Is tickling cheating?

[Talamantes]

To her, it does. Because she will feel cheated. And if you feel the necessity to keep it secret from her, I would think the person doing it knows what the reaction will be and therefore is cheating as well.

You know Rhiannon, you don't take hints to end conflict (e.g. agree to disagree). Seems to me you are not respecting my right to an opinion. So, I will end it for my part on these next few posts. First, you are not in a position to speak for my SO, me or society. You don't know my SO or how she feels. Second, lots of people feel lots of things, but the OP didn't stipulate "in the opinion of non-participating spouse" but rather a general proposition. So let's agree to disagree. Ok. You think tickling without sex is cheating, I don't. Agree to disagree.

 

[Talamantes]

And then again - does it matter how you call it? In the end all that matters is if you hurt your SO with what you do and if your SO will forgive you, or do we disagree there too?

One can do lots of things that hurt their SO that aren't cheating. They can drink too much. They can forget an anniversary. So, just doing something that hurts an SO doesn't make it cheating. Cheating is specific to an agreement or understanding between two consenting adults. And that isn't what is happening in the scenario I am describing. So, yes we disagree. And for the record, often the person you think is "cheating" isn't the only one who may need forgiveness. I would just say we have different views on this.

 

[CaptainValiant]

If you're in an open relationship, your opinion on this topic doesn't matter. There are levels of tickling just like there are levels of hugging. Some of you are so deceitful that anything besides the ol' in-out-in-out is fair game. You act like a bunch of pasta eating midlife crisis assholes at a golf resort. Fuck this thread. CLOSE THE THREAD, MODS.

 

[Wolf]

If you're in an open relationship, your opinion on this topic doesn't matter. There are levels of tickling just like there are levels of hugging. Some of you are so deceitful that anything besides the ol' in-out-in-out is fair game. You act like a bunch of pasta eating midlife crisis assholes at a golf resort. Fuck this thread. CLOSE THE THREAD, MODS.

Inelegantly put, perhaps, but he's hit the nail on the head with a 20-pound sledgehammer.

If tickling isn't sexual or intimate to you, then it's not cheating. If you're in an open relationship, where, by definition, anything goes....then it's not cheating.
if it takes you paragraphs, and page after page in a thread to explain how you're not cheating...then it's probably cheating.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

Inelegantly put, perhaps, but he's hit the nail on the head with a 20-pound sledgehammer.

Really? I thought he must have hit his big toe with that sledgehammer. I've never seen such whining and crying over people posting opposing opinions.

If tickling isn't sexual or intimate to you, then it's not cheating. If you're in an open relationship, where, by definition, anything goes....then it's not cheating.

Agreed.

if it takes you paragraphs, and page after page in a thread to explain how you're not cheating...then it's probably cheating.

LOL...So being thorough now qualifies as cheating, huh? Ooookayyyy.

FYI, I can sum up why tickling isn't cheating in three words: IT ISN'T SEXUAL!

 

[Franky]

Just to clarify, but just because someone is in an open relationship or any other non-monogamist relationship does not mean that "anything goes." If you want further information and you are also on fetlife then check out the groups dedicated to those type of relationship dynamics.
Also, part of the reason why some of those who are in those type of relationships are weighing in on this thread is to help illustrate the fact that, by having actively open and continuous communication with all those involved in the relationship can be a very positive thing and not to be mistaken for a "mommy may I" type of relationship.

Also, it has already been agreed upon and clarified by many that playful tickling is just that vs making plans for a private meet-up at a hotel or equivalent for tickling with or without the bondage regardless if the other is a pro or not will most likely be viewed as cheating even if there is no intercourse or touching of the genitalia involved.

 

[CaptainValiant]

yo momma so fat when she farts it stink