How to drive women away from the chatroom.

[4Pawz]

Well, if you all had been in the chatroom yesterday, you noticed quite a change in tolerance levels. I, along with the other chat mods, have been taking steps to change things for the better.

As I said in the chat last night in quite a long speech, it is a group effort. The mods can't do it alone. A large majority of the stuff mentioned has happened while the moderators weren't present, or in private, such as the PC's. If things are happening while mods aren't present, you have to let us know. If people are pcing you without permission tell us, no, not just say stop pcing me, tell us WHO is pcing without permission.

If I don't see something, and I am in the room, let me know! Sometimes I am working on other windows, and I don't catch every word said in the room. If things are mod related, I don't mind being pced about them, I even encourage it.

As far as general behavior, I expect people to act like adults. It's a tickling chatroom, it's supposed to be fun. It's no fun when every five minutes a fight breaks out over something rather silly, or people are pcing you without permission nonstop.

If people are bothering you, tell a mod, whether someone is starting a fight, saying something offensive, or pcing without permission. However, the proper way to handle things does not include throwing a fit in the main room when someone pc's you, or fighting over it. That just disrupts the main room and often just elevates the problem.

To sum this long lovely soapbox rant, if something is occuring that shouldn't, tell a mod. If you have a problem, tell a mod. And if you say that someone is causing you problems, let us know what happened and who did it. If a mod warns you, or disciplines you, for whatever violation you did, don't argue with them. If you have questions about it, that is one thing, but arguing, well, many of you know I don't tolerate it.

Rant ended, please try to have fun in the chatroom. It is supposed to be a happy place!!!!😀 Help us keep it that way!

Pawz

 

[QBWeaver]

Cyber tickling was so much fun when I first got online but I quickly found out that

1. It doesn't tickle
2. It just wears out my fingers on the keyboard!

So I don't do it anymore.

 

[Eric Von Zipper]

Ya know, I think Pawz may be right. If you run into problems in chat, just tell a Mod. Lord knows I could've gotten SCORES of "people" banned if i had just informed a Mod everytime someone in there offended me, harrassed me or "hurt my feelings.", as was evidentely done to me. So, be sure to fink on thy neighbor; it's the American way no?, end of rant.

 

[ticklebutton]

Hey, I'm noticing...

a distinct improvement in behaviour!

Button😛

 

[grippedchimp]

Perhaps the Viagra wore off then...

 

[Roseblossom]

lol chimpy...you silly...

but sex isn't the problem, it's a simple matter of treating people courteously, and with respect.

I've noticed it's better lately too, button. Hooray! 🙂

 

[TickleLee]

Re: Authoring a book...

Is this a preview of your upcoming novelette "Chatroom For Dummies?"...😉 Q

When is this gonna be published? I want to get a few copies and leave them around town....

 

[TicklishShel]

I gota some to add .....

1) You don't always have to ask me about my feet right away. Believe it or not all girls arent into feet.
2) I love to talk about tickling but not into cybering. If you ask me nicely if i wanna do that and i say no dont just leave without saying goodbye. Thats just frickin rude.
3) I know a guy on yahoo that doesnt even say hi anymore. He says 'tell me a story' like i'm his story slut. No how ru or whats new. Then you guys wonder why you cant get a girl that wants to play with you. You dont even know how to talk to girls. Its like were some tickling video or something that you can jus turn on or off when you want something.
Sorry i just had to let that out.



Michelle 🙂

 

[TickleLee]

1) You don't always have to ask me about my feet right away. Believe it or not all girls arent into feet.
2) I love to talk about tickling but not into cybering. If you ask me nicely if i wanna do that and i say no dont just leave without saying goodbye. Thats just frickin rude.
3) I know a guy on yahoo that doesnt even say hi anymore. He says 'tell me a story' like i'm his story slut. No how ru or whats new. Then you guys wonder why you cant get a girl that wants to play with you. You dont even know how to talk to girls. Its like were some tickling video or something that you can jus turn on or off when you want something.
Sorry i just had to let that out.
Michelle 🙂

WOW.😀

THAT is a nice post.

I will not go into a rant about why some people (male AND female) consider others (male AND female) to be their objects of desire that can be turned on and off at whim. But I've got a REALLY good guess as to why many do consider others to be objects.

Unforutunately, there is no way to stop others from being this way. Thankfully there are plenty of peope (male and female) that have better manners.

I spoke with someone this morning via chat who was delightful. She was married, but we had a nice, fun conversation none the less. And a conversation that her husband could have witnessed without being made to feel uncomfortable.

🙂

(and not every guy is into feet either)

 

[devilscabanaboy]

thought I'd jump in

From above:

"I gota some to add .....

1) You don't always have to ask me about my feet right away. Believe it or not all girls arent into feet.
2) I love to talk about tickling but not into cybering. If you ask me nicely if i wanna do that and i say no dont just leave without saying goodbye. Thats just frickin rude.
3) I know a guy on yahoo that doesnt even say hi anymore. He says 'tell me a story' like i'm his story slut. No how ru or whats new. Then you guys wonder why you cant get a girl that wants to play with you. You dont even know how to talk to girls. Its like were some tickling video or something that you can jus turn on or off when you want something.
Sorry i just had to let that out."


I can't really speak of the behavior of any gender in the chatroom -
I rarely (rarely meaning maybe once every 3 months or so) go into it - and then I have to be really bored. I don't venture in because invariably the discussion in the main part is either a) nonexistent, b) full of people just throwing out overt tickling references like " x tickles y's feet" or "where are you most ticklish?", etc., c) has random duos/trios having a tk conversation line by line, which could probably be private and which is hard for an outsider to jump in on, or d)is on an obscure topic that I have no knowledge/interest in - an anime conversation is an example of one of the rare occasions I have seen this.

What I find most surprising is the range, or lack thereof, of conversation. I don't really know what other people are talking about in PM's, but the only ones I ever got were, obviously, along the "m/f?", "a/s/l", "where are you ticklish", "wanna cyber?" line. If I'm going to talk to someone, I want to talk. This may be a tickling board, and so it's understandable that people talk tickling, but for me personally, I already expect the people there to be into tickling. That means we all have one thing in common - so I'd rather move on to other topics that might reveal a person. I don't think I've ever had a conversation on literature, the arts, movies, philosophy, politics, or any other intelligent topic in this chatroom (or any others). They're not quite things you throw out on the main board, and they're not quite things you can PM to ask someone if they want to talk about - especially the women, because I know they're getting bombarded with the inane things I posted above. I'm willing to bet, though, that there are plenty of women that are just looking to have a nice conversation without being treated like a tickle object or getting stalked by the people they talk to.

So, I'm looking for a good conversation. I can (and will) discuss just about anything. I won't toot my own horn about my education or my background or any of that, nor do I want to insult anyone else by casting general negatives about other people - you won't get an accurate portrayal of me unless you actually feel like talking to me. Like I said, I'd rather treat the tickling thing as a given - that alone is a great given, since with most other people, that's one thing we don't share in common, so it's one part of yourself you have to hold back on and not share. You can send me a message anytime (AOL IM or e-mail - Mr Pink108 or [email protected]) or just post a reply here if people just want to talk.

And even if you don't want to do that, I'm curious, how many people, male and female, feel like I do and would prefer a conversation with someone from here that's not on tickling?

DCB

 

[MrPartickler]

guess i will chime in after all

I think the only behaviors that are changeable or even somewhat controllable are the ones outlined in the list of "Chatroom Rules" (e.g., harassing, PCing w/o permission, name-calling, etc.). I suppose the purpose of this post wasn't really to focus on this limitation, but rather to express frustration at the reality of chatting in a fetish chatroom.

In particular, the TMF forum itself will feature frequent posts--from men mostly but also women--about favorite celebs, what types of body parts people like best, who/what they find most attractive, etc. Personally, I don't really care much about those threads or discussions. However, if that's not offensive enough to be prohibited from the main board (scan the listings even now), I hardly see how it should be scorned in the chatroom.

Basically, folks can be offended by any number of subtle things (NOT prohibited by the rules). I've recently seen a good discussion "moderated" out of existence because someone uninvolved, misunderstood the conversation entirely, and was therefore offended. Let's hope this isn't the direction we're headed into now.

 

[Oddjob0226]

So.... since I've never done any of the above things, how do we get 'em to come in, stay, AND TALK TO ME????

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Actually, there is a thread about your favorite obscure celeb going opn in this section right now.

 

[ticklebutton]

Laughing out loud...!

"Wait but I thought the best way to drive woman away was to...chase them with insects, and if all else failed you simply told them you had boy cuties..."


I'm still giggling, angel, too cute! *smile*
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[locque]

Looks like someone's bitter. Oh well. tough! lads will be lads lol

 

[Ticklerdes]

Well...

Some of these horror stories are actually kinda funny...hehehe...

...oh god my gender has no common sense..*Hangs head in shame*

 

[narin]

never had it...

I've only ever had a few probs with the chat room, most of them involving people who thought they had morals...

As for the PC PM whatever stuff, it's easy enough just to click 'em closed, so I don't often complain, outside of the over-obvious reference in the main room to people who should be asking before IMing... if these people had any sense of politeness they'd be embarassed... but they don't. So. Well nevermind that.

You just gotta stand up for yourself. For a while there, when I was in the chat room a lot, pre-new appartment, I had a rep for being a biatch to anyone who didn't respect my space. NEhoo, if you frequent the chat room it's easy enough to get a rep.... hehehe just a bit of advice, probably not good advice... I seem to be cracked out tonight.


Cats. Buckets.


-Narin

 

[jordan]

Yeah, that guys who writes those books should write it. It would fit in good in with his other books.

Computers For Dummies (walmart)
Windows for Dummies (Best buy)
Voodoo for Dummies (Bride of Chucky)

 

[BigJim]

Re: never had it...

For a while there, when I was in the chat room a lot, pre-new appartment, I had a rep for being a biatch to anyone who didn't respect my space.

-Narin

Especially if the space happened to be near your feet? 😀😛

Sorry. I'm cracked tonight as well. I'm off for a beer.

 

[Roseblossom]

It's nice to see that most of our guys "get it", isn't it?

I especially agree with you about the contemptuous joke or comment in the main room that some people will try to laugh off, even though it reflects a disturbing hostility.

The "boys will be boys" shrug is not the way to handle that.

Happily I've seen many of our members (men and women too) jump in and confront it. (thank you; we notice and remember! *kiss*)

 

[nosforatiop]

Re: Laughing out loud...!

"Wait but I thought the best way to drive woman away was to...chase them with insects, and if all else failed you simply told them you had boy cuties..."


I'm still giggling, angel, too cute! *smile*
Button 😛

So it's possible to make a woman laugh without tickling her after all. 😉

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Hey, Cabana Boy...if you're looking for intelligent, erudite conversation about pop culture, politics, whatever, look me up when you come in the room. For the most part, I'm there for the same reasons you are, to find interesting people to have great conversations with, and I sometimes feel like Diogenes carrying his torch throughout the world...

 

[tickler_n_black]

Also you could just pull your car up to the chat room door and ask women to get in. That would work, right?

 

[BigJim]

Heh heh. No girls in the room at the mo. Well....... no room full stop.