Is There Such A Thing As "Realistic Dating Age Range"

[nikki16.parker]

I'm 21 and my last boyfriend was 15 years older than me, which makes him 36 now. We were together for 2 years (I started dating him at 19 when he was 34). And the age wasn't really a factor. But I guess it's different for different people. I would say that it all comes down to a mental connect. 🙂

 

[Bothersome]

Well you are 20 then, you shouldn't have any trouble finding someone over 17. Or maybe you are nineteen. If so, 19 year old dating a 17 year old is no biggie. As for 'legal', this is just dating we are talking about right? Besides, common sense does still apply.

I'm almost positive that someone's parents could go after me for statutory rape.

In any case, I'm in no hurry to find out. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than teenage girl syndrome.

 

[dirtyoldman]

Ok, I've never posted anything on here before, and this is just my opinion, so here goes:

It seems like you're putting a great deal of thought into this. I'm in a complicated situation myself, and dealing with this same situation right now as well. I think the most important thing is how you feel/relate about/to each other more than any age difference. I know I'd hate to think I missed out on a wonderful person just because of some arbitrary age rule. It may depend somewhat on the stage of life you're both in, I think someone else said that earlier too. I mean, my dad got remarried at 62 to a woman 42, but they were in the same place in life (both retired and lost their spouses, kids grown or nearly grown). Not that it can't work out if you're not in the same place, if you're willing to make the sacrifices to help the other person with what they want to do. In my case, I've had a family, a career, etc. so even though the young woman I'm in love with isn't sure where her life is going yet, I know I'd be willing to do whatever I could to help support her in whatever decision she made. I just know I want to be a part of her life and make her happy. And I wasn't looking for anyone of any age when I met her. Anyway, the best of luck to you.

 

[sealdan]

Mitchell, I'm more curious what age range YOU would prefer to date regardless of what anyone else says. You alluded to 50 being out, so that gives me a little bit better of an idea, but I'm wanting to hear more.

I'm also curious what qualities you look for in a female partner. Would you be willing to share?

Dan

 

[Mitchell]

dirty, thanks for your insight. I do agree that how the person and I feel about each other being most important.

I think my "perfect dating age", as I think I mentioned earlier in this thread.. would be anywhere from 28 to 35, for the reason that one wouldnt feel like marriage would need to be rushed, for her to still be young enough, to have a child or two.

Qualties I look for in a female partner, okay: Patient, kind, open minded, non judgemental. Someone who if there's a problem, that we can sit down and talk rationally, without feeling the need to fly off the handle. I've dealt with many explosive relationships with family and friends in my life, and it would be good not to have to deal with that.

Hope that answers the questions.

Mitch

 

[sealdan]

Got it. Yeah, I'll admit I didn't read the rest of the thread before posting my questions. Thanks for being willing to share again.

 

[Mitchell]

YW. Thank you.

Mitch

 

[stroker]

Dont look at the numbers, If you meet someone you're meant to be with you will both know it and it will just come together naturally . Your feelings are not determined by a mathematical formula.

 

[Mitchell]

I understand what you mean. Thanks, stroker.

Mitch

 

[Miss Serendipity]

Personally, I believe age ranges are really all about personal preference! that's just me!

 

[rhiannon]

Mitch, how about you don't even worry about the age? See how you get along first, and if you get along, it doesn't matter how old she is, really!

Personally though, I never liked guys younger than me, but that's just a personal preferrence that has to do with my sexuality more than anything. I've been with guys who've been up to 20 years older. The guy who was that much older I wouldn't have considered a serious relationship with though. It was good as an affair, but nothing more. My husband is five years older than me, and I'd have to say it's perfect that way.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks for the sincere insight, rhiannon, I appreciate it. I see what you're saying about not worrying about the age, and seeing who I get along with.

As for not mattering how old she is: While I do see what you're saying, in my case, I still would like someone younger so that I can have natural children. Whether that means someone 25.. or 35.. remains to be seen. I do agree with you that the most important thing is who I get along with.

Mitch

 

[Jagermeistered]

In regards to age: older is better, but younger is much more, "fun-ner"... But, that is just my sentimentalism.

Think of it this way: a lady our age will feed our sexual thirst, but the younger crowd - are experiamentalists, and drive us to activities we are not proned to, or haven't experienced. The lady in our generation, "gap", exposes us to activities, we know all to well.

While the younger generation, are full of surprises.

What do you want? Only you know...

 

[kis123]

In regards to age: older is better, but younger is much more, "fun-ner"... But, that is just my sentimentalism.

Think of it this way: a lady our age will feed our sexual thirst, but the younger crowd - are experiamentalists, and drive us to activities we are not proned to, or haven't experienced. The lady in our generation, "gap", exposes us to activities, we know all to well.

While the younger generation, are full of surprises.

What do you want? Only you know...

And a cougar will take you to places you never thought you'd go.

Don't count us out the mix just yet..........

 

[rhiannon]

Think of it this way: a lady our age will feed our sexual thirst, but the younger crowd - are experiamentalists, and drive us to activities we are not proned to, or haven't experienced. The lady in our generation, "gap", exposes us to activities, we know all to well.

What a clichee! 🙂 I know 20-year-olds who would never give a BJ and 50-year-old ladies who educated me on fetishes I never thought possible! 🙂 (I could have lived without knowing about them, but hey....still those ladies sure were the experimental ones!!)

 

[Jagermeistered]

My only intervention, don't go to battle(without, proper - armour)... With these ladies, it would be a suicidal mission.

 

[kis123]

My only intervention, don't go to battle(without, proper - armour)... With these ladies, it would be a suicidal mission.

Ya' got that right buddy!

 

[3xPIN]

I'm almost positive that someone's parents could go after me for statutory rape.

In any case, I'm in no hurry to find out. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than teenage girl syndrome.

I wholeheartedly agree with that last part!

As for the first part:

1)When it comes to dating age, I repeat, common sense does apply (I can't stress that enough); I think that you are still talking about dating.
2) They can! For dating them or just talking to them? Just because you are 20 and they are 17? I mean, yeah sure, they could "go after' you. But that is only if they had proof of sex. Once again, this was never a question about sex, only dating. You can't go to jail for dating, or even making it to first base, with a 17 year old; frowned upon by society maybe, but not jail time. Second base is more of sex offender's list type thing. Besides, you should be more worried about the fact that it doesn't matter if they take you to court unless they have proof. You could get them for defamation of character.

 

[3xPIN]

And a cougar will take you to places you never thought you'd go.

Don't count us out the mix just yet..........

Don't worry, I don't! 😉