New boyfriend! Need advice!

[desperado_flare]

Don't be afraid to tickle him either, even if he says he "hates" it. He might just be saying that without being serious about it. And I've never met a guy who "hated" anything playful and flirty so much that it put his relationship in jeopardy.

"Why'd you break up with her?"
"Because she tickled me too much, it was terrible."

I don't think I've ever heard, or ever will hear, a guy say that. So, I'm pretty sure you're safe. Tell him if you want, but only as a last resort.

 

[sugarmouse]

Hey it's me!The bitch is back!
Well, this is how I would do it.

I would await him touching me in any way, the usual cuddles/strokes that happen when beingclose with each other.
And I would flinch/giggle. Pretend it tickles even if it doesn't. This inevitably results in, 'Whatsup?!'
And then you say
'You tickled me when you did that!!'
He'lll likely say ' ah sorry'
'NO,its ok I like it'

see what happens. Works9 times outta ten that

 

[syzygy]

I'd just tell. Did it with my g/f...hell I told her before we started dating...she would randomly tickle me when she saw me, haha. Well anyway, the moral of the story is: I told her, now she lets me tickle anytime I want and though, she'll never admit it to anyone she loooooooooooves when I do it.

 

[love feet]

So I recently started seeing a guy officially and I really like him and we have great sexual chemistry but there's one thing I'd like him to do to push the chemistry just a little further. I'm a lee but I've never once had anyone tie me up or hold me down or even tickle me at all past about thirty seconds (it's really unfortunate.) My boyfriend admitted to me one time that he hates being tickled, which is fine with me since I don't have a whole lot of desire to tickle him, but I think that's why he hasn't really tried to tickle me.

I guess my question is, how do I get him to tickle me? Just asking or admitting my fetish would kind of take the fun out of it for me because then it would seem like he was just doing it to make me happy and I want him to be enjoying it to, you know?

I think if he he is a keeper than he would do what you wanted if he knows it makes you happy so even if he is doing it just for you have fun
after all he probably likes thongs you don't but you still do it because you want him to be happy too!!
This is just what i think...

 

[rhiannon]

Don't be afraid to tickle him either, even if he says he "hates" it. He might just be saying that without being serious about it. And I've never met a guy who "hated" anything playful and flirty so much that it put his relationship in jeopardy.

"Why'd you break up with her?"
"Because she tickled me too much, it was terrible."

I don't think I've ever heard, or ever will hear, a guy say that. So, I'm pretty sure you're safe. Tell him if you want, but only as a last resort.

Don't underestimate the power of dislikes! Tickling itself might not be a reason to break up, not respecting other people's boundaries might! Sometimes when someone says "Stop it, I hate that" they DO mean it, and it is not up to us to decide that they are "just saying that"! Just because WE love tickling doesn't mean THEY do!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Try tickling him first. If he mentions again that he hates it suggests that he get you back. If he takes the bait just let him go to town. Hope that helps

I echo this suggestion.
Or just tell him what you want and what being tickled does for/to you!
If he has any sanity or sense, he will indulge you with open arms and wiggling fingers!
Have the restraints ready.

TTD

 

[Gadilici]

That's a great idea, Sugarmouse!

Christopher

 

[sugarmouse]

That's a great idea, Sugarmouse!

Christopher

Crafty, me 😀

 

[CuteJill143]

So I recently started seeing a guy officially and I really like him and we have great sexual chemistry but there's one thing I'd like him to do to push the chemistry just a little further. I'm a lee but I've never once had anyone tie me up or hold me down or even tickle me at all past about thirty seconds (it's really unfortunate.) My boyfriend admitted to me one time that he hates being tickled, which is fine with me since I don't have a whole lot of desire to tickle him, but I think that's why he hasn't really tried to tickle me.

I guess my question is, how do I get him to tickle me? Just asking or admitting my fetish would kind of take the fun out of it for me because then it would seem like he was just doing it to make me happy and I want him to be enjoying it to, you know?

hes not into giving you a foot rub or a back massage with you lying face down? thats a good way to initiate smaller tickles and exploit how ticklish you are. pretend it tickles whether it does or not and don't say stop either. dont look like it aggrivated you. sometimes its hard for men to take a hint.
there is no need to rush the tying up yet hun or confessing everything to him. and me admitting the fetish did not take the fun out of it with my boyfriend and i so don't think that will happen. it makes it better and he has a better understanding. he gives me surprise attacks all of the time and he even initiates it more than i do now, even the tying up, so i know hes enjoying it also and not just me. it was a little easy for me to tell him because he already loved my feet and touching and kissing them. maybe because he hates being tickled, he thinks everyone does. my boyfriend said he always held back from tickling me before i gave up the fetish because he thought it annoyed most people. hes not very ticklish but his feet are and he kind of doesnt like it. but i am more of a lee works for me.

don't worry. there will come a time where you feel comfortable enough 🙂 good luck hun

 

[SteakDinnerBoom]

Hi, if it would take the fun out of it to ask him here's what I would suggest just off the top of my head:

sometime when you're sitting on the couch put your feet in his lap and either ask him to scratch an itch on the bottom of your foot or, start acting like you're trying to stifle a laugh and when he asks what's so funny say that the bottom of your foot is itchy and it tickles. Asking him to give you a foot rub and act like it tickles might also work. Being a major smart-ass while your feet are in his lap is another idea.

As for non-foot tickling, what about asking him for a massage and squirm and say that you're very ticklish.

Tickling girls is fun, even for guys who aren't "into" it. Or else they wouldn't do it.

 

[chicago]

Once you tell him what you like, what turns you on, etc, your boyfriend will likely grow to enjoy it. Knowing he's turning you on and will likely end up getting laid is enough for most guys, but the problem with most relationships is people expect that leaving little hints or something will get the other person to understand what it is they want.

Unfortunately, most people cannot read minds, especially males, so the simpler you make things, the better. Communication is key, as they say.

 

[playgirl]

burying a fantasy will never make it a reality

Just to explain myself better: I would feel completely comfortable telling him, that's not my issue. I'm a strong believer in Blake's "Poison Tree" theory which basically says: to nurture a fantasy, bury it; to kill a fantasy, bring it out in the open.

HONESTY, COMMUNICATION and NEGOTIATION are some of the keys to a successful relationship. games kill relationships, not foster them. unfortunately, sometimes you have to have difficult discussions. to open up and be honest with your partner, whether you get exactly what you want, some of what you want or none of what you want, and come to a resolution that you can both live with will only deepen your relationship.

personally, i think Blake's "Poison Tree" theory is a crock. burying your wants, needs and desires only stymie you and build resentment when your needs aren't being met. burying your fantasy because you think that's the only way to keep it alive is only going to keep it alive as a fantasy and will never allow that fantasy to translate into reality. sit down with your partner as equals and be honest about what you want. if you don't ask for what you want, you're probably not going to get it. to try to weasel your partner into tickling you and having him want to do it without you having any knowledge of whether he's done it before or has any desire to do it now, is dishonest and, in a sense, non-consensual. i don't mean to be harsh, but your relationship has a much greater chance of success if you're not manipulating him to get what you want.