgazer2k]

...but I just personally feel, and many would agree with me, especially women, that looks ALWAYS have quite a bit to do with MOST types of relations between the sexes. I mean, seriously, what sane woman would PREFER to get tickled by an ugly man? I mean, a lady 'lee is gonna honestly say she'd rather be tickled (or have much of ANYTHING done to her, for that matter) by Mel Brooks than Mel Gibson? Not likely.

got some news fer ya: i'm ugly as sin. yep, dog ugly, fugly, however you want to put it. i have scars, been in fights so much my face is rearranged, and i generally look like crap. but guess what? i have an awesome girl i'm getting married to very soon that not only enjoys our playtime together, but is often the instigator of the bondage and tickling.

it ain't about looks, people. it's personality.
sure, you can go up to a girl and be George Clooney's clone and say "i wanna tickle your feet!"...and you get a drink in the face. but he who is charming, can hold a good conversation and, in time, work in the fact that "hey, i have some neat quirks i'd like to share with ya..." it works, guys. no...seriously. i have had a good handful of tickling fun with many ladies over the years. i can talk to people and not be all creepy-like...least, not as much as i used to.
Redmage, as he said, ain't the best looking guy. neither is Venray (sorry bro...you ain't no Brad Pitt), or some of the other gents on here. but, they have had their fair share of tickling fun in the past, and continue to do so.
so, let's review: a good personality can lead to good things and good times. even if you're so ugly you send blind people running in fear, it can happen.

 

[Exile]

Hard fetish to be in for a ler?
I'd say it's much harder for a guy who is a lee. Guys who tend to
be on the less 'dominant' side of things like me tend to be less accepted
as a whole in my humble opinion.

It's hard to find ANY truly nice women who aren't taken ANYWHERE nevermind bringing the whole tickling fetish aspect into the relationship.
Then it's twice as hard finding a nice woman who is into the same thing you are. Then you have to hope she is into the dominant aspect.

Just my experience, but less aggressive males don't seem to be accepted
well.

 

[ChosenofMystra]

Not really, I try not to let it dominate my relationships. It can suck when you don't hook up with someone who is ticklish...but if you really love them that shouldn't matter. Its being kind of shallow if you can't be with someone just because they aren't ticklish in my humble opinion.

 

[asutickler]

You're talking about tickling here. Go thank your heavenly stars that you aren't into something SERIOUSLY freaky...

People are only really going to think your tickling fixation is wierd if YOU make it seem that way. i.e. Don't sit a potential mate down and launch into a rambling, sweaty monologue about how you've always felt like a freak for wanting to tie a girl up and tickle her. Be non-chalant. Be cool. And remember: Damn near everyone is a little bit freaky.

 

[DEEPSHOTONE]

You have a great point!!

Hey Day trade, I've actually never thought of it that way. You made a helluv lot of sense in you post. I now have a new prospective on the crazy fetish.
Thanks for giving us both sides of the coin...

 

[MasterTT]

I would honestly say that tickling may arguably be one of the easiest fetishes to be into... Even when compared to my other kink of choice, BDSM, I think tickling's easy... and honestly BDSM isn't all that hard. I mean, I've actually NEVER met a woman who was truly not ticklish (one or two who came too close for my taste, but never one I couldn't crack at all) and it is a very easy subject to approach. There's only one thing I don't like about tickling, that is that it is an odd fetish to be OPEN about, compared to say BDSM, because once people know your "into" tickling there may be a fear that ALL tickling will be construed as sexual. At least for me, I tickle a lot of people, my friends, my friends friends, the occasional family member... and for me it's a different kind of tickling than with a girlfriend or a play partner, but sometimes people think it's the same and that can be uncomfortable. I've never had the experience of just wanting to randomly chain a friend to the wall and bring out the toys just for random kicks with no sexual overtones, so that would be my only tickling complaint. Otherwise, seems to me most girls are ticklish... it even seems to me, most girls are between very and horrendously ticklish if you find the right spot and technique, and if your a crazy extravert like I am, you can get at least a few tickles in almost any time you want.

On the looks thing, looks always help no matter what anyone says, key word... help. Basically to avoid a long rant (my usual kind) I'll put it simply. Looks are ONE factor that denote an alpha male... alpha-male status (or closeness to an alpha) is the thing that maters to women speaking in terms of the biological imperative and evolutionary selection. There are actually many factors that are not looks related for that alpha male status, much more so than men's natural attractors to women which are almost purely physical (don't blame me, blame Darwin... or not even Darwin blame your basic brain function) But I mean only when it is coupled with stereotypes do good looks hurt you (he's so pretty he must be a player, he's so built he must be a stupid meat head) cause those stereotypes go against the comfort building and other factors, but in general, I would say few women are gonna say ... well I would date you, but I'm gonna have to look for an uglier guy. So as usual, I agree strongly both ways... except I completely disagree with the tickling is hard thing.

 

[maniactickler]

Not really, I try not to let it dominate my relationships. It can suck when you don't hook up with someone who is ticklish...but if you really love them that shouldn't matter. Its being kind of shallow if you can't be with someone just because they aren't ticklish in my humble opinion.

Consider me shallow as hell then.

 

[maniactickler]

...but I just personally feel, and many would agree with me, especially women, that looks ALWAYS have quite a bit to do with MOST types of relations between the sexes. I mean, seriously, what sane woman would PREFER to get tickled by an ugly man? I mean, a lady 'lee is gonna honestly say she'd rather be tickled (or have much of ANYTHING done to her, for that matter) by Mel Brooks than Mel Gibson? Not likely.

Keep in mind, women arent as fussy about looks as men are. as far as any serious type of relationship, i absolutely must have a girl thats attractive and fit or it just aint happening, no matter how damn ticklish she is. for a one time tickle session, i can make for some allowances though.

 

[Cavum]

what about acculy being open about what you like and let girls know this.
If they think your a freak, well the hell with em. They ain't girls you should have in your life. I have NEVER met someone who doesn't respect my fetishes. After I opened up about it I found many girls who liked it. And I live in frigging Norway where there only lives 4,7 million people!

 

[tcklft]

If you want to indulge in any kind of fetish, you have to know what you want and then go get it! If you're with someone who can't give you what you need, say "Next!" and keep searching. There are plenty of opportunities out there, just go on out there and find 'em!

 

[crydun]

I'm glad that I have a tickle fetish. Tickling is something that one can relatively easily work into an evening and as we all know is often foreplay to foreplay.

I couldn't have said it better!

 

[LerLee]

Is this a hard fetish to be into? Well, I would have to say no. I'm responding in the negative because I'm comparing tickling to other fetishes. Ok, perhaps I should have said compared to other fetishes, tickling is not a hard fetish to be into.

Think of the other fetishes/perversions that exist. Shoes...beastiality...stuff involving fecal matter. I would imagine that it would be rather difficult to invite a girl over to your place and try to work in animals or crap into the evening. Not true with tickling...tickling is something you can do before you've even reached first base. Maybe not the tied to the bed tortourous kind of tickling but rather the playful/wresting/rolling on the floor tickling. I think that tickling can be seen as playful and something that you can do to a girl without coming across as weird. Recently I've invited two nice ladies over...(one 22 the other 41, both superhot) and I've been able to tickle them (which ultimately led to other things). The 22 year old was super ticklish in all the usual places and would simply lay there laughing hysterically and not struggle to much when I attacked her feet. The 41 year old was only moderately ticklish but was still fun to tickle. But anyway...can you imagine how creeped out they would be if I had a feces fetish??!!?

I'm glad that I have a tickle fetish. Tickling is something that one can relatively easily work into an evening and as we all know is often foreplay to foreplay.

Very well said!

 

[Tzing]

Right there with you, Frankie. My whole life I've found this to be an EXTREMELY hard fetish to live with as a male ler. The way you phrased it implied things are easier for others, hence the pushback. But forget who has it harder. The point is this is damn hard. Sure, a few guys have the personality or develop the charm to comfortably meet girls and acceptably work in tickling. But for every one of them I bet there are hundreds of us for whom life has never been anything like that.

The general advice is spot on: Approach women like people. Be friendly, not creepy. Only try to tickle if things warm up and it feels appropriate. Start fun and casul, not like it's a bid deal. Outside of this forum, I have never once heard of a girl who was into being tickled. But it really is true that most girls will accommodate it if they like you, and some may even find out they love it. I've been fortunate to achieve the former many times, and the latter twice.

Knowing the above doesn't make this easy. I wasted half of my life settling for vanilla relationships, only fantasizing about tickling like I so badly needed. (Advice: don't wait that long!) After my divorce I decided fuck it, I want to try to be happy. Had zero luck here or on fetish sites, but normal dating worked. That was damn hard too. Most cute girls shot me down. But when I got a chance, on first dates I just met them, no pressure or expecations, to see if we clicked in real life. We rarely did. But if we proceeded to a second date I always worked in some casual tickles. It was usually welcome. Seen as normal, playful flirting. The few relationships that became serious only did so because those women truly came to love tickling as part of our intimacy. This is only one facet. I fall in love with the whole person, for dozens of reasons. But since I learned to be honest with myself about my needs, she has to be cute and enjoy being tickled.

Bottom line: you're not alone. Most of life I've wished something could take away this fetish. But there IS hope.