How do you KNOW?

[natural tickler]

besides just knowing, you won't have to think twice, there is no doubt creeping in your head, you just do think about it, you just react....

when that person just loves you just because, no reasoning, like giving flowers just to give them, no agendas, stuff like that

hope it helps

 

[Saeria]

I think the thing that truly seperates love from infatuation is time vs tolerability. The longer you're with a person do you find yourself wanting to be around them more or less? "the one" is the one you'd be glad to be stuck with for the rest of your life, not just the one you can usually put with.

 

[Gothika]

How do i know? Well, it's actually kind of a silly way of telling, but my first indicator that i'm growing attached is i start doing portraits of the person. From there, growing fondness and then it starts to where i crave being alone less and being around this person more. I finally know for sure when suddenly the hugs turn into embraces that erase the entire world away from us, no sound, no real environmental awareness, time sorta slips by. Its when I realize I'm finally content with getting older. My last few months have gone by so quickly and before i know it, we'll be old and gray, sitting on our rockers on the front porch talking about the barefeet walking by, nursing home zombies, playing pull my finger (but not too hard because i has the arthritis), or just enjoying eachother's presence in silence as we often do. I look forward to it.

yupppers i will be tickling ya old wrinkly bare feet and pullig ya fragile fingers off woooooooo hooooooo will be ousome

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Love takes work.

I know that that love is happiness, is need, is feeling amazing just thinking or talking about the one you love.

Love is great.

 

[Redmage]

So, my question is: How do you know when you're in love? What did you see in that person that made you think, "Yep, I'm going to be with this person for a loooong time!"

Just a note that those aren't the same thing: Knowing you're in love isn't a reliable indicator for how long it will last.

But setting that quibble aside, my guideline is when I know that I can't be happy unless she's happy.

 

[LindyHopper]

I felt the need to come out of weird thread hiatus becuse of this. I always have found it interesting when people say it was "love at first sight" or something to that effect. It sounds good, and it's nice that people really feel that way.

As for me? I'm a cynical bitch. I've never been in love, and actually doubt it could even happen that way for me.

I'm with you. I've felt that kind of instant chemistry with about two people in my life, and the only one I got to know well turned out to be a disaster.

I feel like "love at first sight" can't be based on anything real. It's the love that develops over a period of time, growing stronger the better you get to know each other, that's really going to carry you through.

So, my question is: How do you know when you're in love? What did you see in that person that made you think, "Yep, I'm going to be with this person for a loooong time!"

I think we can talk about two different kinds of love. There's the crazy, passionate, can't-stop-thinking about him emotion of love, that I recognize and enjoy. Really, there's nothing like it! But there's also the feeling of being warm, safe, appreciated and understood. That's the one that tells me I want to be with this person for the rest of my life.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I think we can talk about two different kinds of love. There's the crazy, passionate, can't-stop-thinking about him emotion of love, that I recognize and enjoy. Really, there's nothing like it! But there's also the feeling of being warm, safe, appreciated and understood. That's the one that tells me I want to be with this person for the rest of my life. (Quote by LindyHopper)
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I couldn't agree with you more LindyHopper yeah there definitely is 2 kinds of love, definitely the passionate can't stop thinking about you and the warm and safe appreciated and understood love takes hard work love. And I agree the crazy passionate love is wonderful amazing while it lasts-it is a great honeymoon stage at beginning of relationship-it would be great if it lasted forever-but alas we are all human and we all have flaws and we all make mistakes. We all have our weaknesses and we all have our share of strengths. Whereas the warm safe and appreciated hard work love-takes a lot of time, effort, patience, understanding, emotional tolerance, consideration, thoughtness, time and ect. Takes personal sacrifices and compromise and negotiations and a lot of the not fun things that is needed to keep relationships and marriages strong and alive and burning and vibrant and happy and healthy. Whereas infatuation I say could be a kin to the bubbly crazy passionate honeymoon stage-second relation if you will..... only infatuation lasts longer than the "initial" honeymoon stage whereas the honeymoon stage doesn't last that long.

Infatuation is based on how one is feeling, those happy fuzzy warm feelings and on one's sexual desires and based on how one looks and infatuation has the voice later of he or she is so wonderful and great but what can I have him or her do for me. Whereas with love-not based on what good feelings I can keep going for me, it is mutual and shared and not one sided, thinking on what I can do to make the other happy and feel loved and cherished and appreciated and understood, not the focus on keeping the honeymoon and infatuation feeling alive. Does that make sense. When it is love you think about what will be best for the other person and their happiness, you want to do things for that person, you want to give your best to that person, and you are willing to make sacrifices to show you love that person. When you love someone that person is your rainbow and sunshine in the middle of the storm and your moon and stars and inspiration-help you stay inspired and motivated-you want to always do what you can to be there for that person and that person wants to be there for you. It is not just the big things it is the little things too....when you have a victory and that person is the one of the first you wish to share it with, when you see something funny and want to share what made you laugh, when you feel sad yet in the midst of your pain you think of your significant other and hope he or she is not sad or not having a bad day, if he or she is having a bad day-you want to do what you can to make it a great day. These are just a few things.