It Was REALLY Necessary For You To Do That.

[Mitchell]

You know who you are.

Whatever happens to me, with this post.. happens.

For the second time.. someone on this forum.. I dont know who..

Friended me on Facebook, a place where I go to have discussions about real life, general things.

With family, vanilla friends, business associates.

People who dont know I belong to this forum, because there is no reason to discuss it, and it isnt anyone;s business, as it's my private life that has nothing to do with who I deal with in real life.

This "person". (I use the term lightly) Then proceeded to link all of my TMF information, to my Facebook account.

What the fuck did you accomplish by doing that?

Did you think it was funny.. to embarrass, and humiliate me?

I';ve been trying to focus on having general discussions with people about politics, etc.

For those that dont know..

I've been banned from messaging women on this forum for a long time.

Such, was because, I guess, of my actions of being too forward, for which I apologize to anyone I offended.

It was never my intent to be stalking, or harassing when I did so.

This is.. a sexual discussion/fetish forum.

My messages, apparently went too far, and I have had the consequences of such, for a long time now.

This person cant even say that they did this now, because they were angry with me that, I messaged their girlfriend/wife recently, and asked the women if she stood barefoot on a ladder, because I dont/cant message women anymore.

In the past, I would have run away and left the forum.

I decided .. to take a different route, and try to remain.. with people who I';ve known for fourteen years.

No matter who I was.. angry at.. on this forum.. I would never follow that person to another site.. for the purpose of humiliating them to people they deal with in real life. Any disputes I had remained on this forum.

For that,.. may you and those near and dear to you, be punished by a greater force, if there is one.

As I said, whatever happens, happens with this post. I truly dont give a fuck.

 

[chicago]

Something similar happened to me once. Its awful. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you can, try to keep as much of your Facebook private and be careful who you add as a friend.

🙁

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks for your support, Chicago.

I know that now.

I discuss nothing private on Facebook.

For the most part.. I discuss politics, and sports on there.

By the way, I know you were upset in the past when I referred to you by your real name on here.

I';m sorry about doing that. I just thought your real name is cool.

I haven't been doing that anymore, as you know.

Thanks again.

 

[bethaknee]

Pretty much what Chicago said. Don't friend anyone you don't know on facebook. You do have the power to delete posts off your timeline, if that's where they posted it. If someone friends you and you don't know who they are, send them a message, ask them how they know you. If it's someone you don't know, and don't want to friend, just block them so they can't communicate with you in anyway or even see what you're posting on your facebook.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, Bethan.

I did delete the posts from my timeline, and I blocked the person who did it.

I can post this now, because it really doesnt matter.

A couple of weeks ago, a girl on Facebook sent me a friendship request.

She was then, messaging me,,. constantly, to the point where I had to block her.

I use Facebook mostly for discussions about politics, sports, and just to wish Facebook friends happy birthdays, etc.

This just really pissed me off, because it was so unneeded, except that whoever did it wanted to be vicious.

Whoever I have/had disputes with on this forum, from my perspective, it ends and stays here when I close the page to this forum.

If someone wants to call me an asshole for something I did to them on this forum, or a view I have about politics, or something else, fine.

I would never follow them around the internet, for the purpose of humiliating them to others, who might not/probably dont know they belong to this forum.

 

[Wolf]

Sorry that happened, Mitch. There will always be creeps on this (and any) forum, but we definitely have more than our share.
I'd be willing to bet it's someone who's messed with you before; once assholes like that find a victim, they don't let up easily.
Just gotta be careful who you trust. I know from experience, having someone from the forum know who you really are can be uncomfortable.
Hopefully, they'll get tired of acting like an elementary school bully and move on.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, Wolf.

Actually,. I'm most upset with my Facebook friends knowing about this forum.

As I said before they are business associates, friends in real life who dont know I have this fetish/belong to this forum, and yes, family.

Look at most of my posts recently. They have been about politics.'

I posted.. one or two "vents" about my difficult situation with my family in my blog. I dont clutter the main forum with them anymore.

The thing that angers me most.. if I've changed, then why cant whoever the hell "messed with me before", as you say, just let it go?

 

[Bugman]

Man, that's just so wrong. What a pathetic ass. Sorry that happened to you Mitch.

 

[Mitchell]

I appreciate the support, bug.

Yes, the person who did that is very pathetic. Far more pathetic then I ever have been, whatever issues I have, because , as angry as I've ever been with anyone on this forum, I would never humiliate them in real life, or in a place they deal with real life people.

 

[Wolf]

Thanks, Wolf.
Actually,. I'm most upset with my Facebook friends knowing about this forum.
As I said before they are business associates, friends in real life who dont know I have this fetish/belong to this forum, and yes, family.
Look at most of my posts recently. They have been about politics.'
I posted.. one or two "vents" about my difficult situation with my family in my blog. I dont clutter the main forum with them anymore.
The thing that angers me most.. if I've changed, then why cant whoever the hell "messed with me before", as you say, just let it go?

There's a reason trolls think that "doxxing" someone, or exposing their identity, is a triumph. They don't have real lives of their own.
They make up "impressive" or "controversial" personas, because they're desperate to have an effect on someone. Any interaction with them is feeding their need.

 

[Mitchell]

I see your point.

This person's posts have been deleted, and they are on ignore, but the damage is done, so to say.

Hopefully, it will just go away.

From now on, I';m not going to accept any new friendship requests on Facebook, unless I know who they are.

Whoever the fuck this person is, they must be someone I've had real problems with over the years.

It also shows their extreme lack of character.. to do this.

 

[SlaverTickler]

That is on par with breaking Bro Code, or outing a stripper. You just don't do shit like that. Allot of people just wouldn't understand our live for this. That's why I never post my picture on the Internet... EVER!

 

[Mitchell]

My picture has been on here for a long time.

I could have it taken down, but it might not matter at this point.

In my view, the person who did this, is more pathetic than I ever have been/was, because, I always kept my discussions with people, agree or disagree , on this forum. Nothing we discuss here is worthy of humiliating someone in real life, unless you;'re a really low person.

I have a few ideas of who it might be, but wont post their forum names of course.

 

[Mitchell]

To give everyone an example.. I may have posted this before.

Everyone on here knows how close I was with my late mother.

We worked together, lived together.. etc.

She knew I belonged to this forum, but only for one reason.

Early on right after I joined the forum, I had a discussion in the chatroom with a girl and forgot to ask age.

Suddenly, a screen came on, and a "cop" told me I was in trouble for talking to supposedly a 17 year old about sex.

It looked real, and I thought I would have to get a lawyer, so I told my mom what happened, and about this forum.

Only to find out later from reliable sources that the "cop" was a troll, who had done that to others.

Had the fake cop incident never happened, I might never have told her about this forum, or maybe not until much later, when I received the support during her illness, and ultimately, her death.

I didnt belong to Facebook then. (This was 2002, so I dont even know if it existed back then).

Even so, I never would have followed whoever the fake cop was.. to another site, and humiliated them.

My issue with whoever that was.. remained here.

 

[Angel_2]

That's awful that this happened to you. FB as any other social media site you have to be very careful about who you trust. Some people are just assholes who have nothing better to do than to cause trouble for others. My advice, going forward unless you know the person in real life don't accept any new friends request....or first message them asking how they know you....and if your gut tells you something isn't right....delete them and move on.

 

[Mitchell]

Thank you. Angel. I appreciate the support.

I know this now.

As I explained before, the first time this happened, I thought maybe it was.. a sick practical joke or something. I didnt like it, but, it happened, and I tried to forget about it.

Now that it happened a second time, and especially with the magnitude and viciousness of this person's posts when they did it, I know it was intended to be malicious.

Sometimes, as we know, our minds are distracted from other things.

If I'm working on something else, and I get a friendship request, I often just click accept, move on, and dont give it a second thought.

Now that this happened, I'm going to be extremely cautious about who I accept as a friend.

 

[milagros317]

I am very sorry to hear that this happened to you, Mitchell. Whoever did it is a person of very low character.
Certainly you will be more careful in the future about friendship requests on FB.

 

[Mitchell]

Thank you, milagros, I appreciate the support.

You have always been one of my favorite people on this forum.

Yes, in my view, whoever did that, has no character whatsoever.

I will definitely be more careful in accepting Facebook friendship requests in the future.

 

[Mitchell]

One other thing I want to say.

While I know I've sometimes gone overboard in the past about posting personal situations in my real life on the main forum board, until consequences caused me to change my actions and not do so anymore.

This is a private site, with people I've known for years.

Some people I know/have seen on Facebook, post every detail of their lives on there.

Something I never do.

Case in point.

When I left Aflac, I posted it here, because I wanted to share a significant detail of my life, with friends who had been supportive of me when I passed the insurance exam, and got the position there.

I did not post about leaving Aflac on Facebook, for the simple reason that, of course, people I knew who work (ed) at Aflac, are on Facebook, and i didnt want to post the details of private discussions I had with them, in a place where someone they might not want to see it, could view my vents. It wouldnt be fair to them, or to me.

As upset as I was about having to leave Aflac, I let it go.

My mandate is.. if I posted something humiliating about someone else on Facebook, such would show me to be a complete fucking asshole, and how would I feel if someone did that to me.

That's the best summation I can give of how I feel about this situation, and how I view whoever the hell it was that did such a thing.

 

[chicago]

Just so you know, though, through the things you've shared here - your name, your fathers name, your friends names, details about your friends and relatives including occupations, and your location, it's not hard to find your fb.

You may want to think hard about this when sharing your life on a public forum.

 

[Mitchell]

Chicago, while I see your point..

Such still doesnt give anyone a right to humiliate me on another site, just because "it isn't hard to find me", as you say.

Someone I know says one cant undo the past.

All I can do is from now on to be careful who I accept as a friend on Facebook. I'm not one of those people who has to feel popular by having 1000 friends on Facebook. Rather be safe then sorry.

 

[Mitchell]

One other thing I should post, because it really doesnt matter now.

After this incident happened last night, I asked to have my picture taken down from the forum members pictures section.

I was told, that, the last time this happened, I had asked to have it taken down,, and it was taken down.

I confirmed this.. as I couldnt find my picture on here.

I didn't remember that the picture had been taken down.

So.. what we know.. is that.. whoever this sewer rat is. who did this yesterday.. purposely either saved my picture on their computer.. or a link to my picture, for the purpose of being malicious.

I didnt like it when it happened the first time, but, when I calmed down, I started to think to myself at the time. "Okay, maybe it was a practical joke, let it go, and hopefully it wont happen again".

As I said before, now that it happened a second time, I know that whoever the hell did this, did it for the sole purpose of being malicious, which to me, shows their complete lack of character.

 

[chicago]

No, it doesn't give them a right, but you do have a responsiblity to protect yourself. Its much like leaving your house with the door open.

 

[Mitchell]

I understand that.

Like I said, I cant undo the past.

What I can and will do, is to be very careful about who I accept on Facebook as friends from now on.

 

[Wolf]

Mitch, you do share a lot of personal information on the forum. That's your choice, but you know from personal experience that it's a risk, and there are people who will still use it against you.