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IS it possible to know you will never get married
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asutickler
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Aside from the "getting satisfaction from my job" part, you and I are basically twins on the inside.
Maybe that's why you and Kassi get along so well.
Heh heh. *wink wink* Bow-chika-wow-wow... 😀
desdemona
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Yeah, keep telling yourself that, Rhino boy. Dream a little dream. And I ain't gonna be #3...or #3000. Hey, doesn't that negate your claim to not getting married?? When you have multiple wives???
That is a unique way of see it!!
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That would nullify my post!!!
I am totally into post nullification and thread necromancy.
goddess_nemesis
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I try hard not say never to anything because what you think at 18 won't be the same when you're 28 or 88. Right now, I'm not sure if I will but I won't rule it out either.
Sure. People can love each other but their personalities can clash. "Love The Way You Lie" by Eminem comes to mind for me. The story is that he wrote that about his volatile relationship with his ex-wife. I've also heard about this married couple who were on the verge of divorce when the husband moved into the house right next door. Now they're happier than they ever been. They love each other, but they just couldn't live together.
Yeah. I have friends who don't have any desire to marry, but are content with the relationships that they have.
When it comes to marriage, I can see both the cynicism of and the desire for it. I've seen strong marriages as well as rocky ones. I've seen strong LTRs and I've seen weak ones. Marriage has become an expected natural progression of relationships. I think too many people get pressured into getting married because it's expected of them and they eventually become resentful, which poisons the relationship.
For me, I don't desire a big fancy wedding and I don't really care if I sign a piece of paper to make it legal. If I love my man and desire to be with him forever, my "wedding" will be a small intimate gathering with family and friends and we'll exchange rings in front of them and in front of God. Those rings will symbolize our marriage and our commitment to each other. It may not be legally recognized by the state, but I don't care.
I try hard not say never to anything because what you think at 18 won't be the same when you're 28 or 88. Right now, I'm not sure if I will but I won't rule it out either.
Sure. People can love each other but their personalities can clash. "Love The Way You Lie" by Eminem comes to mind for me. The story is that he wrote that about his volatile relationship with his ex-wife. I've also heard about this married couple who were on the verge of divorce when the husband moved into the house right next door. Now they're happier than they ever been. They love each other, but they just couldn't live together.
Yeah. I have friends who don't have any desire to marry, but are content with the relationships that they have.
When it comes to marriage, I can see both the cynicism of and the desire for it. I've seen strong marriages as well as rocky ones. I've seen strong LTRs and I've seen weak ones. Marriage has become an expected natural progression of relationships. I think too many people get pressured into getting married because it's expected of them and they eventually become resentful, which poisons the relationship.
For me, I don't desire a big fancy wedding and I don't really care if I sign a piece of paper to make it legal. If I love my man and desire to be with him forever, my "wedding" will be a small intimate gathering with family and friends and we'll exchange rings in front of them and in front of God. Those rings will symbolize our marriage and our commitment to each other. It may not be legally recognized by the state, but I don't care.
Question in the USA if you live with someone for 4 years your considered in a relationship IS this True or NOT??.
Getting married is a choice. Of course people can decide to never get married but they may risk losing their partner (I saw it happen and it blindsided all of us).
I've been with my girl for 17 years (married for 13) and honestly the wedding was mostly an excuse to get our family and friends to all come to Vegas at the same time. 😀
We could get divorced tomorrow and still live as lovers for the next 17 years.
I've been with my girl for 17 years (married for 13) and honestly the wedding was mostly an excuse to get our family and friends to all come to Vegas at the same time. 😀
We could get divorced tomorrow and still live as lovers for the next 17 years.
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1. No. At age 12, I seriously married a guitar. And don't you ever put sauce on this testimonial!
2. N/A. There is only what you call "wrong match".
3. N/A
2. N/A. There is only what you call "wrong match".
3. N/A
Dave2112
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Cool....I'm not the only one who "married" a guitar. Her name was Betty, she was a '74 Fender Jazz with a killer figure. We were in wedded bliss until I accidentally ran her over with the car.
Anyhoooo.....
I don't think it's possible to fully know your future, even if you know yourself (or think you do) now. I swore to all of your various gods that I'd be single forever, was just in my nature. However, I'm now engaged and happily so. 🙂
Anyhoooo.....
I don't think it's possible to fully know your future, even if you know yourself (or think you do) now. I swore to all of your various gods that I'd be single forever, was just in my nature. However, I'm now engaged and happily so. 🙂
goddess_nemesis
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I don't get what you mean.
I dated my ex for nine months, we never lived together, but we were in a relationship.
Do you mean if you live with someone for a certain amount time, does the state consider you married? It's called common law marriage and I don't know how many states have it. I know that Minnesota doesn't.
asutickler
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If you're talking about common-law marriage, the rules vary widely by state.
Marriage seems like misery. It seems like such a dull seen after a while. I firmly believe that television and the media try to brainwash us into believing that you can't be happy unless you are with a partner. Think about the millions of dollards companies like Match.com or eHarmony make off this crap.
I cannot imagine waking up to the same person every single day, even when you just want to be alone.
Imagine waking up one day and thinking how much you'd love to just pack it up and move to England for a year. Oh wait, you're married and need money to split the bills with your spouse so you can't 🙁. You sprung for the cute little house with a nice yard and white picket fence. You told yourself it is the dream of all Americans to get married, get a house, and have kids. Then one day you realize that you gave up the opportunities to live the life you truly wanted and now you are trapped in a marriage where you do the same things day in and day out, night after night, weekend after weekend. Stories have been told to each other a million times, the sexual spark is fading, the little things he/she does that you used to think were cute are now becoming annoying. You don't see change in the future and you realize that if you or your spouse suffers job loss or something else it affects both of you the same amount.
Now, think about all the things you can do because you're single and it don't have to answer to someone else about what you want to do with your cash. You don't have to sit around on a Friday night cuz the hubby feels like drinking a few beers and watching a game you don't care about. No arguing with the the Mrs. because she needs something to nag you about so she gets on you every time something in the house don't work perfect. No arguments cuz you went out for girls or guys night out and got wasted and came in past 11 p.m. I'm 27 and last year I took 4 trips all over the country just for fun, which if I were married I would not have had the liberty or the financial freedom to go ahead and blow my money on.
I cannot imagine waking up to the same person every single day, even when you just want to be alone.
Imagine waking up one day and thinking how much you'd love to just pack it up and move to England for a year. Oh wait, you're married and need money to split the bills with your spouse so you can't 🙁. You sprung for the cute little house with a nice yard and white picket fence. You told yourself it is the dream of all Americans to get married, get a house, and have kids. Then one day you realize that you gave up the opportunities to live the life you truly wanted and now you are trapped in a marriage where you do the same things day in and day out, night after night, weekend after weekend. Stories have been told to each other a million times, the sexual spark is fading, the little things he/she does that you used to think were cute are now becoming annoying. You don't see change in the future and you realize that if you or your spouse suffers job loss or something else it affects both of you the same amount.
Now, think about all the things you can do because you're single and it don't have to answer to someone else about what you want to do with your cash. You don't have to sit around on a Friday night cuz the hubby feels like drinking a few beers and watching a game you don't care about. No arguing with the the Mrs. because she needs something to nag you about so she gets on you every time something in the house don't work perfect. No arguments cuz you went out for girls or guys night out and got wasted and came in past 11 p.m. I'm 27 and last year I took 4 trips all over the country just for fun, which if I were married I would not have had the liberty or the financial freedom to go ahead and blow my money on.
You sir, are my new best friend!!
We should plan a trip to Europe or something someday.....
Don't get me wrong, I think if it works for someone it's great. However, I am not one to want to change who I am for someone else. I was in a serious relationship a few years ago, and it wasn't for me. I became a totally different person, I saw how the "magic" that comes with initially getting to know someone fades after a while and the nagging and bickering begins. Fortunately for me it was just a relationship and not a marriage so there was a clean way out. I like that certain feeling of freedom that comes with not being married. I don't like the idea of feeling obliged to do things I don't want to do. I hate the arguing that comes with marriages, and I hate to break it to all of you Disney brainwashed people who believe that it's "happily ever after" but probably 90 percent of marriages have consistent bickering. Eventually one side just gets worn down and gives up their principles to keep the peace.
My biggest belief on the concept of marriage is that more people partcipate in it not so much because they believe in the sanctity of marriage, but because they are so scared of the chance of ending up alone that they would rather legally bind themselves to a partner. Unfortunately too many girls believe that a marriage defines them as successful because they were convinced that being single makes you look pathetic, and I'm sure many of them get pressured more and more by their family to "settle down" before it's too late. For guys, marriage is also like a measure of success. Many men feel that being married makes him look like he's mature and strong willed, a man among boys so to speak. When I see young guys my age getting married I can't help but think, well good luck and I can't wait to hear the stories of this nightmare in 5 years when the divorce is complete and you're back out with me at the bar...lol.
My biggest belief on the concept of marriage is that more people partcipate in it not so much because they believe in the sanctity of marriage, but because they are so scared of the chance of ending up alone that they would rather legally bind themselves to a partner. Unfortunately too many girls believe that a marriage defines them as successful because they were convinced that being single makes you look pathetic, and I'm sure many of them get pressured more and more by their family to "settle down" before it's too late. For guys, marriage is also like a measure of success. Many men feel that being married makes him look like he's mature and strong willed, a man among boys so to speak. When I see young guys my age getting married I can't help but think, well good luck and I can't wait to hear the stories of this nightmare in 5 years when the divorce is complete and you're back out with me at the bar...lol.
No. I've learned not to make those kind of generalizations. I thought I wouldn't ever get married in college, now I'm seriously reconsidering.
I'd say never say never. Maybe there's a person who would be incompatible with almost every single person out there. But you can't know until you really try.
Not sure.
So I'm not married, but I am in a committed relationship. Years ago I used to say I didn't want to get married because I couldn't see myself really being that in love with anyone. And what do you know, that changed. It's not just getting married, it's getting married to a specific person who is right for you.
Regarding the discussion here, I think it depends on how you see marriage. I don't see it as something that would limit me from doing what I want. A potential husband would want to do those things with me, or respect what I want to do and support it. It's tough work, but the rewards are there too. Getting to live with you best friend, and being 100% comfortable and supported would be pretty great. I wouldn't want an abusive marriage, nor an unsupportive one. I think you have to at least recognize that plenty of great marriages are out there and not just assume all marriages are miserable.
Do you mean if you live with someone for a certain amount time, does the state consider you married? It's called common law marriage and I don't know how many states have it. I know that Minnesota doesn't.[/QUOTE]
YES That's it!!!
AmericaRocks
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Same here.
But I'm too young to know anything, so I'll just let whatever happens happen.
It is possible to know you'll never get married if:
1. You're middle aged and still living with your mom (not because she has health problems but because you are too immature to get out on your own)
2. You refuse to get a full-time job because it will cut into you're 10-hours of sleep and 8 hours a day of television watching.
3. You are "that guy" who is at a bar by himself on a Tuesday at 1p.m and stays until close.
4. You're a total hermit who doesn't like to go out into public (seriously, if you don't leave the house you aren't gonna have a relationship)
5. You're in you're late 40's or 50's and only try to hit on girls half your age.
1. You're middle aged and still living with your mom (not because she has health problems but because you are too immature to get out on your own)
2. You refuse to get a full-time job because it will cut into you're 10-hours of sleep and 8 hours a day of television watching.
3. You are "that guy" who is at a bar by himself on a Tuesday at 1p.m and stays until close.
4. You're a total hermit who doesn't like to go out into public (seriously, if you don't leave the house you aren't gonna have a relationship)
5. You're in you're late 40's or 50's and only try to hit on girls half your age.
AmericaRocks
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So's five haha
