Has Valentines Day got to go?

[CellarDweller]

But if I'm single, I usually get those little valentine cards you would get in grade school and maybe some candy and give them out to my friends and co-workers.

I do the exact same thing. It seems to lift people's spirits a bit.

I'm not in a relationship, and to be honest, only celebrated Valentine's Day once.

It was last year, when I met "Kiwi" (cute guy from New Zealand) for the first time. He arrived in town on Wed., and St. V-Day was on Saturday.

There were sparks between us immediately, and what was supposed to be a friendly meeting turned romantic.

He took me out on Valentine's Day night. Went out to dinner, and when we were finished, he asked to walk around the village with me. When I asked where he wanted to go, he said he had to go back to NZ soon, and they are more...."conventional" there, and he didn't want to go anywhere specific, just to the village area in general, so he can walk the streets, holding my hand.

It was a great Valentine's Day.

 

[kopfhorer1]

I like your suggestion, Annie. I like it a lot! It de-fuses a lot of the exclusion that we might feel if we're single or which our unattached friends might feel. Acknowledging friendships on V-day. That's a great thing to do and a great way of re-conceiving the holiday as more than couplehood, cards and cheap chocolate candies!

 

[Budweiserbob!]

From an economical point of view, getting rid of Valentines day would damage our economy. Not by a lot, but it's one of those days where all the businesses, small or large, profit from it. Yes, huge chains like Wal-Mart (which over here is called ASDA), Tesco, Sainsbury's etc. take the majority share or the spendings but then you have the flourists, chocolateers, card companies who make a good earning from it as well.

Anyway, as for the Valentines day in general, I like it. I mean, yeah, I can see how the whole image of commercialism has corrupted the whole purpose of the day maki ng it seem less meaningful and I can see how our cultures have twisted the day to make those who are less lucky feel shit about themselves. But if you're viewing it in that light then you're not viewing Valentines day right at all. Valentines day is about showing the people you care about most in this world that you care about them. These can be between lovers or close friends. And you don't even need to make it all "Valentines Day"-ey. One year, I gave my wife a photo album filled pictures of us from over the years.

Photo Album: £7.99
Decorations and written messages: £1.49.
The look on her face: Priceless.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is:

- The whole commercialistic aspect of Valentines day is bad.
- Having a day which reminds you to show how much you care about the person you love is good.

It's quite ironic how such a sweet, loving pseudo-holiday can invoke such bitter reactions. 😛

 

[chicag0]

The only people that hate Valentine's Day are the ones that are truly sad and lonely. Otherwise, why would anyone care whether other people celebrate it? Choose to participate or don't. That's no reason to shit all over everyone else for enjoying it.

Fin.

 

[Tom Tickle]

I don't think that's the argument most people are making. They don't like the overcommercialisation of it, just as I don't like the overcommercialisation of The World Cup. When you're in a good relationship, most days feel like Valentines day anyway, or the way I think Valentines day should be celebrated (i.e. not being pressured to spend spend spend by advertisers, because of course, that would mean you're not much of a lover).

I'm single at the moment, but I've had a few pleasant Valentines days, one terrible one and two amazing ones; one in a loving, affectionate sense, and one which was defined by pure sexual tension with the sexiest girl i've ever been with. I think i'll be okay this Valentines day.

 

[Oblivion]

I believe in the power of love.

Best gift I ever gave to someone was a hug when they needed it on Valentine's.

 

[chicag0]

There are things about Valentine's Day I dislike as well, just like there are things I dislike about Christmas, New Years, and even Columbus Day. Luckily, I have the choice to celebrate them or not and let others do the same.

 

[Slaver123]

This is one of my favorite sites. They have VERY twisted V-Day cards

http://www.i-mockery.com/minimocks/valentines06/

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

This is the second time in three years that I've been dumped just prior to V-Day. I don't like how I'm trending. :unsure

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

This is the second time in three years that I've been dumped just prior to V-Day. I don't like how I'm trending. :unsure

aww,I'm sorry to hear that sweetie

 

[Frost King]

I hate valentines day it brings back painful memories