Hard fetish to be into

[FFT32]

All aspects of life has ups & downs, ebbs & flows, good times & bad. How we approach things including our behavior, demeanor and control, play a very big part in our ultimate success in anything we pursue. Yes, luck (both good & bad) are a factor, but not the precursor to our pursuit or eventual success or failure in any aspect of life.

I adore, revel and appreciate the fetish portion of my life and accept the challenges like anything else I choose to go for. This is a very worthwhile topic, we all have much to learn from sharing our experiences and opinions.

 

[wolfman40]

For me it's not a hard thing to be in to at all!

But maybe I look at things through different optics having been part of the UK scene for many years.

I'm not blessed with Adonis good looks and I'm pushing 50, but I'm honored and privileged to have enjoyed plenty of play over the years.

There's no trick or luck involved, but you need to put in effort, attend munches, events, build rapport, talk about things other than kink, I mean everyday stuff!

Meet in a public place, bar or coffee shop, with no play in mind, be decent, kind, respectful of boundaries, provide aftercare, check-in with your play partner the day after, are they ok? Any drop?

Tickling and play are great fun, but for me, not the be all and end all, there will be plenty of downtime, rejection and you have to have resilience and not take it too seriously.

far more important to me is the friendship, camaraderie and goodwill I've built up with being the old wolf of the UK scene.

I wish all happy holidays and all the best for 2025

 

[Libertine]

Well, let's think of other perversions that might be more difficult to satisfy. How would you like to be someone obsessed with stealing women's underwear off clotheslines, or obsessed with little boys, or obsessed with caning women until the blood flows, or maybe even a necrophiliac who's only into animals?

As perversions go, this is one of the mildest and most innocuous I can think of. In my experience over about five decades it's also one that a lot of women are quite willing to accommodate, to some degree or another.

Get out there, learn to converse, deal with rejection like a gentleman and eventually there's every possibility that you'll find what you want.

 

[Bellylaughs]

'Oh I can't find a female lee that wants a relationship'

Try, for one second, try imagining a fully physically female lee that's actually non-binary, aroace, and very not into genitalia, who is also dying for a session but know that there's enough unsafe people out there that I can't just risk it with anybody. 😔

Being repulsed aroace and kinky is DIFFICULT.

 

[brotherted]

Pro: More normies who already like you for other reasons will put up with your tickling, especially early on in the relationship, compared other kinks, such as bdsm.

Cons: This kind has a large gender imbalance (men vs. women), huge role imbalance (lers vs. lees), and if you add together the "hate to be tickled" group and the "not ticklish at all" group it's a sizeable percentage of people with whom you really have no relationship future.

 

[Onnakusuguritai]

Is this a hard fetish to be into? Well, I would have to say no. I'm responding in the negative because I'm comparing tickling to other fetishes. Ok, perhaps I should have said compared to other fetishes, tickling is not a hard fetish to be into.

Think of the other fetishes/perversions that exist. Shoes...beastiality...stuff involving fecal matter. I would imagine that it would be rather difficult to invite a girl over to your place and try to work in animals or crap into the evening. Not true with tickling...tickling is something you can do before you've even reached first base. Maybe not the tied to the bed tortourous kind of tickling but rather the playful/wresting/rolling on the floor tickling. I think that tickling can be seen as playful and something that you can do to a girl without coming across as weird. Recently I've invited two nice ladies over...(one 22 the other 41, both superhot) and I've been able to tickle them (which ultimately led to other things). The 22 year old was super ticklish in all the usual places and would simply lay there laughing hysterically and not struggle to much when I attacked her feet. The 41 year old was only moderately ticklish but was still fun to tickle. But anyway...can you imagine how creeped out they would be if I had a feces fetish??!!?

I'm glad that I have a tickle fetish. Tickling is something that one can relatively easily work into an evening and as we all know is often foreplay to foreplay.

I agree with this. While it can be unnerving sometimes to tickle a girl, I'd definitely consider myself lucky to be a tickle fetishist. I've tickled so many good looking women in my life, most of whom were not even girlfriends, just friends or colleagues. This isn't the kind of privilege people with other kinks or fetishes generally have.

 

[quinn65]

OP's question got me thinking. I'm equally into bondage and tickling, and of the two, I'd say bondage is both easier to talk women into and more "socially acceptable." Back when my wider friend group was shooting tickle clips, a fair number of women told me they were open to being tied up but not tickled. And I'd say there's an informal consensus among my vanilla female friends that having a partner into bondage would be fun (at least sometimes), whereas tickling is more likely to throw a weird vibe.

Then again, casual light or flirty (unbound) tickling seems far more "normal" and common than restraint. Go figure.

Tickling is also a pretty well known hard line for lots of BDSM folks, but probably more because of the humiliation aspect than weirdness. It's tough to look badass being tickled.

But still, as others have pointed out, there are plenty of weirder fetishes.

p.s. I can't think of any woman I know who isn't at least a little ticklish somewhere.

 

[YouNeverKnow175]

Way to revive a 2006 thread! 🙂 I think it's an interesting question and that the answer is it's both hard and one of the best, for a lot of reasons people have touched upon.

I'm going to take away the question of being creepy or whatever for the sake of my exploration because, yes, obviously as mentioned above with the George Clooney example, the way you approach others and the way you engage in your fetish will make a huge difference always.

I think what's hard about it—particularly if you're a ler—is that there are a lot of people who do either find tickling triggering, unbearable, or completely nonsexual. My sense is there are a lot of categories of "not into it / hard limit": 1) people who are insanely ticklish and/or hate it (often these people have had their boundaries crossed with tickling which is what makes them hate it/negatively associate it), 2) people who associate it with childhood / their family, and just can't imagine it being a sexual thing, or don't want to because of their aforementioned associations, 3) people who it just "does nothing for" — now certainly if this kind of person is open, they might be able to get into it to some extent because it turns the partner on, but again it depends on their willingness and openmindedness.

I agree with what some others have said here, though — that in some sense, it's really one of the best fetishes one could possibly be blessed with, especially given some of the other (no shame, but IMO) rather disgusting or more-likely-to-be-offputting things people are into. Because tickling is generally considered playful and flirtatious, it 1) can be very easy to integrate into a relationship, even before you reveal your fetish/kink, 2) can potentially be adopted by a partner who has some tendency toward BDSM/kink, 3) can be easily indulged in playfully with friends etc without disclosing that it's a fetish/kink for you*, 4) there's a wealth of both playful and hardcore tickling videos and stories online that are very easily discovered/enjoyed.

Personally I've never been in a relationship with someone who was into tickling and everyone I've been in a relationship with has embraced it to some extent — even though a few have fallen deep into the "insanely ticklish/hate it" category and have had limited capacity to allow it (which, personally, is both frustrating and really exciting/hot in a certain way too).

*This is, of course, an ethical question — whether, for example, playfully tickling friends when it's a kink for you and they don't know that is ethical. But that's another post for another time. My general feeling is it's innocent enough.