How do you KNOW?

[Tamia78]

Yay! I posted something!

I felt the need to come out of weird thread hiatus becuse of this. I always have found it interesting when people say it was "love at first sight" or something to that effect. It sounds good, and it's nice that people really feel that way.

As for me? I'm a cynical bitch. I've never been in love, and actually doubt it could even happen that way for me.

So, my question is: How do you know when you're in love? What did you see in that person that made you think, "Yep, I'm going to be with this person for a loooong time!"

Please be as mushy as you can. I like mush! I need to say "Awwww" today!

--T

 

[Snail Shell]

When you see a fine, perfectly round, white leather-clad behind staring at you from in front of a white tiger in the signature above you. 😉

Snail Shell

 

[The Fallen Angel]

When i met my wife we clicked instantly, and every second of the day i would be thinking about her and wondering what she was doing. We would make an effort to see each other every day and always talked on the phone for hours a day. We were able to be ourselves around each other from the start and had fun doing absolutly nothing. It just felt different than any other relationship i had ever been in, its hard to explain when exactly you know but when your in the position you understand. We have been together about 3 and a half years and married a few monthes over a year.

 

[Tamia78]

That's awesome, Trez. You just made me have my 1st "AWWW" moment.

Thank you for sharing!

--T

(Well, 2nd moment because of Snail )

 

[BellaRisa]

I've been in love twice, and I'm still in love with them and always will be. I knew it was love when I literally couldn't breathe at the thought of life without either of them, and I knew that there was nothing I couldn't tell them, nothing I could achieve in life that would have the same meaning without being able to share it with them, and with them behind me I could achieve anything. I knew it was love when it was 'friendship caught fire', the perfect mix of best friend and passionate lover.

And they love babies, good food, and Looney Tunes as much as I do 🙂

 

[Tortuga]

When you can't go a day without hearing each others voice. And when just a simple thought of that person makes you smile like a fool.

 

[Tamia78]

Thank you, ladies.....I'm feeling warm and fuzzy now!

Seriously, you both rock!

 

[penny lane]

It's hard for me to answer. It's something you just know. I like what Dr. Suess says about being in love......"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."

 

[Perduabo]

Yay! I posted something!

I felt the need to come out of weird thread hiatus becuse of this. I always have found it interesting when people say it was "love at first sight" or something to that effect. It sounds good, and it's nice that people really feel that way.

As for me? I'm a cynical bitch. I've never been in love, and actually doubt it could even happen that way for me.

So, my question is: How do you know when you're in love? What did you see in that person that made you think, "Yep, I'm going to be with this person for a loooong time!"

Please be as mushy as you can. I like mush! I need to say "Awwww" today!

--T

I've said it before and I'll mos likely end up saying it again 🙂

I've always said that when you find "the one", the main thing that tells me this is something more than a fling or infatuation is when the person makes you feel literally immortal, when nothing can break you down, either physically or mentally. They are your rock, your beacon of light in dark and troubling times. They are your confidantes, your best friend, the one person you can feel unashamed to show your true feelings to. But as previously stated, the main thing which indicates this to me is the feeling of intense strength that you give to one another.To be so in tune with each others' wants, needs and feelings that it almost borders on clairvoyance.

My boyfriend (with serious talk of fiance in the future) feel this way about one another. I hope to god it never ends...

 

[Cy/MiG]

So, my question is: How do you know when you're in love? What did you see in that person that made you think, "Yep, I'm going to be with this person for a loooong time!"

--T

Well, I'm not married, but...

First off 'to each their own' (which is an empty rhetoical saying that holds little to no bearing or means everything)

Secondly (and personally):

You just know.

In my experiences, it's just an altogether horrible sinking feeling combined with an amazing feeling of joy.

Everytime you see the person you get 'butterflies' and chills. You can't stop thinking about that person. You get paranoid and scared of what to say and when. You either feel immensly weak or strong enough to take on the world. Etc, etc, etc. Totaly bi polarity.

Cliched and generic, yes, I know, but thats the way I see it.

 

[janedoe1]

When you can't go a day without hearing each others voice. And when just a simple thought of that person makes you smile like a fool.

 

[kis123]

I've always said that when you find "the one", the main thing that tells me this is something more than a fling or infatuation is when the person makes you feel literally immortal, when nothing can break you down, either physically or mentally. They are your rock, your beacon of light in dark and troubling times. They are your confidantes, your best friend, the one person you can feel unashamed to show your true feelings to. But as previously stated, the main thing which indicates this to me is the feeling of intense strength that you give to one another.To be so in tune with each others' wants, needs and feelings that it almost borders on clairvoyance.

*THUD*



I've only had this happen two times in my life. Unfortunately, neither of them were in my marriage.

My last SO and the gentleman I'm talking to now are both examples of the above statement. My last SO lacked maturity, but my current man has it and then some.

My current fella contacted me from one of my BBW sites and had no pic. I normally do not contact guys who don't give a photo and his profile was really brief. But there was something that screamed to me to respond to him. I did and it's been on ever since. We've been on the phone for hours at a time. He did send me a pic because you don't have to be pretty, but you can't be ugly-and he isn't by a long shot!

There is a fire, an indescribable heat that you feel and you can't ignore. It's not necessarily a sexual thing, but it doesn't hurt if you know what I mean. It's that something that burns on the inside and nothing can quench it until you start your journey.

These gentlemen did not fit my so-called profile; they didn't necessarily have the look I liked. But there was undeniable heat and something that couldn't be denied until I stepped just a little further..........

That last one didn't work out but that was his loss. This one I have now...oh my friggin' goodness!! There's some distance between us right now (and it should be, trust me) but he's a simple guy with some complications I'm just dying to dive into. I simply can't help myself and I'm overtaken. Nothing I can do but ride the huge wave.........

I simply cannot help myself. When you just can't help yourself you know you're in it in a major way.

 

[unclebill]

As pretty as you are, along with a personality to match I`m sure you won`t be on the market too much longer, Tamia. I deeply regret marrying so young (20). You have dated enough and now have the maturity to know just what you`re looking for.

 

[BellaRisa]

As pretty as you are, along with a personality to match I`m sure you won`t be on the market too much longer, Tamia. I deeply regret marrying so young (20). You have dated enough and now have the maturity to know just what you`re looking for.

Marrying young is fine if you're ready; I married at 20 in 1993, and we're still absolutely crazy for each other

 

[milagros317]

I would say that you know that you are in love with somebody when you very much want that person to be happy, when their happiness is essential to you.
😀

 

[The Fallen Angel]

Marrying young is fine if you're ready; I married at 20 in 1993, and we're still absolutely crazy for each other

i married at 18 and now im 20 and we are doing great, i cant speak for the future but i dont invision anything changing

 

[Tamia78]

Yay! I come back from work to read more awesomeness!

Sounds like the simple answer is, "You just know"

Well, I hope you guys know what you're talking about, lol.

 

[kurchatovium]

When being with the person in question gives you the same feeling as looking at a rainbow or seeing a gorgeous sunset. Thats when you are in wuv and wuv is love to the third power.

 

[Saeria]

How do i know? Well, it's actually kind of a silly way of telling, but my first indicator that i'm growing attached is i start doing portraits of the person. From there, growing fondness and then it starts to where i crave being alone less and being around this person more. I finally know for sure when suddenly the hugs turn into embraces that erase the entire world away from us, no sound, no real environmental awareness, time sorta slips by. Its when I realize I'm finally content with getting older. My last few months have gone by so quickly and before i know it, we'll be old and gray, sitting on our rockers on the front porch talking about the barefeet walking by, nursing home zombies, playing pull my finger (but not too hard because i has the arthritis), or just enjoying eachother's presence in silence as we often do. I look forward to it.

 

[CarolinaTickler]

For me, I think love is a progressive thing that I sort of build up to and the reasons may change depending on how our relationship progresses. I usually know I'm in love when I get this feeling everytime I see her. It is kind of like an excited feeling where I stop smiling.

But I think it is kind of like Tamia said, you just know. It isn't for any one particular reason, it is just that you know and you love that person because you know. I don't mean know as in an intellectual type of know, though I think you can convince yourself to love someone, I think it is just a feeling you get that lets you know.

 

[Tamia78]

Well said, everyone!

My next question: How do you know it's not just infatuation?

 

[..Glamorous..]

Well said, everyone!

My next question: How do you know it's not just infatuation?

Because it literally hurts to be away from that person. You spend all of your time thinking about them and worrying about their wellbeing. They can make you smile and laugh, no matter what. At least this is how I knew I was in love with my husband, our marriage may not seem perfect but it's perfect for us.

 

[Tamia78]

They can make you smile and laugh, no matter what.

I like that.......nice, Glam!

 

[Carsomyr]

I always have found it interesting when people say it was "love at first sight" or something to that effect. It sounds good, and it's nice that people really feel that way.

*minor rant*
Mmmm... Sure, "clicking" at once is one thing, but I'm a bit suspicious towards people who think of "love at first sight" as a literal term. If you fall in love with someone at first sight you just fall in love with their body, it's not like you know squat about who they are...

And as for the people who have claimed to experience it: Sorry, but no. I hate to ruin the romance and all but I don't believe it really happened that way. I personally believe that love is so much deeper than that; a true connection between two minds. In extreme cases I bet it can happen over a day or two, but in the blink of an eye??? [/rant]

As for the feeling you get when you love someone... yeah you'll know it. Unfortunately I haven't got any "awww" stories to share with you, Tamia, but I hope that's alright. 🙂

 

[penny lane]

My next question: How do you know it's not just infatuation?

Lust is an intense sexual desire. Infatuation refers to the initial stage of a relationship, when you are "crazy" about him/her, but this feeling usually fades over time. Examples of infatuation would be that you're totally focused on their looks or body, you don't necessarily care about anything they have to say, or you only want to be with them to have sex.

You have to be honest with yourself. You need to ask yourself does the relationship bring out the best in both of you? Is your life better because your boy/girlfriend is in it? Really? Do you enjoy spending time together? Does his/ her mother know about you?