How important is tickling to your relationships?

[Tiger.Lily]

Without trying to sound too harsh, at this point I wouldn't bother getting close with a guy if he wasn't at least supportive of my fetish. He wouldn't absolutely have to be willing to come to gatherings, etc, but I'd totally need him to play with me quite frequently, and be okay with my involvement in the community. I'm willing to compromise a little bit, but with this, it's kinda my way or the highway.

This exactly.

I don't need my s.o. to be involved in the community, but he/she needs to accept my involvement and understand that it's a big part of my life. And, to be quite honest, while there's things that this community can give me that a s.o. who doesn't understand the fetish couldn't give me, I'd also need plenty of play from my partner, as well. There's a definite sexual component to it that I would need catered to. If it's not, then there's no possible way that we could work.

Also, I'm going to go one step pickier and say that I need a switch. I can't date someone who isn't ticklish, and who wouldn't let me play with them, and vice versa. I'm too tapped in to my Dominant nature to have that side cast away because they couldn't get into being tickled. It's just not going to work for me.

I'm not asking a lot, right? xP Oh well. At least I know what will work and what won't work.

 

[Mz Chaos]

In the past, I was content to set aside my interest in tickling, however there was always that empty spot in those relationships.

But now, an interest in tickling is something that would have to be present in a partner.

 

[Lea28]

Essential...

Ticking equals fun, equals chemistry, equals passion and sex. I've just learned to appreciate multiple orgasms as my new lover sucks my toes and strokes my feet as we make love... the toe sucking is amazing and his tongue on my toes / soles is, well, incredibly orgasmatic.

Tickling and foot play in a relationship is sooooooooo important to me. Oh, and making him hot by tickling him before and during sex is lots of fun too!

best, Lea

 

[Sandrock74]

I've discovered thru some harsh life lessons that whomever I am with needs to be willing to play with me. My interest in tickling is just a part of who I am. Why should I be forced to shut off this part of me?

 

[huskys]

It is just a part of my life now. If I had a choice, life would be much easier. I feel the way I can't change my skin or eye color, i can not get rid of this fetish nor do I want to. Some people would think that for the "right person" I'd shut it out for them but that's wrong. The right person will want to turn me on and do things that I like. With the right person, whatever makes me feel good should make him feel good about himself and the relationship; but the problem is that I never bring it up in the beginning of a relationship. They will respect it, and learn to understand it (perhaps not as much as we all understand of course)

Excellent point.
It's not as if we have 3 heads or something. lol
I would want want my significant other to at least respect, even if she didn't completely understand where I was coming from with it all. 🙂

 

[gluestick]

Personally, not important at all. Never was when I dated, never is being married. Whenever I need to "get it out of my system" I just make a drawing.

 

[meangry]

Important enough that it can't be off the table.

Not so much that my sexual prowess relies solely upon it.q

 

[dr_random]

I am extremly lucky that my wife is very open and supportive of my tickling fetish. I have been into tickling for a very long time, and she was the first person I confided in, while we were dating, and she has been nothing but supportive and excited to indulge me. She just so happens to be into BDSM herself, so bringing her into this was fairly easy. She loves to be tied up and enjoys to be tickled as well as other harsher punishments ^_~, so we indulge eachother.
She has even suggested going to nest next year for our honeymoon, since we haven't had ours yet. She's awesome!! She also wants to join the forum now that I've fully introduced her to the world.
See you guys in the future.
Stay tuned for possible amateur videos 😉

 

[Sammy Scales]

Incredibly important to me... I came to a point in my life where I made the decision that I would not be with anyone who did not embrace who I was and what I enjoy... My wife took to it with glee, enjoys it (well, she enjoys lering me more than being the lee) and we indulge all the time...

If a woman wasn't interested in letting me be me, she wouldn't be with me.

 

[CD216]

It's important to me in that it's a part of the person that I am, but it's not on the list of things I need to know right away. As several others pointed out, if I'm going to be in a relationship, I need to be able to be myself, and if I can't be, then why waste my time? I may not be the best out there, in fact I'm kind of a shmuck to be honest, but hey, 6 billion people on this planet, 3 billion of them being women, why settle for someone who you have to have a facade on for?

-Chris

 

[Deleted member 2452]

extremely!

i have found that if we go too long in-between tickles we start to get edgy and fight.. alot! i think it has become our safty valve, and we rely on it, maybe too much.
it has been more than 6 weeks since our last tickle/sex session, and we are fighting, and talking of spliting up. obviously there are deeper problems, but when the tickling is good, they just don't seem so unbareable.

steve

 

[Tomato_Dragon]

Definitely plays a role in our relationship. Makes it that much more fun 🙂

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

When this question came up in the past, I always said that I could do without if I loved a guy who wasn't into it. Fortunately for me, Drew is just as into it as I am. As time has passed and I've come to understand and accept it more in myself, I've realized that it really is something that I can't do without.

 

[likestklshfeet]

Lea i think you make an excellent point here, my wife's hot spot is her feet and they are much more ticklish on them after sex and she knows that me tickling them gets me excited at times, so it is a win/ win situation