Is a tickling fetish the product of a sheltered life?

[heretichero666]

Erratic, that's actually an interesting idea that it's entirely the other way around from what I was suspecting. Naturally, I could imagine how being attracted to what might be considered a more deviant sexual practice could result in someone sequestering themselves. Your own experience with your fetishes shying you away from more typical sex even has a familiarity to it; it's a difficult topic to broach with a partner, and sex without the fetish can indeed be unrewarding. You present a good "egg before the chicken," you might say.

Feathers, you're right that it seems the question does in fact suggest, but I didn't mean to say that the fetish only emerges as a place holder for sex nor that it wasn't as erotic in its own right. In fact, tickling is entirely erotic because of the intimacy that must take place between the people participating in it.

I would hesitate to agree completely on the turnover of its fetishists, though. You and I have both haunted this site for years, but there's many people who've come and gone during that time as well. Still, I don't mean to say it's only a stop gap form of sexuality, evidenced even in myself as I've long since become sexually active, and I do enjoy that, but all of my fetishes remain even the ones that developed alongside tickling at an early age. But you do raise several good points, and it's an excellent argument for tickling independent of a sheltered upbringing.

Finally, my use of the word "normal" stems, I think, from the community's perspective. Most people in my experience here separate the fetish from "mainstream" practices, which implies a departure from normalcy.

I certainly agree that tickling fetish can stem from more than just a sheltered upbringing and I for one don't feel that tickling is a replacement for actual sexual experiences. I lost my virginity and it was something better than what I could ever imagine or do with myself and some tickle related medium to pleasure me. My fetishes still remain and I don't think that they will ever leave me and I don't think I want them to because they make me a part of who I am in my opinion.

As for the whole "normal" thing, I agree its more of a reflection on mainstream sexual ideas and fantasies which are all up to the beholder to determine is right or not. However, even within our own community of tickle/foot fetishists, I believe that there is a certain line that is drawn amongst us. There are those of us who enjoy the fetish and still value the "normal"/"typical" aspects of sex and sexual experiences but then there are those who think and care about nothing but feet and tickling to the point its unhealthy. I see it on deviantart.com all the time. Guys will look at full body photos or pictures of characters drawn barefoot and talk about nothing but the feet shown in the piece and want nothing else. I remember going onto the page of one kid who made a stamp that said "Boobs and Vaginas Are Gross" which not only shocked me but made me think "How does this guy expect to share his life with anyone let alone do anything with it when the only thing he cares about in a woman is the part of her body that applies to his fetish which he can indulge in while not caring for the other person".

Its really a hard thing to think about/discuss because not only is it a fetish that isn't mainstream but its one that holds a lot of psychology which really has to be observed.

 

[yukiosan]

honestly this is maybe the most interesting topic i've ever red on a fetish forum. i think that has no sense telling that a retired life is the product of the fetish. it has a lot more sense telling that a retired life and the fetish are in the same picture.

anyway we should clean the field a little. i think that it's not tickling fetish but all kinds of fetish that COULD be related with such a way of life. on the other side i would only consider as fetish what it makes more difficult having regular sex, i would not include tickling used as a foreplay only. i think that the op has more sense if referred to this kind of situation.

i've lived my fetish in different ways in different periods of my life. i think anyway that putting an etiquette of feticist on myself doesn't help or need at all to my life. it's all about how you and your partner can deal. it doesn't exist a total division between the feticist and the vanilla person, they're simply two heads of the same line, i mean there's a continuos between these 2 extreme positions and many of us are in the middle or close to it. plus there's nothing wrong being on each point of the line. anyway sometimes it's easier to think we're fully fetish to have an excuse ready for what we can't reach.

sorry for my english btw, it's not my mother language

 

[meangry1]

I honestly believe that the majority of 'public' faces for any fetish are going to have many of the same problematic principles of being sheltered, socially awkward. Which is why I find it odd that there is some strange correlation between living at home with folks, or any number of things, being relevant.

Economic factors, boomeranging from college to home, having children and moving back home, maybe not being on solid financial footing. No offense, but a big part of the problem with people getting into debt who are young is simply because they were ignorant of the real world, and bills, and how far money actually takes you. Simply doing something to do it? Not being pragmatic? Maybe that's why my credit rating is through the rough and my roommate's isn't.

If you want to talk about the social awkwardness and the like playing a critical role? I'd agree. What you're talking about are people with limited to nonexistent social skills, or maybe they just haven't matured. But that's simply the action of how to deal with situations, with fetishes, with people. Too many had this wired in when they were little, when sex and bills were a long ways away from our minds.

 

[solleticoso1]

I've met far more people who, even well into their 20s, still live with their parents rather than rent their own place. They don't drive. They don't go out. The barely have friends outside of the internet.

Wow!!

What the hell is this sentence to have in common with the rest of the post??

I'm 30 years old. I live with my parents. I don't drive a car.

So what? Wow, you Americans certainly have a strange sight on life... in Europe, unless you come out from a very rich family, it isn't all that easy to BUY your own house! Unless you get a PERMANENT work, who isn't exactly the most easy thing in the work, now.

And what about driving? I live in a medium city (220.000 pop.). Here it's full of aoutobus. I can go everywhere with the bus. So? Why Do I have to drive a car? Spending so much money for the gasoline, the insurance, and so on??

Bah...

Ah: I do have real friends and I go out of my house, esxpecially during week-ends. I really don't get the link between living at my parent's home, don't drive and having no friends or don't go out... bah!

 

[Smoten]

I'll be honest. I agree full heartidly. I know that my own fetishes and fantasies are the result of my sheltered upbringing.

I was raised by a Catholic family so sex was a big taboo alongside homosexuality, divorce, pro-choice, superstition, and all the other things that Catholics are notorious for being against. Being adopted from South America, having a disability which I am not going to share on here unless asked privately, being the only Latino in an all white family, and suffering horrendous bullying at the hands of people who claimed to be "good Christians" I naturally rebelled against what was being taught to me because I knew that what was being taught to me was hypocritical; how could all these values be true when my life experiences showed me that the Church and its teachings did not make people like me welcome?

But some things really did sink in and my parents were sure to make sure it got in especially things relating to sex. I was afraid for the longest time that the moment I slept with a woman, even if she was a virgin like me, we would both be marked for life to have sex with no one else and the moment we did we would instantly pick up some sort of STD, HIV, or AIDS. But then when I turned 20, when I found a girl who I truly believed I was in love with, we had sex and I found myself in an emotional wreck before we even started because the taboo feeling scared me so much I cried. I didn't want to ruin it for her but I couldn't sake the feeling that what I was doing was wrong.

Eventually we did it and it became a very happy and emotional experience as I had been taught and I really did feel like it was the ultimate display of my love for the girl I was with. But then sex became a bigger part of our relationship with her wanting it more than I was comfortable giving it since I still felt, and still to this day believe, that sex is a very intimate thing that must be saved and cherished as the ultimate display of love. With that, sex became less emotional between us and she began to get annoyed by my tickle/foot fetish fantasizes which really complicated sex because for the longest time those were the only things I had used to turn myself on. Yes, I got into the "normal" turn-ons in sex fairly quickly but I always held back in my excitement and thrusts out of fear of getting her pregnant.

I didn't use protection, I just can't do it with the feeling of a condom on, and because of that I purposely held back so we wouldn't have to worry about the pregnancy issue which pissed her off because she felt I had no passion in making love. Eventually it complicated our relationship and lead to our break up. In the end I realized that all the things my parents and teachers at the various Catholic schools I attended were right: sex was supposed to wait till marriage because the complications of it effected the commitment in the relationship. I don't know if things would have been different if we were a married couple, but I've to this day decided that I'm not sleeping with anyone again until I know for sure that what we feel between one another is real.

I still have my foot fetish and I still enjoy all the things that come with it. Tickling, foot worship, all that stuff is still a turn on for me and the "normal" turn-ons still work for me from time to time but I don't think about them as often since I don't want to turn out to be one of those typical porn addict cases who focuses so much on the sexual pleasure and physical attributes of a woman that he only ends up objectifying women in general and can't perform well sexually because of hightened expectations based on what he sees/watches/things about with/in porn. The same argument can probably be made about foot fetish material, but for now its just the thing I enjoy when I can.

Take it as you will but I honestly can't enjoy my fetish unless the person I'm partaking it with enjoys it too. Yes, I do enjoy all the tickle torture art and stories on here and the various other mediums alongside all the foot worship and footjob pieces but for me it just seems like a temporary thing. Its not real and its not the same experience as what I had that was real and intimate. I don't want my partner to be uncomfortable or feel like I've forced this fetish on her; I want her to enjoy it as much as I do.

After a long life in a social nightmare, I want my fetish and any other sexual actions/activities that I take part in with a girl to be intimate and an expression of my love. When I tickle her, I want her laughter to be out of enjoyment of the moment, not torture that I'm forcing her to endure. When I worship her feet or massage them, I want her to know that I'm doing it as an expression of my care for her. And as all the foot pampering etc builds up turning me on, I want what we do from there to be intimate with her knowing "I love you".

Having this fetish has really made me think about myself and my values as well as reflect on my own psychological state of being but my hope is that whatever it is that's in me will be applicable to the rest of my life in which I can apply in my future relationships. I really wish that there were more people, females especially, who were more open minded to this. What is so wrong with a man who would willingly get down on his knees, rub his girl's feet after a long day, then if she's comfortable with it kiss and lick her feet to please her as a way to express his care for her because he's too shy or bad with words to state how much she means to him?

Oh man, I really feel for you and I'd like to give you some advise. Sex is a very important part of a relationship and I agree with you that it is the ultimate form of saying "I love you," but I think that moment needs to happen way before you consider marriage. It's okay to hold off on sex in a relationship until you know for certain that the feelings you have for this person are real. When the time comes and it feels right, let it happen naturally and live in the heated moment of passion.

Afterwords, you need to have a very intimate discussion about each others sexual needs, desires, fantasies, fetishes and how often you have sexual cravings. Coming to a deep understanding of each others sexuality is a key pivotal part of any healthy relationship. Some girls will have a larger sexual appetite than yours, but that's okay, there are other intimate acts you can do to satisfy them, such as oral sex, mutual masturbation or perhaps she has a favorite sex toy. Experiment with each other and have fun. Sex doesn't have to be a big scary thing.

And for the God, use a condom. There are literally dozens of different types, each suited for different needs and preferences. Find the ones that best suite you. Not only do you not have to worry about pulling out early out of fear getting her pregnant, you are 500,000,000 times less likely to contract an STD. There are also other forms of contraceptives you and your partner can look into as well.

In conclusion, get out there and don't be nervous about talking to girls. Don't worry about what they might think about your fetishes and just be yourself.🙂

 

[BlackDragonScar]

to be honest i think it can. much like someone already mentioned they do it with mmorpgs as well, people who tend to be kinda socially awkward look for a way to express this sexual desire so they use i think not just this fetish but a wide variety of fetishes. You can tell by some sites how people react and act upon certain things.

 

[Adam Tickles]

I don't think it means a sheltered life, just experience

As I am sure many of us on here are aware, if cared to research it, that tickling and feet fetishes are a crossing of 'wires' in the brain between tickling and feet (together and separate) stimulations accidently going to the sexual excitement part of the brain, once done it is fixed in your neurones and often never undone.

I say this because I don't think it is a part of a sheltered life to have such a fetish. I don't think anyone here can help it, and the reason many of us hide it is from all living in a global society that treats anything kinky or fetish like as weird from 'normal' sex.

I did not live a sheltered life, my parents would keep me safe but normally pick me up when I fell and left me to learn by my own mistakes as opposed to cotton wool wrapping me. It is the realisation that fetishes are taboo that discourage people from being open about them to begin with. Due to this the internet becomes a safe 'testing' ground for exploring and talking about it, and such safety is felt on sites like this among fellow fetishists, it is a habit hard to shake once signed up.

I may be parroting some previous post with all this, but whether you are confident in yourself or not, before you are old enough to explore sex, you are aware you like something no one else does.. so before you become of full sexual age, you already no to hide a fetish. I lost my virginity at 17 years old, my ex openly asked me if I had a fetish one time after noticing my boner after I tickled her. I out right lied to her face, despite us having had sex already. My current gf I thought 'fk it' and told her when she got suspicious... and that was because I was mature enough to know what I wanted from our relationship, and that my life would include my fetish with me sexual partner because damn it there are much creepier things out there than kissing a part of the body not kissed often, i.e feet.

So yh I think it is more for experiences and knowledge as opposed to sexual in-experience. As I said, you are aware of tickling fetishes and feet fetishes especially, a few years before you start to explore sex.

Interesting post 🙂

huh:stickout:lolblink😛issed:wub

 

[tarr2k1]

I've had an interesting in tickling girls all my life, and I can recall back to pre-kindergarten, and was never sheltered. I found it to be not only stimulating for myself, but for some of my gf's over the years it was a way of doing something intimate without making them feel like they were being pushed into things too quickly. In other words, I think that it has a connection to the sexual dynamic regardless because, even though it didn't descend into anything more than playful roughhousing I got the distinct impression they liked it because it was still safe but just a wee bit naughty. That might be where some get the idea of a connection to being sheltered, but on my side it was something I was enjoying in a far naughtier way. 🙂

Beyond that, I lived with my parents after graduation for exactly 2 months, because my first permanent job wasn't ready for me to start until eight months after graduation and the temporary position I had (in another state) was for six months, otherwise, I've always been an independent person; had my own place the rest of the time and bought my first house a year after I got that job, with no help from anyone. Today I own and operate a small business and interact with people constantly. While I don't smoke or drink, that's a conscious health choice and not because I judge it to be evil, and the only reason I don't go to Hooters is I'm worried about my cholesterol, but I'll gladly go to look at the scenery. 🙂 So yeah, I'm completely the opposite of the people you describe (but then, I also have zero interest in feet so I'm already an aberration 😀).

 

[Smoten]

So I was thinking (after a trio of Manhattans) about the people I've come to know during my years in this community. There's a few that have broken the mold and stood out, but by and large there's been a vast number of people who've exhibited all the traits of having lived a very sheltered life.

I've seen people decry the evils of alcohol and smoking and sex. I've seen people go so far as to swear that they would never so much as step foot inside a Hooter's restaurant, as though such places were the site of Black Masses.

I've met far more people who, even well into their 20s, still live with their parents rather than rent their own place. They don't drive. They don't go out. The barely have friends outside of the internet.

This seems to be the public face of the tickling fetish.

Then I started to reason it out in my head.

Tickling, much like sex, is a pretty joyous act. There's laughter as the end result, which is a sign of enjoyment, of a thrill, but also of uncontrolled bliss. But where do you see tickling focused at? At places distant from anything overtly erotic; the feet, under the arms, across the belly, and slowly circling towards the erogenous like breasts or marvelously naughtier places.

But why would we focus on those areas? Because we were sheltered from real intimacy? Because for most of us there still exists an early established taboo against the sexual?

Sure! Why not? I'll admit, I was raised extremely sheltered. I out-right feared sex until I was in my mid-teens. But, like normal teenagers, I rebelled and lost my virginity. For me it was right after I got to college when I was 18. The mystique was met with reality and experience, and after that I was open to what I knew actually turned me on.

But what about those who never breached that momentous occasion? Sure, the less-than-erogenous places of the human body provide a safe harbor for people who've been taught that sex is bad, or some such lie. And laughter might just make a suitable replacement for coitus if intimacy still holds some instilled guilt for you.

But what do you think? Do you think that being raised in a sheltered environment could actually make someone replace normal sexuality with a fetish like this?

From my own experience, bullying has had a far deeper impact on my life than my tickle fetish. I was too afraid of initiating any form intimacy out of a deep fear I would get hurt badly. I couldn't trust my feelings to anyone but myself, erecting mental barriers and not letting anyone get close enough to truly know me. I came to terms with my loneliness and learned to love myself because no one else would.

I went through high school and college never once having a girlfriend, but I did find amazing friends who truly care and appreciate me for who I am. Through them, they helped me come out of my shell and showed me the joys of life. I learned I was bisexual at a college nerdy new years eve party when a good friend of mine that I didn't know was bisexual too started making out with a guy we were playing apples to apples with. I discovered I was jealous because I wanted him to be making out with me instead of him. There are a couple of other friends I have that I totally have a boy crush on, but one is married and the other I know for a fact is completely straight. Other than that, I really haven't explored that side of me outside having the occasional gay fantasy when I masturbate.

Anyways, one of the major turning points of my life was at the wedding of the guy I have a crush on. I was introduced to the sport of Norse Stickball, which lead me to joining the pirated events of the SCA. Norse Stickball is a lot of fun and by far the roughest sport I've ever played. The game is played with with a shield, a stick and a chainmail ball roughly the size of a tennis ball. There are two teams, shirts and skins, both taking turns being offense and defense. The shield serves as "home base" for the offense team. The game starts with one member of the offense, reffered to as the thrower, standing on or near the shield, holding the chainmail ball in one hand and the stick in the other. The rest of his teammates are in wait, spread out in a row 90ft away and his opponents are fanned out in a row 60ft away. The thrower tosses the ball into the air and swings the stick to indicate play has begun. The thrower then catches the ball and throws the ball down field to his teammates. The offensive team is trying to get the ball back to home base and yelling "Safe" to score a point, while the defensive team is trying to get the ball, hold it over their head with both feet planted on the ground and yell "I've got it!" When either of these conditions are met, the offense and defense switch sides and the madness starts all over again. The game is essentially a roaming dog pile, very much like watching a multiplayer version of wrestling over a medicine ball. We play until either three points have been score, three hours have passed or too many major injuries have been sustained. And remember, all dismembered limbs and appendages must be returned to to their rightful own with a smile!

So yes, that was the game that turned me on to Pirated SCA events, because that's where it was played. Going to these events was like going to weekend long open bar/S&M club with a renaissance fair theme. During these times, I experimented and learned a great deal from my peers about sexuality, the true value of relationships and how polyamory works. I also met my first girlfriend through them. The relationship lasted a little over a year and was on and off again towards the end of it. I was entirely miserable through the last few months, but that was because I was too inexperienced to know when to let go and move on. I kept fighting for things to work because she was my first love, but it was ultimately doomed to fail. It also didn't help that my dad died when I was trying to figure out this life lesson. It kind of fucked me up for a while, but in the end I came out okay.

I've done a lot of soul searching over the past year and I finally feel comfortable about who I am, that I'm proud of what I've become and that I can share myself with others with out the fear of being hurt.

 

[Deadly Ticklish1]

I think it's possible that in SOME cases people have developed fetishes that got around actual sex because some type of fear of sex or distaste they were raised with. This isn't to say that all abstinent people are in that situation or that anyone in who has a fetish obtained it from being abstinent. I do thing that at one time or another that it has been a factor.

 

[Senshi1]

I don't think there is a simple answer - it just depends on the individual. I only have a tickling fetish because I happened upon some tickle fetish material by chance when I was in my teens and thought "wow, bondage AND tickling? What a great idea!" - that's when I sought out and joined the tickling community. I don't consider myself in the least bit sheltered, though I am introverted (don't confuse introverted with shy - I'm not in the least bit shy).

 

[P[a]pi]

All I know is what I got I was born with. I think there are different levels to fetishism just like everything else. I got it bad, but I don't have a problem with it. I like being different, but I don't try to be. I just like what I like, think what I think, and believe what I believe.

 

[Femboi]

I live kind of a sheltered life as I'm in my 20's and still live with my family. But not so sheltered that I don't go out anywhere. I have plenty of friends outside of the internet who love me for who I am and would never want me to change anything to benefit themselves. Do I think my plutonic interest in tickling is the end result of being "sheltered"? Nope.

 

[heretichero666]

Oh man, I really feel for you and I'd like to give you some advise. Sex is a very important part of a relationship and I agree with you that it is the ultimate form of saying "I love you," but I think that moment needs to happen way before you consider marriage. It's okay to hold off on sex in a relationship until you know for certain that the feelings you have for this person are real. When the time comes and it feels right, let it happen naturally and live in the heated moment of passion.

Afterwords, you need to have a very intimate discussion about each others sexual needs, desires, fantasies, fetishes and how often you have sexual cravings. Coming to a deep understanding of each others sexuality is a key pivotal part of any healthy relationship. Some girls will have a larger sexual appetite than yours, but that's okay, there are other intimate acts you can do to satisfy them, such as oral sex, mutual masturbation or perhaps she has a favorite sex toy. Experiment with each other and have fun. Sex doesn't have to be a big scary thing.

And for the God, use a condom. There are literally dozens of different types, each suited for different needs and preferences. Find the ones that best suite you. Not only do you not have to worry about pulling out early out of fear getting her pregnant, you are 500,000,000 times less likely to contract an STD. There are also other forms of contraceptives you and your partner can look into as well.

In conclusion, get out there and don't be nervous about talking to girls. Don't worry about what they might think about your fetishes and just be yourself.🙂

Thanks man, that really means a lot to have heard this from you.

 

[Erin And Di]

My life was very unsheltered but I cam across the fetish in an odd way.

 

[Ticklecom1]

I would say that i am fairly Un-sheltered, i`m 22 i have my own place as well as going to university, i work, i don`t drive 🙁 and I have a medium size group of friends that i hang out with a lot
I have had the tickling fetish (among others) since around the age of 15-16
but i`m just one guy so i don't know, a tickling fetish could usually be because of a sheltered life, but that's not my personal experience. Hope this helped 🙂

 

[SasukeUchiha12]

I just joined and, i think this looks like a good community. Also it's the biggest tickle fetish community i've ever seen.

 

[SupportGunner]

I wouldn't call myself sheltered, seeing how m at the age of 19 been living alone 3 years of my life, been drinking way to much and even done some drugs. In my family we haven't really had any talk about sex, drugs and rock'n'roll so to speak, my parents trust me enough to let me experience and shape my own view. My ticklingfetish is a something I've had for as long as I can remember and it boomed at the age of 13 when I got myself my own computer with internet access so I could explore this fetish of mine. I still remember how I first come in contact with pure tickling media. I was googling the world tickling and managed to click my way into the "French Tickling" site and had myself one hell of a "holy Shit" revelation. Tickling was a thing in itself! Until that moment the thought of tickling being a maininterest of someone never crossed my mind, I just thought I was a really weird every time I watched a movie or a cartoon with a ticklingscene and got all tingling in my body. From that moment my interest have been skyrocketing, I've collected over 2000 pics of tickling in my computer and become member on two ticklingoriented forums.

Though one think worth noting is that I have no interest in any other forms of erotic media. Pornography doesn't arouse me at all (quite frankly I think it's a bit gross) and I have no other fetishes that's not linked directly to tickling. (That would be my armpitfetish)

 

[Staccato]

I finally joined this site! After lurking all this time...

Anyway, personally, I've had a tickle fetish for as long as I can remember. Tickling had always seemed like something less innocent for me. I would always remember feeling embarrassed when my father watched cartoons with me and a tickle scene pops up (the one I remember is the one from Samurai Jack, sometime back). I would shut off the TV and he would get mad at me... Ha. Silly little me.

My family -is- overbearingly protective and all of that, but I do not suppose that's the psychological reason as to why I'm so fixated on tickling. Maybe it's just based on how your parents raised you while you were a baby?

The world may never knowwwwww. :cool

 

[Tickleslave83]

In an unrelated matter, I've found in my happenings across the internet that there is some correlation--according to the research anyway--between transsexualism and the tickling fetish.
I found it to be a shocking consideration, being that in my experience a lot of people I'd seen on tickling sites were borderline homophobic. Then I realized that a majority of the individuals who were posting at the time were just foot fetishist that had been too obnoxious not to be kicked off of whatever website they were coming from.

Personally, I've met a few people in the tickling community who were transsexuals. But I suppose it's possible that for all of the people who frequent this site, not all of them have an active voice in the forum. So maybe the research is right; maybe it's just a coincidence; maybe they're way off base.
I just thought it was interesting. But like I said, it may be an altogether unrelated matter.

For what it's worth I'm transgendered and very submissive. I'd love to be a super ticklish girl.

I didn't really grow up in a repressive home but I was very afraid of sex until my 20s and am still very inhibited and a total virgin at 29. I don't drive, live with my parents and have barely any offline interaction with anyone.

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

Depends what you mean by sheltered hun.

We have people here who are gay, lesbian, and trans and almost all of us are into one form or another of BDSM play. If you were to have lived in (or grown up in), oh, a place like Saudi Arabia (where gays, lesbian, and trans are actively persecuted and BDSM is discouraged) then you'd probably would never have come here.

It's been said that the biggest enemy to liberty and equality is and has always been religion and while I don't know if that's true or not when a mass group of people tend to believe in something then someone believing in "something else" tends to be "frowned upon" and thus people are "sheltered from it" so that they can "grow up the right way". Granted, the same can be said for parents who are tolerant of things that we discuss and practice here on the theater.

I'm guessing it all depends on what you beliefs and preferences are and whether or not you'd be willing to tolerate or experience stuff like we've discussed here on the forum. So, can tickling be the product of a sheltered life? Yes and no. You can be sheltered from different things (including thinking differently than others around you [which some religions tend to do {at least in my own opinion and experience}]).

 

[FeatherFeet]

I think a tickling fetish like most fetishes, and orientations have far more to do with the way our brains are wired and what nature intended for us to be attracted to than anything to do with nurturing or sheltered existence.

I think that it's more the fact that on these websites the most active people more times than not tend to be people who don't have much else to do with their time in the real world. (of course there are exceptions so don't get mad to that statement) but the same can be said of just about anyone on any internet site. If you are spending lots of time posting on the internet that's time you aren't spending in the real world whether that is games, tickling, debate playing chess or just browsing youtube.

And then I think its more the fact that people who spend the MOST time on the internet probably have more sheltered lives with fewer in-person friends than those who spend less time on the internet. Therefore I think the sheltered existence piece has more to do with the fact this is an internet community than a tickling community.

Just my thoughts and of course I could be wrong.

 

[Bator]

I was never sheltered, quite the contrary. I lost my parents to a drunk driver when I was 14. I agree with FeatherFeet in that I believe that our brains were wired this way.

 

[Bator]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QiI0ydrw_QU 😉

 

[Tom Tickle]

I've always found that tickling is just an intense foreplay that inevitably leads to myself and my partner at the time making out. It's an intimate experience to explore the body of someone and found out what touching areas will do to them.

Same here, although it's not something I share with everyone, because I know from experience how some people react around it, but I really don't see why they do.

For me the feet have never been sexy, and the places I like to tickle are all between the collarbone and the knees; the curves and all the sensitive areas that respond to stroking, fondling or licking anyway. I thought tickling was sexy even before I used the word 'sexy', and originally wanted to tickle the tummies of the pretty girls at school before I discovered boobs, hips, thighs and the vulva. It has had a mixed reception - one girl at college said it 'was a bit French' and another asked if I was 'queer'- but they were used to guys who just wanted a straight-up shag. It was never tickle-torture, which I find a turn-off. I like girls who giggle and coo sexily than shriek and whimper.

I don't feel as though I was isolated as a kid, but a medical problem made me more isolated as a teen albeit only for a year. I think that was enough to hold me back from being too promiscuous and not having many female companions until college/uni. By then the fondness for tickling was well-developed and when a couple of female friends jokingly called me a 'raving pervert' for tickling them after a night out, it made me quite 'tumescent'.