Loneliness and how to fight it...

[MistressValerie1]

I always wanted to get one of those super quiet ones that is built into your underwear and has a remote...and I wanted to give the remote to my ler...and go around campus/to class/wherever all day...with her in control...and me with no way to start/stop it...AMAZING!!!

Now that is *hot*! 😉

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother always has felt that women are very lucky that there are so many wonderful inventions for them to spend there time with while guys just have to be lonly and hateing themselves.

 

[shark]

There's always this option....

 

[Dude'sonfire]

Hahahahaha.... that was so much funnier than it should have been for some reason.

 

[Camel26]

There was a store I saw once that had those sheep all over the window in a pyramid...and I almost wet myself laughing at it...

HB--there are plenty of toys for boys...you just need to know where to look!!!

 

[Goodieluver]

There was a store I saw once that had those sheep all over the window in a pyramid...and I almost wet myself laughing at it...

HB--there are plenty of toys for boys...you just need to know where to look!!!

Theres only so many things we can stick our hoo hoo dilly into

 

[Camel26]

There are PLENTY of options out there...in most price ranges...and every size...😉 Just need to know where to look...I promise!!!

So...who likes ticking around here??? (we've been talking about vibes in a non-vibe topic...just making sure that's cool...)

 

[Dude'sonfire]

There are PLENTY of options out there...in most price ranges...and every size...😉 Just need to know where to look...I promise!!!

So...who likes ticking around here??? (we've been talking about vibes in a non-vibe topic...just making sure that's cool...)

lol how could it not be cool? You're wacky enthusiasm always make everything sound so damn exciting. You could be talking about pubic lice and it would probably still be cool lol.

 

[Goodieluver]

::raises hand furriously to her question on tickling, acting like a school boy wanting to be called on by teacher::

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

I've Got To Get My Eyes Checked Again....

*gt Lowers Hand Furiously To Her Question On Tickling......y'all Know The Rest.....

 

[MistressValerie1]

*gt Lowers Hand Furiously To Her Question On Tickling......y'all Know The Rest.....

Three thumbs up! 😀

 

[Camel26]

Three thumbs up! 😀

HAHA!!! Nicely done!!!

*in best teacher voice* Yes, Goodie...

Dude--you're too good to me...I might have to scrape the money to get to Scotland to visit my Ler when she gets there...then stop in and tickle you for being so sweet...

So, about tickling and vibrators...so we can combine topics...I bought my let a foot reflexology kit, as it was almost time for her finals, her feet are always sore after a long day, and I thought it would cheer her up. It came with these thin socks that have the places to massage that correspond to certain other points on the body. It also came with this massager, that has interchangeable pieces on it to help vary the sensation/technique. There's one that is taller than the other massage bumps, and has a rounded tip. My ler used that one time on my feet, and I LOST CONTROL!!! She then tested it out on my ribs, stomach, neck, etc...similar effect...I highly recommend...I got it from Avon!!! Wasn't expensive...and, again, 2 thumbs up!!!!!!!! (and all 10 toes!!!) 😉 😛 🙂 😀

 

[Dude'sonfire]

Dude--you're too good to me...I might have to scrape the money to get to Scotland to visit my Ler when she gets there...then stop in and tickle you for being so sweet...

😀 lol I'll put a little airoplane in with your chocolate on the camel shrine

 

[Complexity]

When I was a 'wee teen, I would drown my loneliness in music. Now that I'm a grown man, I drown my loneliness in Family Guy. It always does the trick. 🙂
Heh, that combined with good friends that call everyday and some other friends I can talk to without consequence in YIM. With that sweet combination, nothing can go wrong (at least for me). Hope some of this helped... 😀 And the music thing still works, if I can find me some good tunes.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Camel And Ms. Ler, Timeless Tickling

Just Do The Same Things You Did Last Year. 😉

 

[Camel26]

Ha--thank you Complexity--playing my guitar, hanging out with friends, watching family guy, and many of the ideas mentioned in this thread (especially that part about the vibrators...) helped me get through my 9 weeks without my ler last summer...she had an amazing time, and got to see the world, and then returned to me last august. We got engaged a month later, and are still happily together and goofy as always! But thank you for the ideas! If she ever travels without me again, I'll check back to this thread for some methods to keep back the insanity...or bring it on, depending on how you look at it...😉

 

[chickles_:)]

Dear Theater Family,

My beautiful Ler just took off yesterday on the summer of a lifetime--she's on a boat going around the world while studying called Semester at Sea. While I am incredibly proud of her for getting to go, and so happy for her as this is a once in a lifetime opportunity, I feel like someone gutted me and emptied me out, excpecting that I can still function normally without my other half. She'll be gone for more than 2 months, which doesn't seem like a lot, but when you've lived with someone for over a year, and have shared a life with them, this is a difficult time for us both.

So my question to you all is has anyone been separated from their spouse for an extended period of time and, if so, how did you deal with it? I can't stop crying and I'm physically ill from this whole thing. I need all the advice I can get.

If anyone is in Pittsburgh, I'm here...and looking to meet some new friends...so drop me a line!!!

Thank you in advance for any constructive advice you all can offer.

Lotsa love,

Camel

Hiya Camel! :happy:
Wow what a painful experience! I know it well! Not so much recently but i've sure known the feeling - which you describe so well.
Love (or affection) withdrawl is like that.
No really, a big part of the deadly feeling is exactly withdrawl both psychological and physiological. I won't bore you wiht the technicalities but trust me on this one.
Thinking of your pain in those genuine terms can help you get a handle on it.

there are a couple of simple things you can do which work for any kind of relationship withdrawl.

1) make yourself keep going with your regular routine - it will get better, cold turkey generally does if you stick with it. Your mind and body will reform around the new reality of your temporary parting.

2) stay in touch. Like the smoker who has a the patch your withdrawl will lessen if you make a point of staying in touch. We did a lot of phoning - it worked for us. but e-mail works too (though, beware of the missing parts of non-verbal communication. in e-mails simple questions can sound to the reader like nail scratches.) Letter or hallmark card writing or other artistic things works even better because in the time it takes to plan it, craft it and send it, your heart and soul are focused on your special one.

3) keep positive about your relationship. when the other is away it is easy to fear the worst. Most of all exercise max forgiveness and grace in your own heart. Remember, what you may have thought was a mean thing probably had a heart-pain behind it. And that girl she met and told you about really was just a casual social encounter.

4) when all else fails watch the second digits of your clock radio - it's on your side doing a countdown till you will be together again! 🙂

There is more i could say, Camel, but i hope these help a little.

Just remember you'll be okay hun, and believe me, the reunion will erase all your present pain. 😀😀

Huggles girl! xxoo

 

[Camel26]

Dear everyone,

I truly appreciate these responses, however, this thread is a year old--my ler returned from her voyage LAST August (2005) and she's not going anywhere again without me...

Someone found this thread and brought it back for some reason and didn't check the date...

But thank you for the love, y'all! I hope this helps someone who is in a similar situation as I was last summer!!!

 

[Hungarian21]

I hate to be the ding-dong here, but whats a Ler? :question::happy:

 

[Camel26]

*rimshot*

😛 😛 😛 😛

 

[chickles_:)]

Dear everyone,

I truly appreciate these responses, however, this thread is a year old--my ler returned from her voyage LAST August (2005) and she's not going anywhere again without me...

Someone found this thread and brought it back for some reason and didn't check the date...

But thank you for the love, y'all! I hope this helps someone who is in a similar situation as I was last summer!!!

Hiya Camel,,,
*hides face* 😱😱😱
gawwd - how TOTALLY embarrassing?? Where's that opaque plastic bag when you really need to suffocate yourself so no one can see you?? 😱

Oh well, maybe all this will help someone somewhere sometime.

Many blessings, glad it all worked out. 😀

 

[Sockstickler]

Hiya Camel,,,
*hides face* 😱😱😱
gawwd - how TOTALLY embarrassing?? Where's that opaque plastic bag when you really need to suffocate yourself so no one can see you?? 😱

Oh well, maybe all this will help someone somewhere sometime.

Many blessings, glad it all worked out. 😀

Hey, that's ok, Chickles. This actually does help. We've all found ourselves in Camel's position at some point in our lives, and in such a state, it's important to know how to cope. If this is brought back for people to read, it will help them manage while their loved ones might be away. That's nothing to be embarrassed about. 😀

 

[Hungarian21]

hmm.......*looks around*.....and a rimshot is....?😛

Dun worry chickles! 😀 Its doing something for me!....and anything that could help my um...Specialness would be....um, good? XD

EDIT: *wonders if speicalness is a real word, or if I've seen too many of ness's posts*:tounge:

 

[Camel26]

Yeah--no need to be embarrassed--especially if it helps fellow community members!!! I know having you all to talk to helped me through that tough time, along with many others...

rimshot = the three beat drum cadence after a funny line has been said. 😀

Ain't no shame in your game, Chickles, my love...you are such a doll...if I ever get the honor of meeting you one day, you're getting the biggest hug ever!!!!!

Give it up for the TT community...helping people cope and laugh for years!!! 😀

 

[chickles_:)]

Yeah--no need to be embarrassed--especially if it helps fellow community members!!! I know having you all to talk to helped me through that tough time, along with many others...

rimshot = the three beat drum cadence after a funny line has been said. 😀

Ain't no shame in your game, Chickles, my love...you are such a doll...if I ever get the honor of meeting you one day, you're getting the biggest hug ever!!!!!

Give it up for the TT community...helping people cope and laugh for years!!! 😀

Hey thanks girl! -You guys! :happy:

Actually -- it was getting kinda stuffy under that bag... 😛
You said it camel! This is a GREAT community filled with people who care! *sniff-sniff* And if i ever get to meet you it will be major hugs back!! 😀

Many blessings to everyone! 😍