Partners who aren't ticklish versus those who are ticklish but hate it

[Em Es]

I have dated both girls who weren't ticklish (scroll down to my post titled, "How I hope you're right, Tickletorturer!") and ticklish girls who got mad when I tickled them.

Which is worse to you? For me, it's the former, as there is no hope of sharing the communication/intimacy of the tickle touch. Plus, if she's a tickler, I am in for thelosing end of aone-sided war.
With the latter, all it means usually is your reluctant ticklee does not want to please you badly enough. I'll bet 99% of those who say, "I hate being tickled" are really saying, "I hate it when YOU tickle me because you are not important enough for me to tolerate it. Were it someone I really want, I would put up with getting tickled."

Opinions, anyone?

 

[KrazieDog]

I'd take someone who hates it. Like you, I've dated both, and found most people who hate it, hate it for a reason, like abusive people in their life, former boyfriends, older siblings, etc, that just made it a bad experience for them. When it's done in a more fun, intimate, or relaxed way, they have more fun with it and actually have a good time with it.

 

[maniactickler]

Ill have nothing to do with either type.

 

[TklshDiva]

I'll bet you that if you scroll down the list of all the postings you will find something close to this question or the same question and all you have to do is pull that one up and respond to it. LOL No offense to you and your posting but I look forward sometimes to see NEW questions. Qst's that have never been posted original things Is that too much to ask? LMFAO

 

[lemoncake]

I just don't get why these women have to "please you". Are you willing to please them back? A lot of times if you show a woman that you will please them, they return the favor. Its a two way street.

Why waste your time? If you don't feel a connection, you can't force one. It would be like if you tried to take a girl out to a romantic restaurant and there was no spark there between the two of you. Yeah the foods good, the setting is pretty, but there's nothing there, so its lame.

 

[TklshDiva]

I just don't get why these women have to "please you". Are you willing to please them back? A lot of times if you show a woman that you will please them, they return the favor. Its a two way street.

Why waste your time? If you don't feel a connection, you can't force one. It would be like if you tried to take a girl out to a romantic restaurant and there was no spark there between the two of you. Yeah the foods good, the setting is pretty, but there's nothing there, so its lame.

I agree 100%! I was going to say something but instead I posted my other response.

I look at it this way - If I'm too ticklish and I have a "hard" time taking it i.e. laughing too hard or afraid because I've never been tickled that way then hey buy me some shoes ( mules or manolo's ) and you can tickle me anytime you want babe! 🙂

 

[Patiklers]

what size???

Im on them, manolo's here we come,,LOL,, shoes for anytime tickles is WELL worth it,, im so with you on this one

I agree 100%! I was going to say something but instead I posted my other response.

I look at it this way - If I'm too ticklish and I have a "hard" time taking it i.e. laughing too hard or afraid because I've never been tickled that way then hey buy me some shoes ( mules or manolo's ) and you can tickle me anytime you want babe! 🙂

 

[luv2tikl]

Girls who aren't ticklish... That's no fun.

 

[Lord Doctor]

To be honest, in the ideal world (please sign post it and give directions) I couldn't be involved with a woman who hated being tickled. A woman who was not ticklish is another matter, though I don't know why. Maybe I just don't like romantic conflict 😀

 

[TklshDiva]

Im on them, manolo's here we come,,LOL,, shoes for anytime tickles is WELL worth it,, im so with you on this one

size 9 babe! I prefer boots actually. I hate Manolo's ... too expensive and ridiculous. 🙂

 

[magic fingers]

I actually prefer girls who aren't ticklish to girls who hate being tickled. Maybe because I'm just as much a lee as a ler & girls who aren't ticklish are a lot more likely to tickle, since they don't have to worry about retaliation

 

[Em Es]

TklshDiva

TklshDiva, no argument on your point about seeing old subjects in new discussions. But as you can see, several people replied anyway. The Tickling Media Forum, like all other communication vehicles, plays to a moving parade, not a captive audience.

 

[Em Es]

lemoncake

Lemoncake, you said, "I just don't get why these women have to 'please you'. Are you willing to please them back? A lot of times if you show a woman that you will please them, they return the favor."

I am not saying a woman has to please me. But a number of girls in my life sure wanted to please me and put up with getting tickled to prove it. And, yes, lemoncake, I pleased them back the best I could.

If I had a son I'd teach him to treat girls well. But I'd also say, "Keep 'em guessing and the keepers will keep coming back." Women lose interest in guys who lay it all on the line and bend over backwards for them.

 

[Em Es]

Krazie Dog and everyone else

Krazie Dog, of ticklish girls who hate getting tickled, you said, " . . . [some] hate it for a reason, like abusive people in their life, former boyfriends, older siblings . . . When it's done in a more fun, intimate, or relaxed way, they have more fun with it and actually have a good time with it. "

In some instances, that may be true. More than once Allison said when she was a kid her two older sisters tickled her until she was out of breath, so that was an unpleasant tickling-centered memory for her. But a few times I playfully tickled Allison, she got a kick out of it, like tickling her stomach to make her let go of something. I don't know if I would have been able to build on that, and as the immature side of Allison made her too volatile. In retrospect it's just as well she broke up with me.

Everyone else, thanks for contributing.

 

[TklshDiva]

Women lose interest in guys who lay it all on the line and bend over backwards for them.[/QUOTE]

Oh god darlin who told you this? I'm sorry but that's not it at all. I know for me it's 50/50 no question BUT if a man chooses to lay it all on the line and bend over backwards for me Heck darlin I'm taking it no questions asked I'm there and I haven't lost interest!

I can't speak for you I can only speak in the "I" meaning myself - I will however say to you that someone must have burnt you in order for you to make a comment like that.

 

[Em Es]

TklshDiva

TklshDiva, you said, "I know for me it's 50/50 no question BUT if a man chooses to lay it all on the line and bend over backwards for me Heck darlin I'm taking it no questions asked I'm there and I haven't lost interest!

"I can't speak for you I can only speak in the 'I' meaning myself - I will however say to you that someone must have burnt you in order for you to make a comment like that."

Neither of us can say the other did not see it the way they saw it. However, I notice you say "if" a man bends over backwards you would not lose interest. You didn't say a guy has done that and you did not tire of him.

As for 50/50, I suppose that could work out. But guys should never chase skirts, as by definition that means she wasn't coming in his direction in the first place. Women do the choosing.

 

[TklshDiva]

I see your point "in some ways" lol

if a guy is that interested in a girl he should do what it takes to get her attention no matter what! If he doesn't he will lose out. I've had guys throw diamonds in my direction but I wasn't interested in them. I thanked them for the gifts returned them of course and wished them well on their search for happiness with or without tickles.

Oh and by the by Men Should Always Chase Skirts! They'll never know if she has ticklish legs unless he does! HA

 

[CD216]

I don't really know which would be worse. On the one hand, a girl who hates it, as my first ex did, makes me have to repress a part of me that I enjoy. On the the other, I enjoy being the ticklee a lot, but not being able to get even with a nonticklish girl just doesn't seem right.

For all intents and purposes, let's just call both cases no bueno and move on.

-Chris

 

[Em Es]

Chris and TklshDiva

Chris, I agree both situations can suck so bad you're better off alone. But between the two, I'd lean toward ticklish but hates it, as in certain situations it can still be fun even if she would never allow you to restrain her for prolonged tickling.

TklshDiva, guys need to work as hard on being attractive as women do. Not just appearance-wise, either, although regular exercise and good grooming are two ways one will turn more heads. Reading, working harder at your job, and volunteering are three more. A man who puts effort into himself can only swing some of the fence-sitting women in his direction.

Oh, and next time I see you in a skirt, TklshDiva, you are one girl I will chase!

 

[TklshDiva]

Oh, and next time I see you in a skirt, TklshDiva, you are one girl I will chase![/QUOTE]

I'll hold you to that! I love my short skirts, bare legs and long high boots! 🙂

 

[prettygirl619]

as a female LEE and LER, i recently was dating a guy who is 0% ticklish like barely get a reaction if i touched his feet. and its so boring!!!! im not dating him anymore. even worse he was a horrible tickler, one of those rough ticklers where it does tickle but almost is painful but still makes me laugh. augh he was frustrating.

on the other hand i have a guy friend who is so ticklish any chance i get i tickle him and the best part it when he gets me back for it!!

so in reply to this post, i dont want either A. no ticklishness or B. hates being tickled

 

[rhiannon]

O my, the 'they will tolerate it if thet want to please me enough' theory again! 🙂

Sorry, but - some people hate some things so much that they are not able to tolerate it, and I know people where it is that way with tickling!

Nothing and nobody in the world could make me tolerate hot wax, nipple clamps, peeing on each other or something like that! Sorry! I just do not like it! Not for the guy next door, not for a millionaire, not even for an attractive millionaire!

And if a guy expects me to tolerate something I hate to please him - well, I guess he doesn't love me! So he is not even worth me tolerating anything for him!

 

[rhiannon]

Since I am a lee, I can only say what would be worse from my point of view: Being with someone who is ticklish but hates it. If someone isn't ticklish, you won't be tempted! If someone is ticklish and hates it, that is potential conflict material!

 

[Em Es]

PrettyGirl619 and Rhiannon

PG619, after that disappointing un-ticklish, unskilled tickler you dated, it must seem like found money when you meet up with, as you said, "a guy friend who is so ticklish any chance i get i tickle him and the best part it when he gets me back for it!!"

That reminds me of another topic I plan to start: Which is better for fulfilling your tickling needs, a lover or a friend? Lovers can come and go (in more ways than one) and even at the marriage level, it's a 50-50 chance of working out. But with a friend, the emotional attachment and expectations are not as great, which decreases your chance of losing someone who satisfies you, tickle-wise.

Rhiannon, when a woman wants a man, her limits come pretty close to his fantasies. But when you think about it, people communicate things without even realizing they're doing so, and that may be why a guy who's into tickling, nipple clamps, or whatever will hook up with a girl who will indulge him. Why else do we let some people pass by but find ourselves striking up a conversation with others?

 

[*giggles*]

nearly everyone i've dated has NOT been ticklish at all, or only in one or two spots (which are not always convenient and easy to get to). i've not dated someone who hated being tickled, but i think that would be awful. as for non-ticklish partners, i think it depends on the individual. my current boyfriend is only ticklish on his feet, but he still tickles me every chance he gets and he's amazing at it. being with him is not at all boring, even though he's hardly ticklish. i know i can't win any tickle fights, as i'm hopelessly ticklish just about everywhere, but that doesn't stop me from starting them! plus i get him pretty good from time to time 😉