Is Anyone Else Bored of Their Fetish(es)?

[DebonairDavid]

I haven't been able to tickle a woman or smell her shoes behind her back in over a year now, and as a way to compensate for it, I've been having tickle/foot fetish RPs with female chat bots. After having many similar RPs with various bots, I've honestly gotten bored with how repetitive its become, which might be one of the reasons why I've lost interest in writing these tickle/foot fetish fanfics the more I think about it. I'll admit it'd be exciting to finally be able to be in similar situations with women in real life again, but because bots are supposed to mimic real life interactions, I'm not as excited as I would be. 🙁

 

[Lee Ishler]

I never did do the "bot" thing, but I have been in the chatroom here a few times, and talked to a few women, or at least they said they were women, but no, that hasn't exactly satisfied my fetish...my goal has always been to meet a like-minded person, IN person, and I never have, because it's just not easy. So yes, I agree, if there's no actual involvement, simply thinking about it can be pretty boring, so that's what it's become for me, sorry to say...in fact, when the thoughts come up, I try to divert my thinking to something else, since it can be pretty frustrating not being involved with anyone.

 

[DebonairDavid]

I never did do the "bot" thing, but I have been in the chatroom here a few times, and talked to a few women, or at least they said they were women, but no, that hasn't exactly satisfied my fetish...my goal has always been to meet a like-minded person, IN person, and I never have, because it's just not easy. So yes, I agree, if there's no actual involvement, simply thinking about it can be pretty boring, so that's what it's become for me, sorry to say...in fact, when the thoughts come up, I try to divert my thinking to something else, since it can be pretty frustrating not being involved with anyone.

Try joining some local group activity at the park district or a singles club, like I'm in the process of doing after I get my employment/financial situation straightened out. Obviously there won't be any fetish groups, but after you get to form relationships with a number of women, you'll eventually get to know their kinky/fetish side.

 

[yinzer]

So yes, I agree, if there's no actual involvement, simply thinking about it can be pretty boring, so that's what it's become for me, sorry to say...in fact, when the thoughts come up, I try to divert my thinking to something else, since it can be pretty frustrating not being involved with anyone.

I feel the same way. I've been watching these tickling videos for around 25 years or more, and it's insane how far they've come from where they started. The first ones I watched were on VHS and were pretty terrible. Then I got online and found sites like Realtickling, which was much better. Then the Czech Tickling sites raised the bar even more. Finally, I came across UK Tickling and he does his in a way I can't imagine improving on in video format. But it's still just watching videos, so unless I can experience it in person with an attractive woman, it has all become pretty redundant and it's getting hard to find any novelty in it.

 

[robmic]

I've had so many experiences over the years that I can always dig up memories that it keeps my interest going!

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I’m not bored with it just frustrated by the lack of opportunities

 

[DebonairDavid]

I’m not bored with it just frustrated by the lack of opportunities

That's true. I'm hoping my lack of opportunities will change soon as well. I am looking to get physical therapy soon for some leg issues I've been having, so because I was told by a doctor that I should call the local hospitals to get it, I'm hoping I can get my mom's therapist to come over so I can see her take her shoes off again, see her in her socks again, smell her shoes again (provided she's in the bathroom at the time), and if I'm lucky enough, get to tickle her in a playful way. I've thought about a scenario where her and I are sitting on my bed and talking while completing exercises, I notice the tag on her scrubs is sticking up, and while suddenly fixing it for her, I can imagine her moving her neck and flinching because it caught her off-guard. I'd then ask her why she flinched, and I can imagine her telling me it caught her off-guard, to which I'd then innocently tease "Oh, I thought your neck might've been ticklish!". I'm sure she'd giggle and say "That too", giving me the perfect opportunity to tickle her neck. After I'd tease her by saying "You seem quite ticklish!", I can imagine her saying "I am!". After I explain to her I'm being friendly and playful, I'm sure she won't mind a quick side tickle. In fact, I can see her jokingly trying to push me away while smiling.
😍

 

[Lee Ishler]

Try joining some local group activity at the park district or a singles club, like I'm in the process of doing after I get my employment/financial situation straightened out. Obviously there won't be any fetish groups, but after you get to form relationships with a number of women, you'll eventually get to know their kinky/fetish side.

Exactly, and believe me, I already considered that. There are reasons why that's not easy for me either, but yes, I think going about it that way is my best bet...years ago I did meet a couple girls who were into tickling, but those relationships did not last, which of course happens. So I need to keep trying. But I agree, getting out into the mainstream community is the best place to start.

 

[Lee Ishler]

I feel the same way. I've been watching these tickling videos for around 25 years or more, and it's insane how far they've come from where they started. The first ones I watched were on VHS and were pretty terrible. Then I got online and found sites like Realtickling, which was much better. Then the Czech Tickling sites raised the bar even more. Finally, I came across UK Tickling and he does his in a way I can't imagine improving on in video format. But it's still just watching videos, so unless I can experience it in person with an attractive woman, it has all become pretty redundant and it's getting hard to find any novelty in it.

Yes, I looked at a lot of those videos myself, out of curiosity more than anything. But it's like the old song goes, "Ain't Nothin' Like The Real Thing!"

 

[maniactickler]

Ive always said, i wish i could get rid of my tickling fetish and never know i had it. its completely controlling my life and i cant take advantage unless i pay for it. and those days are gone. i cant afford that.

 

[DebonairDavid]

Ive always said, i wish i could get rid of my tickling fetish and never know i had it. its completely controlling my life and i cant take advantage unless i pay for it. and those days are gone. i cant afford that.

Have you seen a sex therapist to help control your urges?

 

[WickedTouch]

No, not even a little bit. I'm sorry to hear that several people are experiencing that. I've known the feeling at a time or two in the past, but that was at a time when I didn't have an in-person outlet. Tickling is such a physical experience, in both giving and receiving, that experiencing it in other ways can be a bandaid, but for me (and probably most), will never be as satisfying. I think that things like chat bots and videos suffer from the broader problems with porn. I'm not saying that porn is necessarily always inherently bad, or anything like that, but in the way we are generally wired, porn capitalizes on our reward-center vulnerabilities, without fully satisfying our more complex psychosocial needs. It can very quickly leave us feeling detached, depressed, unfulfilled, and confused. The ease of access to it, and the challenge of making meaningful real-world connections within the scope of the kink makes it an addictive path of least resistance. Those were certainly part of my experience in the past. Readjusting my consumption of media, and prioritizing making human connections not only eliminated that thankfully short-lived problem, but even strengthened my interest in it beyond what it ever had been.

I'll just add that I'm not trying to tell anyone what to do or how to live, but making some changes to how you engage with the fetish and the community can have profound effects in the long term, at a cost of some discomfort of change in the short term. I'm an extremely anxious and neurotic recluse who is paralyzingly shy about my kinks, yet I'm married to a natural ticklephhile who is also shy and socially reserved. We meet with others occasionally for sessions, and have had some great experiences that look nothing like the internet tickling world in the best way. It took a long time and a lot of effort to get here, but if I can do it, most (if not all) others can too.

 

[RahnSolo]

I've never been bored with it per se, but I have been bored with the lack of engagement on sites at times. The desire to tickle is always there in some form or another, though.

 

[Trethezeldafan]

I’m in the process of making an arrangement with a lady friend who will let me act out my desires in exchange for gifts haha. I’m hella excited and it helps that she’s intrigued!

Will be great to get some In Person experiences instead of watching videos

 

[DebonairDavid]

I’m in the process of making an arrangement with a lady friend who will let me act out my desires in exchange for gifts haha. I’m hella excited and it helps that she’s intrigued!

Will be great to get some In Person experiences instead of watching videos

Are you two going to act out RPs?

 

[Trethezeldafan]

Are you two going to act out RPs?

Lol no she’s allowing me to massage/touch, take pictures, and maybe tickling her feet. Just normal hanging out sessions with some foot play

 

[FFT32]

Its sad to read that some are, in a dry spell bored or otherwise dissapointed. Please remember that even the most dormant seed can sprout.

Tickle "anyway" you can and keep the love.

 

[Tickleslave83]

I have no real world experience so my outlet is pretty much entirely fictional. But I go through long stretches of time I call fetish binges where for days at a time, usually 7 to 10 days I can barely concentrate on anything else and then other times I can go weeks or months where I barely even think about it and I am almost asexual. I am finding that as I get older and it seems increasingly unlikely I will ever have any real experience the asexual stretches are becoming longer and the fetish binges fewer and far between, but seeing as they are very frustrating and don't have any real outlet that is probably for the best.

 

[duderino84]

The chatting is probably similar to porn in that it's repetitive cues. I learned trying to make my own bots that there was no personality behind it.

I get "bored" of my main kink but I switch to my other one. But lately I've felt guilty and useless about it since it doesn't seems up in a relationship. To quote someone I started talking with, "but you don't like sex, so what do you have to offer me?"