i was hoping to stay awhile here...

[melanie2]

however...when you have a friend..and they and you are at outs with each other..and that person then tells secrets to another about you..and the other person then uses those secrets against you..to post publicly things that they know will hurt you..it's time to leave..

i liked it here..and no matter how much i might have hurt my friend..or vice versa..i would never have allowed those feelings to become public knowledge..

so because i'm hurt and embarrassed...i must leave here..i came here to avoid drama..but seems it follows me like a damn magnet..thank you all for being so nice to silly me..i'm way too sensitive for my own good..i don't tell secrets and then use them against someone..

i have been having a tough time dealing with my mood changes and hotflashes..and i was using this place as an outlet..

i do not like drama..hard as that is to believe...

 

[Camel26]

Did you tell the mods? I'll break necks!!! heads will roll!!!

NO ONE puts Izzy in a corner...not when Daddy Dr. Camel is around...

I'm so sorry that anyone would hurt you.

They must be intensely ignorant.

Please, don't leave--you're such an awesome part of this forum!!!

 

[Duke Diablo]

Indeed, as Dr. Camel says, don't leave, Izzy. This place would be a lot duller without you and your silly posts. Sure, there are rather rude people on every forum, but from my experiences at TT, mostly good people are here. So, why deprive yourself company of those great people because of few asses?

 

[Low_Roads]

however...when you have a friend..and they and you are at outs with each other..and that person then tells secrets to another about you..and the other person then uses those secrets against you..to post publicly things that they know will hurt you..it's time to leave..

I'm not sure at all what you're referring to, Izzy. Whatever hurtful secrets have been spread, I seem to have missed them... so too has most everyone else, as no specifics are being mentioned. Even if it were being broadcast on a banner on the site's logo, why give in to this creep? Why let him win, when scores of friends, new and old, will feel the agony of your departure? The odd isolated asshole is going to be impossible to avoid on any public forum, no matter where you go... better to simply ignore him, isn't it? Don't our combined voices drown him out? If this guy continues to pester you, by all means tell the mods, as Camel recommends. Maybe they can bounce him. If not instantly, such a report will certainly serve as a nail in his coming coffin; make sure to keep them informed.

On or off the TTC, you can always count on my friendship and support, Izzy. But I'd far prefer it were on. You've brought such richness and new vitality here to us. Don't let a creep who couldn't matter less chase you away from the folks who really do matter. Please reconsider.

 

[Dark56756301]

Not sure what you're talking about and I know we don't know each other but I enjoy reading what you've got to say. It'll be a noticeable loss not having you around. I think you should stay.

 

[Sockstickler]

I definitely agree with Camel, Duke, and LBH. You help breathe life into this place. I remember before you started really posting, there was a time where it got pretty dull, not many posts here and there. You came in and things really picked up. You help make it fun to be on here again. If someone's giving you a hard time, tell one of the mods. Let them dispense forum justice, but don't let whoever it is chase you off. That would just let let the creep, as LBH so aptly put it, win, and it would deprive us the pleasure of being able to talk to you and read what you have to say. Therefore I too add my voice to those asking you to stay.

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

however...when you have a friend..and they and you are at outs with each other..and that person then tells secrets to another about you..and the other person then uses those secrets against you..to post publicly things that they know will hurt you..it's time to leave..

i liked it here..and no matter how much i might have hurt my friend..or vice versa..i would never have allowed those feelings to become public knowledge..

so because i'm hurt and embarrassed...i must leave here..i came here to avoid drama..but seems it follows me like a damn magnet..thank you all for being so nice to silly me..i'm way too sensitive for my own good..i don't tell secrets and then use them against someone..

i have been having a tough time dealing with my mood changes and hotflashes..and i was using this place as an outlet..

i do not like drama..hard as that is to believe...

I don't know what just happened. I hope all the dust settles. You are lively and vibrant person here. I hope that you reconsider. You have friends.

 

[TheTenaciousJ]

It is hurtful when people you trusted turn their back on you, but it doesn't mean you have to leave. I remember I had a friend at DA. She completely turned her back on me and got me banned from DA. Well I had other accounts so they couldn't completely get rid of me. Well I commissioned a picture once and she replied, she was surprised to see I was still around. And I told her this "Just because we aren't friends anymore doesn't mean the world swallowed me up." Some people think the world will just do that. Prove to them they can't shove you around and run you off. You enjoy the theater. I know this. So enjoy it longer. These people trying to hurt you aren't worth your time. The people who posted here are.

 

[coloman]

I am not sure what you're refering to either Izzy but I hope you have a change of heart and decide NOT to leave the forum. I enjoy your candid nature and comments and you wil be very much missed if you decide to leave us.

 

[AdamN]

This is wrong! No one should ever feel like they have to leave because of the reprehensible behavior of another. Izzy, please talk to the mods and see what can be done. You should not have to leave. I'd certainly be saddened if you did. 🙁

 

[leenotler]

I haven't seen anything negative about you and would ignore it anyway. Secrets revealed in breach of trust are equivalent to slander and gossip, and I ignore both. Izzy, I don't post much, but I always read your cheery posts and feel better somehow. I would miss that.

Lee

P.S.
I smile when I see your location. It always reminds me of "Return to Neverland" and the poignant remake of the song.

 

[J.Apolo6541]

Honestly Isabeau,
I don't know what secrets are being used against you, nor do I care what some hurtful person is saying about you. What I know about you, is you are a wonderful, gentle and sweet person. We who care about you enjoy your posting and your company.
Please stay and be with us.

Thank you,

Joel

 

[meangry1]

however...when you have a friend..and they and you are at outs with each other..and that person then tells secrets to another about you..and the other person then uses those secrets against you..to post publicly things that they know will hurt you..it's time to leave..

i liked it here..and no matter how much i might have hurt my friend..or vice versa..i would never have allowed those feelings to become public knowledge..

so because i'm hurt and embarrassed...i must leave here..i came here to avoid drama..but seems it follows me like a damn magnet..thank you all for being so nice to silly me..i'm way too sensitive for my own good..i don't tell secrets and then use them against someone..

i have been having a tough time dealing with my mood changes and hotflashes..and i was using this place as an outlet..

i do not like drama..hard as that is to believe...

If people knew how you really treat people, they wouldn't be so quick to defend you, or comfort you. You treat people as if they are commodities, and the fact that it was you who ended this friendship. Oh yes people, this other person didn't do much more than mention the name of someone, which caused her to hang up the phone and toss away a friendship.

I'm not naming names because, well, I respectfully decline from mentioning this person she considered 'a friend'. But thing is...it's only one way with her: either worship her and do it constantly, or you are tossed away.

Nobody told you to leave, but because you need to make a big scene, you have to go around and drum up sympathy. And the next moment, you will be back to doing what you were doing.

It's whatevs.

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

Look Meangry there is no need to air any of this in the public square. Frankly to me the way Mel handles her affairs is her own business and not yours. Maybe you know the person that Mel is on the outs with that's fine, but let's just keep all this private. Nobody here knows all the details and we shouldn't. It is not for us to know or judge.

Can a mod please lock this thread before it devolves?

 

[meangry1]

Um...I know a lot more than what I am letting on.

And by doing such a thing, you are supporting ignorance.

That's your problem. Enjoy having a social pariah in your mist.

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Problems off of the forum are best kept off of the forum. If you have a problem with someone that you must air send one of us a PM; posting about that person isn't going to help matters and merely creates the potential for unpleasantnesses. I leave this open, for I dislike locking threads, but will be watching.

 

[Camel26]

Well, Meangry, your name is certainly appropriate...

I agree with HDS...keep the personal stuff private...it's not any of our business but yours, Izzy's, and the unnamed 3rd party's...I think a PM would have sufficed.

 

[meangry1]

it's sad when people show you the true nature of others, right?

I've got enough pms from her that I could gladly post for people to see who the REAL Melanie is.

But...again, whatevs...I've got an appointment with my girlfriend for my birthday present.

 

[His Divine Shadow]

it's sad when people show you the true nature of others, right?

I've got enough pms from her that I could gladly post for people to see who the REAL Melanie is.

If someone's true nature is so different others will find out. Regardless, this isn't the place to be exposing it, especially via PM posting. PMs have a "P" in them for a reason; they are Private, even if sent to yourself. If someone is found posting PMs on the open forum it would be grounds for suspension.

 

[Cbarton]

I've PM'ed and IM'ed with Izzy many times and she has shown nothing but grace, humor, and civility. She has always been fun, if not a bit flighty at times, as we all can be.

Izzy, we'll defend you honor here... :::hand to hilt:::

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

Same here. I've known Isabeau for years now, and she's always been nothing but a delight to have as an online friend. :happy:

 

[TyrantRaveAB]

it's sad when people show you the true nature of others, right?

I've got enough pms from her that I could gladly post for people to see who the REAL Melanie is.

But...again, whatevs...I've got an appointment with my girlfriend for my birthday present.

and one might wonder what that says about you...

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

and one might wonder what that says about you...

Yeah, seriously. Even if I had a falling out with someone, I'd never stoop that low. P.M.s, off-site e-mails, phone, whatever. That stuff should remain under wraps, I think.

 

[Cbarton]

Whenever you sling dirt/mud, you get it on yourself as well as your intended target...

 

[juggernaut]

Objective opinion: I don't know "Izzy" at all. Never talked to her or posted in one of her threads. I see she posts alot and is typically pretty easy going. But I have to say... when a person dumps their purse out talking about and describing their "dead baby landing in a bedpan", their dead mother's illness, their father dying, and personal health issues... it doesn't really scream "Give me my privacy."

Yes, I know all the thread heroes will say "Well, she chose to share that." I know. But if that's the kind of stuff that's volunteered, it hard to believe anything else that's shared could be so hurtful.

Nonetheless, losing the grounds to trust someone you used to trust sucks.