I am realizing that I use FetLife way more then this site. I especially use FetLife to find play partners. I got frustrated on here, but the had to realize it wasn't their fault that they were just into tickling. Conversations with TMFers turned into this:
Me: I love tickling, but was wondered would you spank me?
Him: oh no that is something I just couldn't do sorry.
Me: Oh okay, well I love to be tortured when I am tickled. I like to be controlled with it. I want to be tickled till I safe word or submit to something. Can you do that?
Him: Wow that is a little more hardcore then I was thinking.
Me: Oh well I am a bondage slut! Will you tie me tight?
Him: In all honesty I only do bondage, so I won't get kicked. Look all I wanted to do was just tickle you for fun.
Me: Oh okay cool.(Then I normally stop chatting with them)
You see it has been easier to get Doms off of Fet who are into everything I like, but tickling and turn them on to the thought of lering. Then I get the total package.