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How to turn a ticklish person into a tickle fan?

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duderino84

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So lately I've met a girl who is really nice, and we're reasonably interested in each other as prospects for a relationship (we've talked in detail about one another's personalities and preferences, physically etc).

Naturally there is one thing, and it seems that thing is to a degree she's afraid of tickling. I met her online, and over the course of a few months we talked (she was originally talking to me as a friend and was not into tickling, but she wanted to date me after a while and she is trying to deal with "this"). Naturally I saw her and as a gesture of good intent I lightly brushed her side when she asked about my "approach" in tickling. She's still talking to me so I guess it wasn't dreadful.

We're still talking and she continues to say things like "I love affection, tickling I am not sure of, but I'm willing to give it a shot".
I actually don't want to lose this one. She's nicer than most I've met. She's gotten a first taste of tickling and hasn't cut the cord yet as so many others do. But knowing the hit or miss way that I meet girls, I would guage her as being truly in between; she likes me, but she's clearly exhibiting she's nervous about being touched. She's asked me about "how" I would tickle. I replied with "gently, and lightly squeezing, but not looking to poke roughly, only looking to squeeze out laughs" (yes, I know, pure idiocy in all its glory). I even offered to file my nails down. Which she thought was funny.

So. I've really only met girls that I guess were ..... trying not to sound silly here, but I guess hungry enough for relationships that they were willing to deal with some bullshit (tickling) to find a guy. I don't know how to really make someone feel at ease with it other than the typically clumsy way of slowly starting someone off (these days I work from the palms throughout).

Anyone got any ideas? I haven't met a girl that was as nervous as this in years. The others just seemed to go "well, he's started, guess it doesn't hurt, here goes. "
 
I suggest first talking with her about the aspects of tickling and how TRUST is a major component. Let her know and in no way are you going to hurt her and she's in full control of when to start and stop "for now" lol. As a first timer , maybe its best that you bring her in slowly , like just sit on the couch , NO BONDAGE OF ANY KIND , and just "gently play " with her feet (if she's ticklish there if not, wherever a spot is). Let her get used to the sensations , nothing that will make her hysterical just enough to get some giggling going.But always making her in charge of when to stop. Maybe let her tickle YOU abit . Slowly build in time from there........just my 2 cents
 
Yea I'm trying to make it about trust, I haven't used that word tho.

She mentioned she likes being tied up so I joked maybe we could. Lol she said "ya but only if it's for pleasure, not just tickling ". I basically said it would be for pleasure and i made it work for ppl before.

Should I let her establish "no" spots yet? I've heard no feet no pits.
 
Should I let her establish "no" spots yet? I've heard no feet no pits.
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You should let her establish everything she needs to feel comfortable. To get her into this, you need to respect every no she says immediately. If she wants it to stop, it stops. It is important that she has the option to say no at all times.

Start slowly, soft touches, and let her decide when it's enough. You have to give her the feeling that she is always in control.
 
Wait....have you guys hung out yet?

I find the tolerance for tickling is directly proportional to how much she likes you.

Have you guys had vanilla sex yet? What are her sexual desires?

It really doesn't matter how much you like her. The only thing that matters is how much she likes you. It's established that you like her. Are her needs being met? If they are and she's happy and she wants to keep you the tickling thing will take care of itself on it's own...as long as you respect her in the process too.
 
GQguy said:
Wait....have you guys hung out yet?

I find the tolerance for tickling is directly proportional to how much she likes you.

Have you guys had vanilla sex yet? What are her sexual desires?

It really doesn't matter how much you like her. The only thing that matters is how much she likes you. It's established that you like her. Are her needs being met? If they are and she's happy and she wants to keep you the tickling thing will take care of itself on it's own...as long as you respect her in the process too.
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We've dated once, we're supposed to hang this weekend. She's really big on being fingered. She likes to ask me all sorts of sexual questions regularly so far. How much that means, I have no idea.

Yea, guy affection means nada. Lol.

Personality wise the feeling is mutual just when I hear "I don't know if I can stand it".....that just throws me for a loop. She's already giving pet names so.
 
It sounds like she has a genuine interest in you. Be honest, discuss it with her and make sure you don't keep anything from her. Everyone here is right; take it slow. If she is a real keeper, then she'll be around for a while, so take your time. The fact that she knows you like it and says she's afraid of it, but is willing to keep talking is a good sign. Nice and easy. Let her dictate the pace. As she grows with you, the acceptance and, hopefully love of tickling will as well.
 
gilmourwaters said:
I suggest first talking with her about the aspects of tickling and how TRUST is a major component. Let her know and in no way are you going to hurt her and she's in full control of when to start and stop
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Yes! I completely agree!

For me, since I'm a switch, I offered up myself to be tickled, to get her accustomed to "our realm." I trust her completely, and by being tied up & tickled, I showed her just how much I do... Now, like most people, she enjoys tickling me... sooo very much! In return, I've been patient, but persistent in telling her how exciting & arousing it would be for me to tickle her.

I think as long as you make her comfortable, she will at least be receptive to letting you tickle her. That will likely involve no bondage at all, like was said above... And if she really likes you & wants to make you happy, she will indulge your tickling desire more as time goes on.

Good luck
 
Good luck! My current girl refuses. She is so ticklish all over, and I have never met a girl hate it so much.
 
They don't need to be ticklish in order to be a fan. Look at me, I'm a brick, and a fan for whatever reason…. 😉
 
These are all pretty good responses. I guess I asked because in past relationships, girls have either been all in with me or all out altogether. It was only until after things were said and done and over with tickling became a "never again" topic with ex`s.

But tickling to me has been synonymous with sex a long time. I mean, can anyone say an orgasm DOESN'T tickle? So when I hear "no tickling" or tickling sucks or whatever, it sends me a mixed signal as to whether they honestly can't deal of If they are unattracted to me. My order of operation is always pretty gentle; start with palms, work up wrists, try out stomach, etc, all with breaks. I try to make it clear to girls its laughter I'm after, not suffocation. But as far as someone being afraid of tickling, I guess I have a lot to learn as far as understanding.

Tomorrow is the day; we'll see if u scare her off.
 
If you really like this girl, aside from the tickling part, I think you should give it a shot. I mean of course you don't have to jump right in the action, if she is as nervous/anxious about it as you say try to be patient with her and give her time to process the whole thing. Start with really light and playful touches, nothing too intense. It's great that you told her about your fetish, for me it's been really hard to share with my friends or/and dates/ex. You already did the first step: talking about it. So give it time and respect her limits for now, and maybe she'll end up liking too! Good luck! 🙂
 
Just explain to her that tickling is something you find very erotic, sexy and that it turns you on. Make it sound innocent, harmless and fun. Trust me, if she knows it's something that you like she will learn to get used to it; sounds like she really likes you. I don't think I have ever met a woman who was completely disgusted or offended by tickling.
 
Here's what I would do. Take her out a few more times, and let her get comfortable with you. Then tickle her and see how she reacts. I wouldn't even bring it up until then.
 
You're a far more patient man than I am lol.

I think I'll just joke with her doing "floating hand" tickling and see if she gets sick of it and gets curious about the real thing lol.
 
Whatever you do - don't overdo it! I am into tickling but can get pretty annoyed if I am around someone who randomly tickles me over and over again.
 
If you explain to her that this could benefit her and you, try a light bit of tickling as you finger her. Just a thought.
 
The only advice I can give you, is to get your advice from her. It's her body and only she can tell you what her limits and boundaries are. Let her call the shots. Accept that the first few times will probably be short and with little or no bondage. Pay very close attention to her reactions and ask if she's ok a lot. But ultimately, she's gonna be the one to give you the right answers about what she likes and doesn't like.
 
This admittedly Pavlovian approach will require time and a certain emotional investment on your part, but might work. It has for me with some, although not all the girls/women I've tried it with over the years during my somewhat eventful past.

After you both reach the point where it's easy for her to orgasm with you, gently tickle her as she starts to come and throughout her climax. Build the intensity up gradually on subsequent 'romps' and in various spots; there's a strong possibility she'll begin to associate one feeling with another.

You may reach a point where tickling on its own in the right situation will cause her to climax while in the midst of laughing hysterically without other stimulation. Trust me, this definitely can happen.

Let's just say I'm happily married.
 
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When considering
She likes bondage
She is open/curious when talking about sex
And she says she is not sure she can stand it

Then challenging her seems a possibility. Talk about tying her up and tickle her for two minutes or something. Make sure to repeat that is it to see if she can take it. Tease her a little about it.

Do tickle her for two minutes (or what you agreed upon) and go easy. Do not break her, obviously. And afterward do what it is she likes to do in bondage.
 
Possibly mixing tickling with something the person definitely likes would do the trick. Maybe giving them a treat would work!
 
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