People being creeped out by a foot fetish

[Wolf]

I find a lot of shame around fetishes and kink in the bdsm / deviant community comes from the kinksters themselves. That anxiety ends up being a cycle of "They'll reject me, they don't understand, they'll label me a weirdo", leading to repression, bitterness, and inability, or apathy, over controlling urges.
Thing is, you can't really compare this stuff. Its hard wired and not something anyone chose for themselves to get turned on by.
That said, rejection is a part of life and everyone experiences it. Accepting it as that versus the end of the world, might help a person keep their self confidence and motivation to keep trying. Because acting like you can't control yourself or being all "woe is me" about being turned down is NOT attractive.

I think this is also a big part of the issue. People seem to start with the notion that they're weird rather than thinking they're normal. It's hard to push past the barriers you've already set for yourself.
In my experiences (granted it may be fairly limited), I've felt nothing but acceptance for my interests. I think a lot of it plays into how you perceive it yourself because you'll likely subconsciously project that onto how you introduce it to someone else, especially if they're more vanilla. If you act like it's weird, the other person is probably going to get the idea that it's weird.

Gotta agree with you both; and I'll even add that vanilla is a label that's applied way too easily regarding other people; if they're not into a certain person's likes, they're "vanilla" (and boring, unadventurous, etc). Lots of times, people have their own kinks that they're not comfortable sharing right off the bat, especially if their partner is so obsessed with their own kink, they can't get a word in edgewise.

 

[Sensualswitch10]

I'd like to believe that most people who have a negative impression about it think of it as odd or funny rather than outright creepy. I mean, the story (I think from Boston) about a guy who was breaking into people's houses and tickling their feet while they slept... That's super duper creepy. But in the general case, sure some people find it creepy, but I think they're in the minority.

Case in point, a girl I've been seeing told one of her girlfriends (in front of me) that I have an ear fetish (I don't, I just like to play with ears) a foot fetish (ok, that's true) and that I like tickling her (did not refer to that as a fetish though). Girlfriend did not seem creeped out at all. And I didn't feel embarrassed about any of it.

As for the portrayals in pop culture, Hollywood is lazy. That's why they constantly remake old movies instead of coming up with new ones. But again, even in pop culture, I think it's used more often as cheap humor rather than to demonstrate that someone is a creep.

I feel like maybe we can be a little over sensitive because of deep seated negative feelings about being different. But we all just need to accept ourselves because everyone has something about them that's different from what's considered "normal"

Personally I find normies to be kind of boring anyway.

 

[Vanillaphant]

Obviously there are different reasons why a person would find foot fetishism creepy, so I dare say most, if not all of what has been mentioned here apply to some degree.

One thing that has only been touched upon, however, and whose importance I think shouldn’t be underestimated, is the issue of voyeurism.

I think most girls, if they started going out with someone whom they really liked, and discovered (particularly if it was in a fairly casual/organic way, as opposed to a “You’d better sit down, I’ve got something to tell you” sort of way lol) that said person had a foot fetish, they wouldn’t be all that creeped out by it. And that’s because the expression of the fetish is occurring in an environment of mutual consent. But in a public setting, however, it’s a little different.

I feel like checking out a girls breasts or ass would be just as "creepy" as checking out her feet, but the girl would label the former as fine and the second as wrong.

Things like boobs and ass are kinda a given. Women know that guys stare at them.

Exactly. Most men are about tits and ass. And (I’m guessing) when a woman is in public, she is conscious at any moment of how much she is revealing where those body parts are concerned, and therefore what sort of reaction she is eliciting in random guys on the street. When it comes to feet, however, she might decide to go barefoot or to adorn footwear which happens to be more revealing than average for purely practical reasons and without giving it a second thought. So the idea that there might be some guys out there getting off on ogling her body without her tacit consent, and perhaps without her even being aware of such, is likely to be a tad unsettling – and therefore might taint, to some degree, her opinion of the group as a whole. So it seems to me, anyway. (And the anecdotes from the tickleshow and from laughinggaszone are good examples of this, I think.)

Is anal sex / rimming something that most vanilla couples engage in? Honestly, aside from a few songs on the radio, I haven't heard of it being that common.

Jesus Christ. What radio station do you listen to, chicago? Sodomy FM? lol

 

[Sandisk444]

Gotta agree with you both; and I'll even add that vanilla is a label that's applied way too easily regarding other people; if they're not into a certain person's likes, they're "vanilla" (and boring, unadventurous, etc). Lots of times, people have their own kinks that they're not comfortable sharing right off the bat, especially if their partner is so obsessed with their own kink, they can't get a word in edgewise.

That's a good point to make actually. While I don't use the term 'vanilla' to be negative or anything, it certainly has the implication that the person is boring by comparison and I can see why someone would take it that way. To me it's just a much easier way than saying "someone who really isn't into kinky stuff/hasn't had much exposure to it" lol.

 

[Wolf]

That's a good point to make actually. While I don't use the term 'vanilla' to be negative or anything, it certainly has the implication that the person is boring by comparison and I can see why someone would take it that way. To me it's just a much easier way than saying "someone who really isn't into kinky stuff/hasn't had much exposure to it" lol.

Oh, no, I get that most people use it as shorthand, and not to offend. It's just my experience that most people have a kink, and a lot of people don't give them an opportunity to show it.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Is anal sex / rimming something that most vanilla couples engage in? Honestly, aside from a few songs on the radio, I haven't heard of it being that common.

I find a lot of the people on this board really believe people do everything and anything up to eating toilet content and think nothing of it, but will go complete apeshit and be baffled if someone mentions a tickle fetish.

I don't know if it's due to a lack of ever having a non-tickle fetish sex drive or people here just have weird persecution complexes, but the bizarre way this board believes sex and fetishes are percieved by the public has always dumbfounded me.

 

[Wolf]

I find a lot of the people on this board really believe people do everything and anything up to eating toilet content and think nothing of it, but will go complete apeshit and be baffled if someone mentions a tickle fetish.

I don't know if it's due to a lack of ever having a non-tickle fetish sex drive or people here just have weird persecution complexes, but the bizarre way this board believes sex and fetishes are percieved by the public has always dumbfounded me.

I think it has to do with far fewer instances of actually bringing / discussing it with people, and a lot more instances of imagining the horrible responses they'd get.

 

[chicago]

I don't listen to sodomy FM but there's a lot of lyrics about eating the booty like groceries or stickin it in ya ass, though I have heard probably just as many about pretty feet / toes, pedicures, etc.

 

[meangry]

It's a fetish.

A lot of people have no concept of controlling their base urges. A lot of people have no concept of how to not be a total creep. This makes up central sexual identity, and with that, bad things can happen.

Guess what, though? You don't have to have washboard abs, or be a GQ model, or whatever, to 'overcome' this. I've never had an issue with a significant other in regards to fetishes or whatever...and given personality types, get a thrill out of engaging with this. Why is that? Because if you approach this like, I don't know, a sane human, nobody truly cares. That's the big unspoken secret. If what others, including people you don't know, think less of you, who truly cares? It doesn't matter.

 

[Vanillaphant]

there's a lot of lyrics about eating the booty like groceries or stickin it in ya ass

Yeah... I prefer Tony Bennett's earlier stuff myself. lol

And that's enough silliness from me. I don't want to get into trouble for derailing the thread!

 

[SoleMates]

If you can't understand why a lot of women think foot guys are creepy, you haven't met enough foot guys.

...and that's coming from a foot guy.

 

[P[a]pi]

I don't get why foot fetishes are so looked down on but anal sex, ass licking and most anything else butt hole related is perfectly acceptable.

Man this cracked me up, literally lol'ed. Butt hole related lol, fuck.

I think it's just because it's abnormal (aka not the majority), just like furries, etc. Another reason could be that chicks' feet are visible in public a lot, so this increases the amount of creepy encounters they experience. Like when the fantastic four chick was interviewed by that radio guy. Althouth, the radio guy have been just trolling for free press.

 

[Lifeseeker]

If you can't understand why a lot of women think foot guys are creepy, you haven't met enough foot guys.

...and that's coming from a foot guy.

Dude I hit a foot fetish party in Manhattan and yes foot guys are definitely something else

 

[robmic]

Wow! It's threads like this one that bring out all the closet psychiatrists to comment. (myself included) But, if you read everyone's replies, you can learn things, which is a good thing. You learn about yourself and others and what goes on in peoples minds.

 

[kenny]

The foot fetish people can do and think what they want but, when I see a tickle video and it supposed to be a TICKLE clip and they start with the lickfeet bs thats where i draw the line, and it makes me NEVER want to order another clip from that producer again. Those producers know who they are no names need to be said. keep the tickling clips to tickling and leave the foot fetish crap out of our tickle clips please!!!!!!

 

[Wolf]

The foot fetish people can do and think what they want but, when I see a tickle video and it supposed to be a TICKLE clip and they start with the lickfeet bs thats where i draw the line, and it makes me NEVER want to order another clip from that producer again. Those producers know who they are no names need to be said. keep the tickling clips to tickling and leave the foot fetish crap out of our tickle clips please!!!!!!

Uhm...okay.

 

[sweetkandy]

I personally don't like other people's feet at all, I really think that they're gross but I don't think foot fetishes are creepy at all. If someone wanted to tickle my feet I'd let them as long as they tickle everywhere else too lol

 

[sweetkandy]

Some of the guys with foot fetishes do go over board with the questions and the creepy level does rise then. But a foot fetish in general isn't really creepy.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I have heard the term "foot worship" when it comes to male foot fetishist. You really don't hear about ass or boob worshipers. Maybe that's what freaks some women out. That guys can't control themselves around feet.

 

[LaurenLove]

I don't think the actual fetish itself is creepy, it's the way some people approach others about it. Being approached by a man who is doing nothing but staring at your feet and then chimes in with "you have some delicious feet" is creepy. There's nothing wrong with liking feet whether it's just wanting to worship them or tickling related, just don't be a creeper about it to a perfect stranger. Even if you're someone's friend, keep certain comments to yourself.

 

[Sandisk444]

Wow! It's threads like this one that bring out all the closet psychiatrists to comment. (myself included) But, if you read everyone's replies, you can learn things, which is a good thing. You learn about yourself and others and what goes on in peoples minds.

It's always nice to have threads that cause people the think with the head that's on their shoulders 😛.

 

[Libertine]

This is an excellent and very amusing song about the subject. Just eliminate the space before www.

https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFAozYmmjWs

 

[milagros317]

This is an excellent and very amusing song about the subject. Just eliminate the space before www.

https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFAozYmmjWs

Hilarious! And useful advice also. Thanks for the link. 😀

 

[SoleMates]

You really don't hear about ass or boob worshipers.

You aren't looking hard enough. They exist.

 

[Blue Soda]

Being one of those rare women with a foot fetish I am not creeped out by it all. I mean, some guys can be creepy in how they approach it. The same way guys without a foot fetish can be creepy about other things. Respect and decorum, they matter