It Was REALLY Necessary For You To Do That.

[Mitchell]

Wolf, I understand that.

I've been sharing a lot less personal information on the forum.

Something else I was thinking.

In regard to Chicago's point about "leaving the door to your house open".


I still say that whatever I posted in here, doesnt give someone the right to humiliate me somewhere else.

It is almost like a form of rape.

Case in point.

Imagine if..

A girl wore a low cut dress around a horny guy.

Does that give him the right to.. go up to her and feel her breasts without her consent, because she "revealed too much of herself" by wearing a low cut dress?

Or..

A girl wore.. open toe sandals, with my favorite color toenail polish around me.

Does that give me the right to..

Humiliate or abuse her, by walking up to her, and tickling and sucking her toes without her consent?

To me, whoever the hell did this.. is 100 times worse than whatever I've ever done/shared, said on this forum.

 

[Wolf]

Wolf, I understand that.
I've been sharing a lot less personal information on the forum.
Something else I was thinking.
In regard to Chicago's point about "leaving the door to your house open".
I still say that whatever I posted in here, doesnt give someone the right to humiliate me somewhere else.
It is almost like a form of rape.
Case in point.
Imagine if..
A girl wore a low cut dress around a horny guy.
Does that give him the right to.. go up to her and feel her breasts without her consent, because she "revealed too much of herself" by wearing a low cut dress?
Or..
A girl wore.. open toe sandals, with my favorite color toenail polish around me.
Does that give me the right to..
Humiliate or abuse her, by walking up to her, and tickling and sucking her toes without her consent?
To me, whoever the hell did this.. is 100 times worse than whatever I've ever done/shared, said on this forum.

Yeah, I wondered when the rape comparison would come up. I'm sorry, but it's completely inappropriate, and best if it's just dropped.
I never said what you did was wrong. But it was ill-advised, based on past experiences.
What you did was more akin to joining a forum with your real name, or telling your new roommate your ATM PIN number.
It's your right, and no one has the right to take advantage of you, but c'mon...use some common sense.

 

[Mitchell]

While I see your point, I still dont 100% agree.

Another case in point.

One time, sometime ago, I was communicating with a forum member at their personal email about something.

I had only known this person by their forum name.

By accident, they signed their real name on my email.

When I pointed this out to them, they didnt make a big issue out of it.

However, I still would never post.

"Oh, by the way, I wrote with (forum member's real life name) at their personal email".

While I;m sure/I know that some forum members know this person's real life name, not everyone does, and I know that this person doesnt want the whole forum to know their real name. I respect this person's privacy.

You;re right, Wolf, I'll drop it, but it still doesnt mean its not low what whoever this person is, did.

My picture isnt here anymore, and I wont accept Facebook friends who I dont know.

Honestly, after this, if I could take a hiatus/leave the forum, I would.

It's very difficult to do so after fourteen years, because I have a lot of history here that is still meaningful to me.

So, I'm not going to post a whole dramatic ""I'm leaving" thread, and then stay.

I dont plan to leave.

This thread will die out, and I learned my lesson about Facebook, etc.,

Hopefully, the situation will die down, and wont happen again.

 

[Wolf]

While I see your point, I still dont 100% agree.
Another case in point.
One time, sometime ago, I was communicating with a forum member at their personal email about something.
I had only known this person by their forum name.
By accident, they signed their real name on my email.
When I pointed this out to them, they didnt make a big issue out of it.
You;re right, Wolf, I'll drop it, but it still doesnt mean its not low what this person did.
My picture isnt here anymore, and I wont accept Facebook friends who I dont know.
Honestly, after this, if I could take a hiatus/leave the forum, I would.
It's very difficult to do so after fourteen years, because I have a lot of history here that is still meaningful to me.
So, I'm not going to post a whole dramatic ""I'm leaving" thread, and then stay.
I dont plan to leave.
This thread will die out, and I learned my lesson about Facebook, etc.,
Hopefully, the situation will die down, and wont happen again.

I think you're missing my point. No one said any of this was your fault.
You apparently have a need to share personal information on the forum, and that's fine, but it's a risk, with some of the people we have here, and it's going to have consequences.
You of all people should have learned that by now.

 

[Mitchell]

I see your point, and I appreciate you saying it wasnt my fault.

Like I said, after that latest situation on Facebook, I learned my lesson, both about info I share on this forum, and Facebook.

 

[chicago]

How many raped women would put themselves in any kind of potential danger for it to happen to them again?

I'm not blaming victims here, but as a grown man that has had this happen to him twice, where is the responsibility on your part? Where is the lesson learned? I could find your Facebook right now if I wanted based on info you have posted. Your friends list is public, so it would be easy to contact any of those people.

Also this thread is just a spotlight on you screaming "I'm an easy target!" for any and all trolls or vicious people. So are many of your other personal threads.

If you have the ability to control a risk why would you not?

 

[Mitchell]

Whatever, chicago.

Your post sounds like a reprimand, and to tell you the truth, it doesnt really matter to me what you think.

As I said before.. I thought that the first time was a practical joke, and tried to let it roll off my back.

That it happened a second time, is what really got me.

I also have much more important things on my mind than "Facebook".

The last time this happened, I took my picture down from here, and changed my profile from the town where I actually live to

"New York City".,

I'll play around with the controls on Facebook, to make my friends list private, and wont accept any more friendship requests from people I dont know.

What I'm really asking myself, is as a professor of mine said.

"Why havent I left the forum after the BS I deal with here?: ".

Even though I'm banned from being "Ladder Stalker " anymore, or whatever the fuck people think I was..

I can still get hounded in places where real life people know me.

None of this matters anymore.

I just posted it, to point it out.

 

[Mitchell]

As a matter of fact, I just went to the privacy controls on my account.

Except for a couple of things, I must have changed a lot of them through the privacy controls the last time this happened.

As I said before, this person apparently had my picture or a link to the picture, saved on their computer, and thats how they found me.

 

[Mitchell]

After the first time this happened.. .

Even though I posted a lot of information about my situation with Aflac when I was working there.

I had gone to work for a second insurance company for a while last year, and purposely didnt post anything/much about it, specifically because of the first time this had happened. To attempt to keep my life more private.

 

[rdhd]

Perhaps this thread should be closed.....