Just My Luck

[♡AimLEE♡]

I had my first tickling experience last Thursday and it was probably the best night of my entire life. The guy was super nice and really funny. We really got along, especially for just meeting for the first time off of TMF!

He spent 3 straight hours tickling me and it was awesome. I couldn't have asked for a better "first time"! But you know when everything is going right in your life and then something has to happen to screw it up for ya? Well... life decided it wanted to kick me in the ass when I was finally happy:

He didn't contact me afterwards. I was freaking. I totally thought he hated me, never wanted to talk to me again. I was so ... upset. I don't think thats even the right word ... ! So finally as I was traveling with my sister I decided to just text him and see what was up. I had to try something or I would have beaten myself up over this for the rest of my life.

Turns out he got his ex pregnant. hah. Figures, right? So now he has to be a good person [which I respect ... ugh] and take care of her. Which means ... no more tickling with Landon ... ever ... again .... ever.

..... never ever again.

I honestly don't even feel like I can even meet anyone else after this. I'm afraid this will all just keep repeating itself forever. Ugh. Why why why? I know everything happens for a reason .. but come on!

What do I do now?
Advice anyone?!

 

[Slytickler]

It may seem like a terrible thing now but you are young, in college, and pretty. I am sure you will meet many guys who will tickle you. I have been on the TMF for quite a while now and every so often I when I read of all of the good times everyone is having getting to tickle and be tickled it makes me feel like I will never meet anyone who is into it. Just remember that each day is filled with opportunities and you never know what will happen.

To sum it up don't give up hope. You will find someone. They may not be from here though.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

Patience is the key , my young friend.

You're still very young & have plenty of time to find the right someone to share your love of tickling with.

Don't force it. Be like Fonzie ... & just be coooool.

Good luck!

 

[LD_Tickler]

Well that sucks balls. These meetings just keep working out great for you, eh? 😉

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Well that sucks balls. These meetings just keep working out great for you, eh? 😉

I've only had one meeting .. so shush!

The other "meetings" that didn't work were my choice!

 

[Raystanz333]

.......Whhaaat a shitload of fuck.

I'm real sorry for you. *pats on the back*

I can only repeat what everybody else is saying in that you're young and have a long exciting life ahead of you. 🙂

Another thing I might add is to look into some gatherings in your area. But this depends on if you're more of a personal tickler. Gatherings aren't for everybody but I sure as hell love them. So think about it 🙂

Are you more of a 1 on 1 personal tickler? Besides just because somebody has a girlfriend doesn't mean they can't have some tickle fun. But again this depends on your preferences. It's complicated.

But before I go on and on you don't have to answer all those questions. I don't mean to be nosy or anything.

So again my condolences to you. Hope you're feeling a little better.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

.......Whhaaat a shitload of fuck.

I'm real sorry for you. *pats on the back*

I can only repeat what everybody else is saying in that you're young and have a long exciting life ahead of you. 🙂

Another thing I might add is to look into some gatherings in your area. But this depends on if you're more of a personal tickler. Gatherings aren't for everybody but I sure as hell love them. So think about it 🙂

Are you more of a 1 on 1 personal tickler? Besides just because somebody has a girlfriend doesn't mean they can't have some tickle fun. But again this depends on your preferences. It's complicated.

But before I go on and on you don't have to answer all those questions. I don't mean to be nosy or anything.

So again my condolences to you. Hope you're feeling a little better.

I've never been to a gathering before.
What are they like?

When it comes to tickling I don't really have a preference .. just as long as I am being tickled! hah

Oh, and trust me I told him we could still be friends and he said no .. so not much I can do there.

 

[swtchtkl]

Cheer up Amy, I promise things will get better and I'm sure someone will tickle you again. Really soon maybe lol.

 

[meangry]

I mean, if you want some true advice, I would not necessarily trust his apparent reasoning. I don't know how that makes you feel, but it might be a situation where he wants to play the field, and saw you more as a piece of meat. Which, that's not necessarily on you. You seem like a nice enough young lass, just in a state where you are pretty vulnerable to the rigors of a community such as this.

I wouldn't brand the entire community as not worthy of pursuing. A place like NEST is sure to strike your fancy. Also, working a rapport with people before meeting is always very helpful.

 

[Raystanz333]

I've never been to a gathering before.
What are they like?

When it comes to tickling I don't really have a preference .. just as long as I am being tickled! hah

Oh, and trust me I told him we could still be friends and he said no .. so not much I can do there.

Well the ones I go to work as such. The host is emailed by all people who wish to attend, and then sends out emails to everybody explaining where they will all meet (which is usually a restaurant of some sort). Here everybody gets to meet in a public place and enjoy a meal together while getting to know each other better. It also is a good way to make sure you don't have any untrustworthy people; but you still can never know with people you know?
But this way you don't have to go emailing out your address to strangers on the internet. 😉

Anyway then everybody is given the destination (map), to where the group will go and have some tickle fun. It's usually hosted at somebody's house and everybody's allowed to bring what equipment they desire.
So then we all sit down and talk a bit more until some tickle action inevitably begins.
These gatherings are friendly and laid back usually. You're never forced to do anything you're not comfortable with and you have every right to refuse to be tickled by whoever you want.
Now at my gatherings (and most probably), there are some house rules about safewords and areas that aren't allowed to be tickled (such as private areas).

So that's a skeleton idea of what gatherings are like. I've had soooooo much fun at the...3 that I've been to. But it's been awe inspiring tickling experiences that I'll always remember. 🙂

So feel free to check it out. 😉

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Well the ones I go to work as such. The host is emailed by all people who wish to attend, and then sends out emails to everybody explaining where they will all meet (which is usually a restaurant of some sort). Here everybody gets to meet in a public place and enjoy a meal together while getting to know each other better. It also is a good way to make sure you don't have any untrustworthy people; but you still can never know with people you know?
But this way you don't have to go emailing out your address to strangers on the internet. 😉

Anyway then everybody is given the destination (map), to where the group will go and have some tickle fun. It's usually hosted at somebody's house and everybody's allowed to bring what equipment they desire.
So then we all sit down and talk a bit more until some tickle action inevitably begins.
These gatherings are friendly and laid back usually. You're never forced to do anything you're not comfortable with and you have every right to refuse to be tickled by whoever you want.
Now at my gatherings (and most probably), there are some house rules about safewords and areas that aren't allowed to be tickled (such as private areas).

So that's a skeleton idea of what gatherings are like. I've had soooooo much fun at the...3 that I've been to. But it's been awe inspiring tickling experiences that I'll always remember. 🙂

So feel free to check it out. 😉

I hope one is in my area soon!
That sounds like fun!

 

[Raystanz333]

I hope one is in my area soon!
That sounds like fun!

I think there are definitely SOME gatherings in Ohio.

Check out this section of the Gatherings. 🙂

http://www.ticklingforum.com/forumdisplay.php?f=134

 

[Libertine]

There Is Nothing New Under the Sun

I know everything happens for a reason

A reason? Well, as Shakespeare put it in 1598,

Sigh no more, ladies, sigh nor more;
Men were deceivers ever;
One foot in sea and one on shore,
To one thing constant never;
Then sigh not so,
But let them go,
And be you blithe and bonny;
Converting all your sounds of woe
Into 'Hey nonny, nonny'.

Sing no more ditties, ditties sing no mo',
Of dumps so dull and heavy;
The fraud of men was ever so,
Since summer first was leavy.
Then sigh not so,
But let them go,
And be you blithe and bonny,
Converting all your sounds of woe
Into 'Hey, nonny, nonny'.

In other words, human nature's incurable. Some men are faithful, some not. Sorry you met a man that wasn't.

As for unfaithful WOMEN, John Donne, who lived at the same time, wrote

GO and catch a falling star,
Get with child a mandrake root,
Tell me where all past years are,
Or who cleft the devil's foot,
Teach me to hear mermaids singing,
Or to keep off envy's stinging,
And find
What wind
Serves to advance an honest mind.

If thou be'st born to strange sights,
Things invisible to see,
Ride ten thousand days and nights,
Till age snow white hairs on thee,
Thou, when thou return'st, wilt tell me,
All strange wonders that befell thee,
And swear,
No where
Lives a woman true and fair.

If thou find'st one, let me know,
Such a pilgrimage were sweet;
Yet do not, I would not go,
Though at next door we might meet,
Though she were true, when you met her,
And last, till you write your letter,
Yet she
Will be
False, ere I come, to two, or three.

Humanity never changes. Never.

But keep looking, and above all, let yourself be found.

Someone you don't know yet, but whom you will be overjoyed to meet is out there looking for you, though he doesn't know it's you he's looking for.

And that's the way of the world...

 

[NG02]

In other words, human nature's incurable. Some men are faithful, some not. Sorry you met a man that wasn't.



Humanity never changes. Never.

But keep looking, and above all, let yourself be found.

Someone you don't know yet, but whom you will be overjoyed to meet is out there looking for you, though he doesn't know it's you he's looking for.

And that's the way of the world...

You are the man great advice. An to Mam....thats a really shitty way to end the beginning of a good thing. I also agree with what some of the others have said...you should try a gathering. Gatherings are a great chill and relaxed way to meet tons of new ppl from the forum and make lots of new friends even those really close to you😉 for that extra lil fun til the next gathering.

it had to go like that for you, but you seem like a great person from your posts and im sure there are more than enuff great ppl around here to help you indulge your fetish.....even if I have to come all the way up there from down in the sunshine state to freeze to death to indulge you myself, im pretty sure things will workout for you.

 

[sean901]

In other words, human nature's incurable. Some men are faithful, some not. Sorry you met a man that wasn't.

Well, actually, the guy is being faithful with his pregnant girlfriend.
I mean i know everyone's different, but if my ex knew that i was out with another girl (just having a drink let alone tickling her) it would've been like a scene out of hostel

 

[sean901]

Sorry my mistake, you said his ex
I think the same rules still apply though seen as he must still be having sexy times with her to get her preganant.

 

[Gothika]

that realy sux just dont let that experiance deter ya from meeting others it was a bad experiance everyone has them dont let it get ya down there are lots of cool people on this forum well good luck and dont give up

 

[DownUnder]

First of all, congratulations on an awesome first experience. Sounds like one to really savour too.

As far as I can see, how you deal with the situation depends a lot on how he deals with his. Obviouisly if he's decided to be responsible and takes care of his ex, you'll have to cut your losses and move on; but if he decides otherwise and decides to pursue you, it is up to you what you want to do. I don't judge.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

That sucks. I'm sure you'll find others though. Best to just float along.....something well happen on by....

 

[girlboundforfun]

Congrats on the first experience. I'm glad that it was positive for you. Now about the guy....OF COURSE! Don't it just figure? Amen to what Libertine said.

 

[daddy]

Hi Mammers!

I am glad you had a great session, but as for afterwards I don't know what to think yet. I think the main questions are did you expect more from him after the session, such as dating or moving the friendship to another level? See, this is where being a fly on the wall would clear alot up. Did he tell you that it would be your "one and only tk session" with him or did he completely fail to mention anything at all about the ex as well??? Was there any other "playful" activities that took place that night that indicated he was there for more than the tickling?

Anyhow, good luck in the future and I hope all of your dreams and fantasy's come true. Feel free to PM anytime if ya wanna chat.

peace out,
daddy

 

[dantickle]

Sorry Mammers:

I can tell you that its very likely that the rason he feels he can't be friends is that he's ridiculously attracted to you and figures he won't be able to control himself if he's with you and that would make his other situation worse. That may or may not make you feel better, but I figure its just about always better to know.

Certainly LOTS of other guys will line up for the chance to tickle you! And surely among all of these possibilities are a few gems. Hang in, and grats on having a really good playtime.

 

[-Hari-]

The simple solution is to fly over the pond and il sort you out 😉


Sorry you had a bad experience, unfortunatly these things just happen too often, try to look past it, 🙂

 

[badreligion]

I had my first tickling experience last Thursday and it was probably the best night of my entire life. The guy was super nice and really funny. We really got along, especially for just meeting for the first time off of TMF!

He spent 3 straight hours tickling me and it was awesome. I couldn't have asked for a better "first time"! But you know when everything is going right in your life and then something has to happen to screw it up for ya? Well... life decided it wanted to kick me in the ass when I was finally happy:

He didn't contact me afterwards. I was freaking. I totally thought he hated me, never wanted to talk to me again. I was so ... upset. I don't think thats even the right word ... ! So finally as I was traveling with my sister I decided to just text him and see what was up. I had to try something or I would have beaten myself up over this for the rest of my life.

Turns out he got his ex pregnant. hah. Figures, right? So now he has to be a good person [which I respect ... ugh] and take care of her. Which means ... no more tickling with Landon ... ever ... again .... ever.

..... never ever again.

I honestly don't even feel like I can even meet anyone else after this. I'm afraid this will all just keep repeating itself forever. Ugh. Why why why? I know everything happens for a reason .. but come on!

What do I do now?
Advice anyone?!

That sucks im sorry it happened i know the feeling the girl i was with burned me * the bitch * it will sting for awhile but you got people here who will help you thru it 🙂

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Awww really sorry to hear that happened to you mammers09 that is really tough and I was saddened hearing and reading this. But just try to keep in mind, that guy is a jerk and he is not worth being upset about, I know that likely does not help and that him hurting you still is likely to hurt you still for quite some time. Please know I understand and know what you mean, I have been there myself, it is not a fun feeling. Being rejected never feels good and sucks badly. But try to keep in mind you are a really good person and he was just a creep and you are sweet and I know soon when you least expect it you are gonna find a winner. Please keep your chin up and know you have friends here for you , if ever you wish to chat I am here for you, feel free to pm me if u like. Sending hugs out to you and take care and hope you feel better soon, don't let that creep get the best of you if you do, letting him win, he is a creep and doesn't deserve that victory mammers09.