Is 28 too old to date a 22 year old?

[ndj101982]

Just wondering what everyone's opinion is on this. I'm gonna be 29 in october and she'll be 23 so 6 years difference. Think that it's too much of a maturity gap? I met her on a dating site (plentyoffish.com) and we started talking and she seems to like me and I like her. Just not sure if her being in her early 20s still and me approaching 30 would be an obstacle.

 

[Bothersome]

From an outsider's view? I don't see a problem with it. You're both above the age of consent. There's no legal issue, and no cultural issue that has any legitimate argument.

It all depends on what you two are comfortable with. If it feels like you two are respectively cradle/grave robbing, then that's your feeling on the matter. It's not up to us to decide.

 

[TropicThunder]

Here, this might help

this sounded so familiar.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

22 and 28?
Nothing wrong with that at all in my opinion.

My ex was 29 and I was 20 when we were together.
And the last guy I dated for a while is 42, and I'm about to be 22 this month.
So...if you ask me...I say it's perfectly okay.

As long as you both like each other and get along...the age difference shouldn't really matter anyway.
Age is just a number!

 

[kered]

Somebody came up with the formula of half your age plus 7 as a starting point for relationships. So according to this you are OK.

 

[maniactickler]

Im 45, and id date a 22 year old in a heartbeat!

 

[Ishaanshah]

Age no bar....!!

 

[milagros317]

IMO, a difference of six years among people over 21 is not much at all. 😀

 

[Speedbump]

FUCK NO, BUD! HIT THAT!

😀

A friend of mine is almost 33 and dating a 26 year old. I know a guy who's 37 or so and is dating a 24 year old. Some women like older guys. Some women like REALLY older guys. A guy at my work picked up a 22 year old girl and they pretty much had a big ol' year of mainly just sex before she moved away, and he's almost 50!!

EDIT: Also my friend's sister who is like 24 was dating a dude that was like 45 and balding with the hair still thick around his head and kinda weird looking. All her mom said about it was, "It's gross, but it's apparently what she likes." lol

 

[me4o]

No problem at all, 6 years is nothing 🙂 As others have mentioned above- age is really just a number. So, good luck with the girl dude, hope it works out for you 🙂

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Not too old at all. I'd be comfortable dating someone 10 or 12 years older than I am.

 

[TonyInMyThroat]

I did back in the 80’s, and to be honest it was a bit awkward. She was still in school and living at home; and her bedroom had many items & aspects to it that made me feel like I was robbing the cradle.

She was the oldest of her siblings and it was obvious that her parents had children early in life, and since I had already been married, divorced, & owned a home, I sometimes felt I had more in common with them in terms of life experience.

Yes, it was fun & exciting in the beginning, but it didn’t take long before we both realized it wasn’t going to work. Some people at that age can pull it off, but at the time she was still just a little too young for my tastes.

 

[Filthyweasel]

As long as both parties are above the age of consent who gives a shit what others think? I dated a 32 year old when I was 22, and when I was 27 I dated a 19 year old.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

Just wondering what everyone's opinion is on this. I'm gonna be 29 in october and she'll be 23 so 6 years difference. Think that it's too much of a maturity gap? I met her on a dating site (plentyoffish.com) and we started talking and she seems to like me and I like her. Just not sure if her being in her early 20s still and me approaching 30 would be an obstacle.

To me, six years isn't a big age gap. It will only be a problem if you're not on the same wavelength as her. Do you enjoy the same activities? Do your goals mesh? Do you want the same things? If you're ready to settle down and have a family, is she ready too? Is she still in a party mode, going out every weekend and getting drunk with her friends?

 

[socktickler86]

To echo what everyone else is saying, as long as you're both adults who cares?

Now, on more practical terms, it may be a problem. Like tonyinmythroat mentioned, you two could be at very different points in your life that may just not be compatible. You could also face maturity issues and responsibility issues that tend to go away with age. In the end, however, these issues could exist with people the same age and there are always a thousand reasons a relationship might not work anyhow so go for it.

 

[ndj101982]

I did back in the 80’s, and to be honest it was a bit awkward. She was still in school and living at home; and her bedroom had many items & aspects to it that made me feel like I was robbing the cradle.

She was the oldest of her siblings and it was obvious that her parents had children early in life, and since I had already been married, divorced, & owned a home, I sometimes felt I had more in common with them in terms of life experience.

Yes, it was fun & exciting in the beginning, but it didn’t take long before we both realized it wasn’t going to work. Some people at that age can pull it off, but at the time she was still just a little too young for my tastes.

If she was a full time college student living with the rents and partying 5 days a week I wouldn't even bother. She's 22, got her own place, works a full time job, while taking nursing school classes. To be honest, she seems more mature than half my friends who are 28. I just am worried like if we dated how weird it would be first time I meet her friends and realize most of them are like 21, 22, 23 and still at that barely an adult type maturity level.

 

[CrystalLight]

If she was a full time college student living with the rents and partying 5 days a week I wouldn't even bother. She's 22, got her own place, works a full time job, while taking nursing school classes. To be honest, she seems more mature than half my friends who are 28. I just am worried like if we dated how weird it would be first time I meet her friends and realize most of them are like 21, 22, 23 and still at that barely an adult type maturity level.

Well .. it's fairly common now-a-days for younger women to be dating older men. -- So it might not even be a big deal. If ya feel comfy enough, ya could always talk with her about that. 🙂

 

[Bothersome]

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[TonyInMyThroat]

If she was a full time college student living with the rents and partying 5 days a week I wouldn't even bother. She's 22, got her own place, works a full time job, while taking nursing school classes. To be honest, she seems more mature than half my friends who are 28. I just am worried like if we dated how weird it would be first time I meet her friends and realize most of them are like 21, 22, 23 and still at that barely an adult type maturity level.

Yeah, I didn’t even bother to get into that aspect of the relationship, because it was a given. You’re always going to be the “old dude” from her side of the social scene. If that doesn’t bother you, and she supports you, it shouldn’t be an issue; after all the relationship is just between the two of you.

The girl I dated was also very intelligent and mature for her age; and was the only reason I entertained the idea of a relationship (well that, and the fact that she was seriously hot).

But eventually the fireworks are going to subside and you’ll be in a situation where you’ll need to evaluate the reality of the difference in maturity. Like I said, some people can pull it off; just be sure to be honest with yourself when that time comes.

 

[Angel_2]

Age is only a number if the both of you are happy being together thats all that matters.

 

[mealburglar]

Im...36 and my girlfriend is 22. Turns 23 this December. Were very happy with each other. Thats all I gota say.

 

[Mitchell]

As long as both parties are okay with it, and above the age of consent, age really isnt an issue. In the case that the OP mentioned, six years difference is perfectly acceptable. Heck, I'm 41, and I would probably date a girl who was, say.. late 20s to early 30s as long as she was okay with it.

Mitch

 

[Pulchritudinous]

Seems fine to me. If you're both okay with it and want to date, you're both adults, nobody can really stop you. My parents are six years apart.

 

[Coup de Grace]

As long as you're both over 18, it's all good.

 

[giggle-maker]

I'll be 42 in Nov and TickleToyyy is 23. It's kinda cool actually. She's now in a great relationship with this German dude and her and I are still friends. I say go for it. If you two like each other that's all that matters.