nessonite1
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I wouldn't reccomend "outing" someone without conclusive proof. And that would be virtually impossible to get.
nessonite said:I wouldn't reccomend "outing" someone without conclusive proof. And that would be virtually impossible to get.
Bignorm868 said:but only members who have a legit complaint against them, i.e. don't post a suspected member if the accuser is hates the accusee, etc.?
goodieluver said:The same goes for the F\F girls here, when they post a personals or even explicitly list they are only interested in females, they get dozens of comments by men
I LOVE T.O.E.S. said:I guess my point is, laws and rules in everyday life are broken everyday by people who may or may not even lose an ounce of sleep over it.
That is VERY GOOD advice!Darkblade160 said:I wouldn't openly engage in any kind of relationship I'd engage with someone here unless I knew for sure everything they told me about themselves was true, gender and all. You hear people all the time talking about how dangerous meeting people online is, well we're in the deep end of the pool. This is a fetish forum, you were brought to their attention at a place they use for sexual stimulation. Know everything can about these people because you can't really trust any of them.
Meeting people offline
We advise that you do not meet other users offline. When you are online, it is very easy for people to pretend to be someone they’re not.
If you are absolutely sure who they are, and decide to meet them, please do not do so without doing the following:
1. Get a friend to accompany you
2. Always tell someone you trust about where, when, and who you are meeting
3. Always meet in a public place of your choice
Take it slow, friendships and relationships take time to develop, and NZDating is the perfect vehicle to stay anonymous and learn a lot about people before meeting them. Rushing the online portion of the relationship increases the risks that you don't know enough about the person and their moods. Earn each other's trust before taking it to the next level.
Requesting a second photo with different surroundings will give you a better feeling for the member and should prevent fake photos being used. The ability to scan photos is very common nowadays so any excuses of not providing photos may signal that they have something to hide.
Talking on the Phone
Wait until you are very comfortable with the other person before deciding to speak to each other on the phone. If they suggest it, take their number so you can make the call only when you are ready. In today's world even making a call can reveal your phone number (with caller ID). If you are still not 100% sure you may want to disable caller ID or use a public phone when calling.
Remember to listen to the person that answers and any background noise, always making sure they match what you already know about this person.
Meeting in Person
When you finally decide to meet, be sure to let your family or friends know where you are going and when you expect to return. Its always good to contact your family of friends before, during and after the meeting, so that they know you are alright, having to make contact with someone else also lets the person you are meeting know that you have friends looking out for you. It's always good to take a cell phone, that way you can arrange for your friends or family to call and check on you, rather than having to call someone yourself.
* It's always best to meet in a public location with plenty of people around - restaurants and coffee shops are a good starting place. You should avoid meeting at a private home until you get to know the person well in a face to face environment.
* If you are unsure of the meeting, going as part of a double date or arranging to meet the person with a friend provides an extra level of safety. Remember to let the person know beforehand and give them the option of bringing a friend.
* If the person you are meeting is in another town or city, it may be better to meet in a city in between to reduce the hometown factor. If you must meet them in their city, choose a popular public location and arrange your own transport both there and back. Never give out details of where you are staying until you are sure of the person.
* Never rely on the person you are meeting to get you home, if you do not take your own car be sure to take enough money to arrange your own transport.
* If you decide to meet further, good signs are that they match their online persona, and introduce you to their friends, associates or family.