I pose to you a moral tickling dilemma

[Franky]

I'm going to second what Flatfoot said, also you could explain to her that you're not comfortable with the circumstances and would prefer to wait.

Also, I think you might need a friendly reminder that if this goes wrong you can kiss your job/career goodbye that is if you plan to do your 20. Also, if the two of them are in the process of getting a divorce what's the harm in waiting until the avoidable dangers are gone. I've seen people in the services get fucked because someone got pissed off at them and in the heat of the moment told on them to their unit/command regardless of the circumstances involved.

 

[ElFewja]

Sorry, I try to read everyone's posts before I make my own but I'm in a time crunch and can't do that right now, but I didn't want to wait to respond. I think you've received sound advice given the number of responses, though I still thought to contribute.

First, I want to say, their marriage is over and if that's your only concern then I just wouldn't worry about it. If they're already looking for divorce, then yeah, they're done. Personally I wouldn't worry about that and I don't think any of the involved parties would mind. If you are absolutely concerned, you could bring this conversation up with her (and you probably should so as to ease your mind) or even with her 'husband'. If he's already dating someone I'm sure he's willing to discuss the matter without freaking out, provided everyone is adults in this situation. I mean, if you're looking for acceptance that's the way to go.

And I say acceptance because it looks like you're trying to convince yourself to do something you think is wrong. In this situation I think you are your biggest 'enemy' so to speak: you're the biggest obstacle. If it's not ok WITH YOU then don't do it. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself and your actions, you know? I still think there isn't anything wrong with the situation but I'm not you and I'm not the one going into this. That's all on you. If you personally think it's ok, go for it. If you don't, then don't.

I'd still recommend talking with the individuals involved and not (mostly) strangers, though, because again it sounded as if you were looking for some sort of permission or someone to tell you it's not wrong so that you don't necessarily feel terrible about doing something you might consider wrong. And now I'm repeating myself.

*i'll read posts when I get home and adjust my response then.

**Annie had a good post, and I posted something similar but more verbose than Myriads lol. I hadn't considered that it was just her side of the story, though. Forgot that part. That's important!

 

[CaptainValiant]

Do the right thing.