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My parents are ashamed & won't accept my having Asperger's Syndrome

Cosmo, with all due respect, I don't have a mental illness. I am a high functioning person who has Asperger's Syndrome that is a mental disability.
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My apologies, I meant no offence, as I hope you understand I am on your side. I simply meant that many societies do not recognize sicknesses and disabilities of the mind.
 
I am going to secretly (except to who ever reads this) refer to my Mom as the dragonlady but not to her face, of course. I know that's disrespectful but it's really hard to respect someone (especially a parent/s), who don't respect or accept my Asperger's Syndrome 😡 (or what ever the D.S.M calls it now).


Just thought I'd add my thought.
 
Girl who likes to laugh its your parents problem not yours, if your mother can't accept this that's on her. You continue to do well for yourself and don't worry about what your mom or parents think. Your doing great, living life and making it for yourself. I wish you nothing but the best
 
Your parents should be ashamed. Ashamed that they are parents. They should not treat you like this. And this brings me to the question: Why are you living with them? Are you trying to take care of them? Is it because of your current financial situation? It may be best for you and your parents if you do not live together.
 
I feel for Girl and while I don't doubt her perceptions, I can't ignore that we're only getting one side of this story. I'm reluctant to judge her parents without first hearing their side of things.
 
Barney Stubble said:
I feel for Girl and while I don't doubt her perceptions, I can't ignore that we're only getting one side of this story. I'm reluctant to judge her parents without first hearing their side of things.
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Please stop acting like you want to eat out Hannah J. F.'s newborn vagina. It's sick and disgusting.
 
GirlWhoLikes2Laugh said:
I am going to vent some in this post because I have to get this off my chest or I might have a nervous breakdown. Moved in with my parents in June of last year & it has been very difficult primarily because of my Mom. A while ago, I bought a Autism Awareness magnet that I used to put on my car but since I moved to what my Mom considers it "her neighborhood" and "her friends" she doesn't want me to have it on my car. My Mom had a fit when she saw my Autism Awareness magnet on my car and screamed at me until I told her I'd remove it! I don't know what the big deal is because in the last 15 years or so, people have become more and more aware Autism than in the past. I think that people don't put a stigma on other folks who have Autism or any other mental issues the way the used to anymore.

Another thing that's been going on in my family for years and it's only been worse since they've got older is that most of the time when my Mom is berating me about something, my Dad just defends her no matter what she says or how she says it. I know that he does this because he's afraid if he sticks up for me, that Mom will get upset with him, so he's saving his own ass instead of manning up and defending his daughter :disgust:. I've talked to my therapist about this who have met my parents several times and she said that it's not going to change because they've been married for so many years & this is a cycle that won't break at least while my Mom is still alive. I know that my parents knew there was something different about me early on & and my Mom took me to Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, also known as C.H.O.P. I remember they took me do various doctors and this was in the early seventies and back then, they didn't know about Asperger's Syndrome. They thought I was mildly retarded and I am not and they thought I had A.D.H.D and I don't. I'll forgive the doctor's because they didn't know about high functioning Autism then.

Sometimes when my Mom & I argue, she'll accuse me of being retarded or having a disease :angry:. Neither of those do I have. I mean I said to her if I were truly retarded, then I couldn't have been able to drive or go to college. My therapist has also told me that what's really going on here is that it's really my Mom's problem and not mine. Well, that may be true but she's certainly taking it out on me! My Mom also is two faced because when she's outside of our house, she is like a June Cleaver. However, when she's in our house, she can be anything but like a June Cleaver. I mean I am sure that other people to some extent put on a front outside their home but my Mom does it to the extreme.

I just want to add that my Mom & I were in her car going somewhere and the car in front of us had a Autism Awareness magnet on the back of their car. I pointed it out to my Mom that other people have those magnets. Her response was that they don't live in "her neighborhood". I think I've made my point.

Thanks ahead of time for who ever reads this and understands our dysfunctional family.
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Ugh, I can relate. I also have Asperger's Syndrome; I was apparently diagnosed at 6, but no one in my family let me find out until I was 13. Recently, (as in the last couple of years) I've actually started to embrace it and be somewhat proud of who I am, and am no longer ashamed to ask for help when I need it.

That said, my family can be assholes about it. My dad is particularly ashamed to have me as a child. I have three younger siblings, and I am without doubt the least favourite. I was (and still am) the only child who ever received punishment (as well as verbal and physical abuse) from my parents, yet my siblings can do whatever they want and get away with it. I have a 14-year-old sister who calls me a "retard", "mentally ill" and says I need to be "locked up". My parents seem to agree with her. She genuinely thinks non-neurotypical people are subhuman, and that she's superior, more mature and generally "better" than me just because I have a condition (which is barely even noticeable anymore). The worst part is, she thinks her way of thinking is correct. :sowrong:

/rant

Anyway, I hope things get better for you. :redheart:
 
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hello,
As a fellow Aspie, this hits home. My heart goes out to you. first, realize this: God made us the way we are and that is nothing to be ashamed of. We are unique not weird. I agree with your therapist and Wolf that it is your mom's problem not yours. I have been lucky that my parents accepted me for me. didn't know ia had Asperger's till 4 months before I turned 30. that being said, I'm glad I have a name for it now. If you ever want someone to talk to feel free to im me. I will respond when I receive it. I will uphold you in my prayers and thoughts and I hope you can get this sorted out. LIfe is hard enough when you don't "fit the mold" but it's still your life. I wish you well friend
 
Barney Stubble said:
I feel for Girl and while I don't doubt her perceptions, I can't ignore that we're only getting one side of this story. I'm reluctant to judge her parents without first hearing their side of things.
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I understand what you are saying but I don't mean to be rude but I am telling the truth because of my Asperger's, it's hard for me to lie. Also, I am afraid you'll just have to go by pretty much what I am saying because my parents will never come on this website to tell their side.

Also, what ever reason they would give for their side, there's NO EXCUSE to treat me this way because of my diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome.
 
Iggy pop said:
Your parents should be ashamed. Ashamed that they are parents. They should not treat you like this. And this brings me to the question: Why are you living with them? Are you trying to take care of them? Is it because of your current financial situation? It may be best for you and your parents if you do not live together.
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It's a long story but I was living on my own since 1995. My parents came into financial difficulties and I moved in with them in June 2014. I know that it's better if I don't live with them and I've applied for low income housing. My granparents have all died and I am an only child, so I don't have many other choices as to where to live. It's not all my fault and believe me, if I had another choice I certainly would live somewhere else.

I agree with you, they should be ashamed. Unfortunately, they don't accept my diagnosis, really a shame :sowrong:.
 
Smeg said:
Ugh, I can relate. I also have Asperger's Syndrome; I was apparently diagnosed at 6, but no one in my family let me find out until I was 13. Recently, (as in the last couple of years) I've actually started to embrace it and be somewhat proud of who I am, and am no longer ashamed to ask for help when I need it.

That said, my family can be assholes about it. My dad is particularly ashamed to have me as a child. I have three younger siblings, and I am without doubt the least favourite. I was (and still am) the only child who ever received punishment (as well as verbal and physical abuse) from my parents, yet my siblings can do whatever they want and get away with it. I have a 14-year-old sister who calls me a "retard", "mentally ill" and says I need to be "locked up". My parents seem to agree with her. She genuinely thinks non-neurotypical people are subhuman, and that she's superior, more mature and generally "better" than me just because I have a condition (which is barely even noticeable anymore). The worst part is, she thinks her way of thinking is correct. :sowrong:

/rant

Anyway, I hope things get better for you. :redheart:
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I am so sorry to hear that your family is treating you that way Smeg. Especially for your siblings to not be supportive and your sister is very mean spirited. She needs to mature, grow up and realize that you are doing the best you can & you didn't choose to have your condition. No offense, but your Dad is a loser because he's ashamed of you :sowrong:.

Your sister & your Dad really needs to have some empathy for you. How does your Mom feel about it? You didn't mention her. I hope things get better for you. The only way things will get better for me is when I move out of their house.
 
GirlWhoLikes2Laugh said:
I am so sorry to hear that your family is treating you that way Smeg. Especially for your siblings to not be supportive and your sister is very mean spirited. She needs to mature, grow up and realize that you are doing the best you can & you didn't choose to have your condition. No offense, but your Dad is a loser because he's ashamed of you :sowrong:.

Your sister & your Dad really needs to have some empathy for you. How does your Mom feel about it? You didn't mention her. I hope things get better for you. The only way things will get better for me is when I move out of their house.
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Thanks, things have indeed gotten much better in my family. I don't really hold it against my dad or youngest siblings (because in all honestly I'd prefer no one to bring it up), but my 14-year-old sister can still be a little shit sometimes. I hope she changes her views at some point.

We've all been getting on quite well as of this month, especially my dad and I.

To be honest, I'm not really sure what my mum thinks. She knows I have Asperger's but I don't think she's entirely sure of what it is. She also has a quite uneducated view of mental illness and other conditions. She believes in ghosts and is somewhat spiritual, though, so I wouldn't be surprised if she thought I was a "demon child" or something. 😱

I hope your situation has improved since your original post, and if not, I hope it gets better in the near future. :twohugs:
 
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