Hello all - an update on the North Texas Labor Day gathering as promised. It's a long one!
I'd like to start out with a question, though. Realistically, who can attend the entire weekend & who can be there only a few days? I have a 2 bedroom suite reserved for the event but we my not need this much space, or for this length of time. Please let me know.
Also - just to note, at this point we have more males attending than females, and I would like to see things more balanced if possible. Although tickling play is not guaranteed, I would hate to see a lot of guys show up, feel they were mislead or let down and the never show up for another event. At the same time, I don't want the women attending feeling pressured that they have to be a 'ler or a 'lee due to the (current) unevenness of the M/F ratio. If you know of any female who might be curious or interested - but not yet ready to participate - she is just as welcome as any of are more experienced ladies who can "take it" - and dish it out! The first Friday night of the event is a great time for shy people to safely ask questions and learn more about us.
The event will kickoff Friday, September 2 at 8PM. If more people show interest, I might get even more space. We'll meet in the Lobby of the hotel where the suites are, and as more people join up we'll go up to the rooms. Latecomers can meet us there at that point. The event will wind down Monday, September 5th with check-out being at noon. I have a TENTATIVE idea of an "itinerary" of outside activities below:
Friday, no dinner, but will provide light food (chicken strips, chips, etc.)
Saturday Brunch 11 AM at Humperdinks Restaurant
Saturday Dinner at Campisis' Italian Restaurant 7:30PM (same place as last year)
Sunday Dinner at Red Hot and Blue at 7:30 PM
Sunday Brunch 12 noon at 2 Row's Restaurant
Monday whoever is still around we will go out together and have lunch after checkout.
Breakfast is served at the hotel. I'll check on times soon.
Friday night will be a great night to visit, "get to know" and learn more about one another - it has traditionally been a pretty late night for all, but "play" doesn't really start in earnest until the next day. Friday is a good time to informally break the ice and be comfortable with everyone beforehand.
The rest of the time we can pretty much enjoy activity at the suite, although the hotel also has a pool, so for those whoa re interested we may take a swim break. Also, Dallas has many different places to go, and since this is an almost 4-day long event feel, free to come and go at your leisure to experience things away from the hotel, maybe even carpooling and doing things together with people you've met Friday.
I am asking $25 for attendance to the party, for either a single or a couple (so it works out better to bring someone!). I am not making a profit off of this venture - the funds that I am asking for will help defray the cost of renting the suite (the suite alone will cost around $400 for 3 nights), and any money that is left over I'll put into food and drinks over the course of the event.
For those of you who are attending I need your actual name, age and geographic location, days attending, a statement that you are over the age of 18 and willing to abide by the rules of the event, as well as the same for the guest you are bringing. This will remain with me and will not end up in anyone else's hands. If you are thinking of attending, e-mail me at
[email protected] - I might miss a PM or a Yahoo Group post, so please connect with my by e-mail.
I request a nonrefundable payment of $15 by August 1, 2005. You can pay it all up front, or just the $15, with the balance due at the event itself. I'll accept cash, check, m.o. or Paypal (my Paypal ID is Oddjob22667). Once your down payment is received I will contact you via e-mail. At that point you will confirm the above info (name, location age) and I will pass along the details of location and restaurant hours. This ensures that I have both an accurate head count and that there will be funds available to pay off the rooms, or even reserve more space, as needed. If you want to send cash, check or m.o., contact me privately.
Once I hear from you vie e-mail and have your payment received, your name & the name of your guest will go on a confirmation list. I will e-mail you 2 weeks prior to the event to make sure that you will be able to make it and that I have your information correct. If you do not hear from me 2 weeks before the event e-mail me ASAP to make sure I have not missed you (I am doing this all myself and can make mistakes!) Also, read the last paragraph below about photos, and let me know what your willingness is.
Just some basic rules of conduct, although at the past 2 events we have had no issues and I'm looking forward to a great event once more!
* No one under 18 admitted. If there is any doubt I will be checking ID.
* No illegal drug use, and no alcohol will be allowed in the event suite. The no alcohol stipulation is both for the safety of attendees and, since I am asking for payment towards the event, serving liquor - including BYOB - becomes a whole other issues with TX law. Feel free to enjoy something in your own suite however if you will be renting a room within the same hotel.
* Discussion and consent is always the key with any potential playmates. No always really truly means no. There are veterans and first timers here, as well as people who play intense and those who have never played at all - talk about what you are interested in, set realistic limits and goals and lets all be aware of one another's limits. This is a fetish-related gathering for grown-ups, but let's also try to err on the side of discretion to keep everything fun and safe. We love our 'lees!
*Safe words are not required but highly recommended.
*Remember - this is a social event for adults; however, this is not a "swing" event designed for hooking up, and tickling play is not guaranteed (although it is highly encouraged!). Nudity of both sexes MAY occur (although it has not happened yet at the last two events).
*Since this is a standard hotel, there will be no special restraints or "equipment" there other than what you bring. We also need to be respectful of the other guests who may not know how to have fun in the way we do! Any videos, photos, magazines, stories, etc. are encouraged, and I will bring along my own VCR to hook up. Video trading very often occurs at these events, so be prepared to take note son what you are interested in!
*"Aftercare" is encouraged. This is the term for what happens after an intense tickling session. When the ticklee ('lee) is truly spent, water is given to the 'lee, allowed some quite time to recover, hugs and backrubs applied as needed; it is just a way to encourage the 'lee & let the 'lee know that they are safe and being looked out for.
*Anyone who wants to bring along their favorite snack food or drink is encouraged (the suites have a refrigerator, stove & oven).
*If there are any problems or anyone is made to feel uncomfortable, please bring this to my attention at the time and the problems will be addressed.
**And for the 'locals', keep in mind I could use some help with grocery runs, getting people to meals, etc. If I am up late on Friday night, I probably won't be around all that much Saturday morning, e.g.
Since we have a 2 bedroom suite, my plan is that one suite would be used for M/F and F/F tickling, and the other for F/M tickling, since I know the two don't often jibe together. Since the F/M suite will be used less, it will also serve as a relaxation and aftercare room. The living area will be a 'tickle free' buffer zone (more or less...!) for socializing and munching.
Those of you who will be coming out of town and need a place to stay, let me know and I will e-mail you the web sites & physical address of the 3 closest hotels to the event, including the host hotel.
This is going to be a GREAT event, even better than the last two, and hopefully the ground work for more to come. Please keep in mind, the submissive, or 'lees, have the final say on how far things go, and how intense the play gets. Limits may be played with and get tested, but safe words will be respected under every circumstance. If someone is new or shy, a little coaxing & teasing goes with the territory at one of these events; pressure or intimidation doesn't. If someone is having a smaller, private session, please be sure that the person or persons ('ler and 'lee) are willing and comfortable with you joining their session. Not every tickling session is about "gang tickling" and very often a psychological intimacy between the 2 or 3 persons participating is a goal for those individuals that we need to respect. Others may have a have a specific, precise fantasy or scenario in their head they want to explore. A tiny bit of formality will make things much more fun, safe and allow some intense, satisfying play in the long run. Really, though we have had 2 really nice gatherings in the past and I have no doubt that this one will be the best yet
Finally - a few words on photos: One young lady has expressed an interest in being photographed in mid gang-tickle. I will have my digital camera there, but no photos will be taken without the permission of EVERYONE who may end up in the picture. If there is a gang-up tickling going on and 4 people are cool with a picture being taken, but one isn't, then the photo doesn't happen - or that one person can step away for a moment while the pic is shot. Privacy will be respected at all times, and "no" means "no" when it comes to pictures just as when it comes to the tickling. NO photos taken will be posted without the permission in writing with everyone in the pictures. You can be photographed without your face being shown, if you are willing - I would love to get some pictures of this event just to promote who we are and that we are real. So let me know in an e-mail how you feel about pictures -
--Do not want to be photographed?
--Willing to be photographed without being identified (hands, etc., only - no face or obvious body shots)?
--Willing to be photographed, face & all?
Except for the photos that get posted to promote future Dallas events (pending permission of those in the pics as stated above), none of these photos will be "for the public" and will be available only to myself and those who actually attended the event.
I would like to get a non-event group photo at the restaurant, a group shot of us at dinner, just like they do at the NEST gatherings. However, the bottom line is, if photos are a problem with anyone, we will simply not take any. Keeping my attending guests comfortable is the greatest priority.
Also - one of our guests has requested that one of her tickling sessions be videotaped, so I wanted to see if there were any volunteers, male or female, willing to tickle this lady on
camera? Again, faces do not have to be shown (fingers or arms only, tools, etc.)
Remember, my e-mail is:
[email protected]. Contact me here. I'm looking forward to this event.
-M
Either way...I'm going to find a way to bring a guitar (You see...I have lead guitarist disease....I can't be apart from a guitar for more than 48 hours or i start going crazy 
