Is 28 too old to date a 22 year old?

[GQguy]

Shut up and live the dream!

No seriously....it all depends on what you guys want out of life. My girlfriend is 4 years older than me....and it's tough! Why? She's ready to het married and have kids. Me? I'm in military flight school, ready to start grad school during that and working on starting my own business(designing prototype as we speak)...I digresss. We aren't on the same level. I'd still face the same thing of I dated a girl my age (29). Preferably I'd like to date a girl in school that likes to have fun but has a well defined view of where they want to be in the future. She can be as young as 19 or as old as 34 but we have to be on the same page.

As for being the old guy? Come on! If my friend is dating a cool guy that's 40 do I think about his age or how much fun I have chillin with him? As long as you're fun no one gives a shit.

GQ

 

[TicklexoxFreaK]

I don't find it to be a problem at all. Like others have said, age is just a number and if those people care about each other, why not? My close friend is 21 and she's dating a 30 year old. I don't like judging someone merely because of age. As long as it's a healthy relationship and no one is getting hurt I don't see it being an issue. 28 dating a 22 year isn't even that bad haha.

 

[Libertine]

Kittentoes and I met almost 7 years ago when she was 22 and I was 49. We're celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary in November.

 

[kopfhorer]

Hmm, this is the second thread I've seen tonight dealing with misgivings about age.

I think a lot of us put much more weight on the number of years someone has been on this Earth than it deserves. And I think it's because we're conditioned to think that young equals new, vibrant and daring while old equals boring, impossibly set in one's ways and falling apart at the seams (both of which assumptions have some basis in reality as all myths do, but are myths all the same).

This is not to say that I don't find myself buying into said myths. Lifelong indoctrination is tough to break away from.

 

[Mane'o]

As all the replies show, there is no single or right answer. The focus should be on the relationship and the two of you. What works for one couple in one situation won't work for another couple. If concern for the age difference continues to be a primary concern for either of you then it may be a problem for this particular relationship at this time. BTW I'm 60 and my wife is 32. She wasn't even born when I was 28.

 

[WorkInProgress]

This thread is two months old, so it's anybody's guess whether the OP is even looking at it now, but I'll weigh in anyway.

Maybe you'll feel a maturity differential, and maybe you won't. Maybe you'll feel out of place with her friends, and maybe you won't. The point is, the mere numbers 28 and 22 don't predict anything. Not all 22-year-olds hang out in groups where everyone is the same age. And in any event, from where I sit, 28 isn't all that old, even though we have another poster here on this board who is currently lamenting the horrors of just having reached that age.

 

[ShadowKat]

Chronological age doesn't matter as long as you're both consenting adults. Maturity level counts for a lot though.

 

[vazzy1000]

If maturity wasn't an issue in the first place, then it shouldn't become one after the fact. If you make a good match then you should go for it. Also, I follow by the half your age plus seven rule as a backup, so you're good (28/2+7=21).

 

[Emishticklish]

I'm actually in that same boat. I just turned 23 abd she'll be 29 in July. Age is nothing but a Number. I stand my ground on that Belief. 🙂

 

[GQguy]

Dude. If I could trade places with you I would (age wise). I'm dating an older woman and I'm sick of being reminded of her biological clock while I try to achieve my goals. Especially when those doing the reminding haven't sacrificed anything to achieve anything. If there is a next time I'm definitely dating a girl whose goals in their 5 year plan match mine. A 22 year old would be perfect right now. I'm 29. Work hard play hard....not up for changing diapers just yet. Age is just a number but once a woman is in her thirties it can become a loud ticking clock.

GQ

 

[Jagermeistered]

Dude. If I could trade places with you I would (age wise). I'm dating an older woman and I'm sick of being reminded of her biological clock while I try to achieve my goals. Especially when those doing the reminding haven't sacrificed anything to achieve anything. If there is a next time I'm definitely dating a girl whose goals in their 5 year plan match mine. A 22 year old would be perfect right now. I'm 29. Work hard play hard....not up for changing diapers just yet. Age is just a number but once a woman is in her thirties it can become a loud ticking clock.

GQ

Agree...