I'm Done with Non-Ticklish Females

[passwordguy]

Why is it so hard to find a female who enjoys tickling as much as I do? Tickling and being tickled is absolutely the biggest "turn-on" for me. I'm not sure if its a "power" thing, a "lose control" thing, or just plain old "fun" thing, but I like it and I'm dedicating my future relationships to only being with those who also like it.

I don't know if many people reading this not part of TMF can relate. Even in my most perfect relationships, this has always been an issue that I couldn't get past and had ruined otherwise some very good matches. If I try to explain to the female that this is an issue, they just don't seem to get it. So a lot of times they think its ending for other reasons. I don't want them to feel like they did something wrong or that they are not good enough but its almost impossible to try to have someone comprehend what I'm trying to explain if they themselves have not experienced the same feeling I get.

In reality, its an amazing part of my life. Have you ever REALLY been able to take someone from 0 to 1000 in a matter of a few seconds? Girls, if you could see my reaction and what I do after I get a tickle in, you would be crazy not to want to par-take. Trust me.

So that's it. I'm throwing in the towel for non-ticklish females. If you're reading this and thinking, "Hey I feel the same way!", write a comment or reach out to me. And if you're a woman and live in the CT, NY area, feel free to send over a PM, I'd love to get to know you.

 

[maniactickler]

Its like finding a needle in a haystack.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

For me, non-ticklishness in a partner isn't a deal-breaker because I have lots of friends, neighbors, and relatives with whom I can engage in tickle play.

But remember, you and nobody else can decide what's important to you in a relationship. People can call you shallow, unrealistic, whatever. The bottom line is that you're the one who has to live your life, not them.

 

[Dandy Jack]

I feel the same way but I will add that I am also sick of extremely ticklish girls

who do not want to be tickled...

I get that a lot!

Nothing pisses me off more than to reveal to a girl that I love tickling

and then they tell me they are extremely ticklish but they do not want

to be tickled at all.😎

My response Get out! Be gone and don't call me!

Dandy Jack!

 

[chicago]

As a 'lee, I got tired of vanilla dudes doing a shitty job of tickling me. I'd get my hopes up when I'd tell them I was into it and they didn't go running in the opposite direction, but then immediately disappointed when they did tickle me and it was either always the same spot, monotonous, shitty technique, no verbal teasing, whatever. It was never as fun as when I'd play with someone from the community, so I decided to stop dating vanillas. There has to be more there than just tickling, for it to become a relationship of any kind, but I've found when I was in relationships where I wasn't being satisfied in regards to tickling, I'd end up looking for it elsewhere and that wasn't fair to the person I was dating.

 

[passwordguy]

Don't get me wrong, I've found many ticklish girls too that will actually allow me to tie them to my bed and tickle them. They just aren't people I see myself with. So it's out there. The problem is finding the combo, person I love to be with when not tickling AND lets me go nuts tickling her.

 

[magic fingers]

I feel the same way but I will add that I am also sick of extremely ticklish girls

who do not want to be tickled...

I get that a lot!

Nothing pisses me off more than to reveal to a girl that I love tickling

and then they tell me they are extremely ticklish but they do not want

to be tickled at all.😎

My response Get out! Be gone and don't call me!

Dandy Jack!

I'm right there w/you Jack. I've dated women who hate being tickled and it never works out. However I don't mind dating women, who aren't ticklish since I'm both lee/ler. A lot of nonticklish ladies have tickled the crap out of me knowing I can't retaliate and that feeling of vulnerability is actually kind of a turn-on.

 

[helplessandhappy]

Never settle for less than what you want.

 

[rhiannon]

Don't get me wrong, I've found many ticklish girls too that will actually allow me to tie them to my bed and tickle them. They just aren't people I see myself with. So it's out there. The problem is finding the combo, person I love to be with when not tickling AND lets me go nuts tickling her

Welcome to life! It's all about making compromises! The chances are high that you won't find the perfect match - because there is always something that's not perfect. That's what being human is all about.

 

[jimcarey1234]

My ex was brilliant, she loved me tickling her, when she went 'off me' she wouldn't let me do it anymore.
And my current girlfriend of 2.5 years won't let me tickle her at all, I'm allowed to rub her feet and that's about it. Safe to say my sex drive most of the time is absolute minimum at best

 

[passwordguy]

Jim - Get out. Life's too short man. Or tell her its important to you and compromise. If she loves you she'll hopefully come around.

 

[Indigo Resolve]

If someone is a great tickler, then chances are they have (at some point in their life) made an effort to develop their ability to tickle.

For me, at least having an interest in tickling is a prerequisite for a partner. I'll date normals any time, but the relationship will not last.

I will always say that tickling is an art preserved to those who pursue it.

 

[primetime]

Honestly, I think it is in how tickling is presented to "vanillas". I think if you approach your significant other and make tickling sensual for her, I think they would be more willing to try it. If you think about it, why do the vanillas "hate" tickling? They view it as torture and not a fun experience.

However, if you are patient and slowly bring in tickling to them, you know, during a massage, give a tickle here and there. She will probably react, but make it seem like an accident. Couples like to play with each other, so make it more playful. Then you can tell her how much you like how her body moves to the tickling and you can show her how, um, hard you are. She may like that approach a lot better.

I think it is how you present how you like tickling. You have to ease them into it, instead of, "hey let me tie you up and tickle you..." at first chance. Think about how a salesman does their job. It is all about presentation...

 

[rhiannon]

Honestly, I think it is in how tickling is presented to "vanillas". I think if you approach your significant other and make tickling sensual for her, I think they would be more willing to try it. If you think about it, why do the vanillas "hate" tickling? They view it as torture and not a fun experience.

However, if you are patient and slowly bring in tickling to them, you know, during a massage, give a tickle here and there. She will probably react, but make it seem like an accident. Couples like to play with each other, so make it more playful. Then you can tell her how much you like how her body moves to the tickling and you can show her how, um, hard you are. She may like that approach a lot better.

I think it is how you present how you like tickling. You have to ease them into it, instead of, "hey let me tie you up and tickle you..." at first chance. Think about how a salesman does their job. It is all about presentation...

Good advice. And way more helpful than waiting for that perfect person who is into tickling AND everything else you expect from a partner.

 

[BMoreTklr]

Honestly, I think it is in how tickling is presented to "vanillas". I think if you approach your significant other and make tickling sensual for her, I think they would be more willing to try it. If you think about it, why do the vanillas "hate" tickling? They view it as torture and not a fun experience.

However, if you are patient and slowly bring in tickling to them, you know, during a massage, give a tickle here and there. She will probably react, but make it seem like an accident. Couples like to play with each other, so make it more playful. Then you can tell her how much you like how her body moves to the tickling and you can show her how, um, hard you are. She may like that approach a lot better.

I think it is how you present how you like tickling. You have to ease them into it, instead of, "hey let me tie you up and tickle you..." at first chance. Think about how a salesman does their job. It is all about presentation...

Agree with this 100%....MESSAGE!

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

For me, non-ticklishness in a partner isn't a deal-breaker because I have lots of friends, neighbors, and relatives with whom I can engage in tickle play.

But remember, you and nobody else can decide what's important to you in a relationship. People can call you shallow, unrealistic, whatever. The bottom line is that you're the one who has to live your life, not them.

Exactly. People may not understand your desires, may tell you your desires are weird or just stupid, etc. But only you can really know what you want and need to be happy.

 

[tickletherapist]

Agree with you guys, special thanks to primetime.
There is a strong stereotype about tickling among people all over the world. Tales of torture, bad memories from childhood when abused by it.
If our community has any aim at all, it is to raise the awareness that tickling is actually fun, it's not scary, it's not gonna kill you. And that it is healthy of which I'm 100% sure as I had a chance to study every aspect of it.

And believe me there are lots of people out of the community who like or would like this feeling.

Tell you more. We've opened a spa centre here in Moscow providing what we call "tickling spa" to clients among other procedures. That's the way to bring the curious into enjoying it. No joke, we really do it. However it brings more fun than money of course 🙂
What made our day was when one girl came to our centre to give it a try and after the tickling spa session said that it was the best thing she ever tried.
Of course there is always someone who will say "you're sick, it's torture!" but we are all different.
It is all about presentation like primetime said.

We also shoot clips of tickle therapy for our store where tickling is pure fun which brings in much more girls next door who never heard anything about tickle therapy before. They try it for the first time and it's just so cute to watch them take it and laugh and say something in humorous way like "it's horrible!" or "it's like electric chair" when the therapist runs her fingers across their ribs, and when it ends they say they actually liked it.

Then with one of those girls we made a small horror scene for Halloween just for fun, which I'd love to share:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGFRqij4FvY

So think positive and just be sure tickling is cool.

 

[helplessandhappy]

My ex was brilliant, she loved me tickling her, when she went 'off me' she wouldn't let me do it anymore.
And my current girlfriend of 2.5 years won't let me tickle her at all, I'm allowed to rub her feet and that's about it. Safe to say my sex drive most of the time is absolute minimum at best

It's not my place to say, but from an outside perspective, it sure doesn't sound like you're with the right person. Don't waste another 2.5 years when there are thousands of women out there who will enjoy or at least tolerate tickle play.

 

[Antarion]

If our community has any aim at all, it is to raise the awareness that tickling is actually fun, it's not scary, it's not gonna kill you.

Don't go painting this as anything other than what this is. We have a tickling -fetish-. We get turned on by tickling. 95%+ Of our registered members here are only members so they can either get off, or find people of which to get off with. Saying that we need to "Enlighten the masses to the glories of the ticklish stimuli!" is just about as crazy as people into rape fantasies saying that they should show people from outiside their community how wonderful it can be.

And yes, OP. The female females of the female demographic with female body features are clearly the most inadequate females among the female population if they don't have a tickling fetish, but female females with female tickling fetishes can be more than worthy females if you're into tickling female femalities.

 

[munchie01]

My gf is a bit of an enigma.

She does love tickling me, but very rarely with bondage because she says it gets boring.
She hates being tickled herself apart from very slow gentle tickles on the tops of her feet/back and tummy. I certainly enjoy this, but it is frustrating because it relaxes her and turns me on!
She would never, ever, ever let me tickle her properly and he has made this explicitly clear. It is a shame, but I love her so I get on with it. She does tie me up sometimes as a compromise so it works just fine.

If I was more of a 'ler and less of a 'lee I don't think I could cope with a non-ticklish girlfriend. Would be far too frustrating.

 

[ticklerpilot]

you gotta get what you want man, if you are into intense torture as a ler or playful tickling, find a woman who shares or at least will let do what satisfies with some kind of compromise to her, at the end of the day dont settle for less than what you want since it wont end well anyway, and most certainly will end

 

[mart]

I read the title to this thread and immediately thought "I never even started with non-ticklish females." I must say, I never had the problem of finding girls who are ticklish and willing to let themselves be tickled. I'm a little past it now, but in the days before I or most other people knew there was such a thing as a tickle fetish, there were plenty of girls who joined in, liked or tolerated being tickled.

On the other hand, I was never much into the bondage thing or doing anything kinky against a woman's will. It just seemed quite natural and a kind of strange part of an otherwise normal relationship.

 

[mart]

Agree with you guys, special thanks to primetime.
There is a strong stereotype about tickling among people all over the world. Tales of torture, bad memories from childhood when abused by it.
If our community has any aim at all, it is to raise the awareness that tickling is actually fun, it's not scary, it's not gonna kill you. And that it is healthy of which I'm 100% sure as I had a chance to study every aspect of it.

And believe me there are lots of people out of the community who like or would like this feeling.

You have a different perception of this community than I do. Sure, there are some guys who enjoy tickling as part of a relationship and certainly a few that want it to be non-intrusive and fun. But the bulk of what I read particularly in the Media part of this forum seems to me to be a bunch of rude, domineering "tie her so she can't move and torture her proper.." types.

Any woman here seems to get pounced on by numbers of guys who make unacceptable personal statements as if a woman into tickling or willing to be tickled is some kind of *****. This is hardly the community that is going to change people's perception of tickling as non-abusive unless a different attitude develops.

 

[tickletherapist]

Of course there's no job for "us" to do that. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear in my point, I'm just a foreigner. My thought was that if you want to meet a person who likes tickling, that is your responsibility to make her/him like it and understand it. That's it. Didn't mean to raise the whole community to some job, sorry.

Even within the community we are all so different and it's quite normal. Have our own meaning of it. I just have my own personal perspective which is positive. I even don't like to use words like fetish or domination, I enjoy it in both non-sexual and in sexual ways, but it's nothing more than my personal perception. But I feel I have right to speak it.
We just think and do what we want anyway like we should.
Hope you got me.

 

[Tickle-My-Fancy]

People are into some weeeeeeird shit. Compared to a lot of other fetishes out there, I'm happy I ended up with this one lol.