AFewGoodMen said:
No, I am not Laurie's husband. If it's possible he's an even bigger loser than she is.
You people are enabling a person because she's into your fetish. You could really help her by advising her to face her problems and learn to handle responsibility. It's something Laurie never learned, at almost age 40 it's about time she did so, and stop becoming drama queen. As it is now she's a sponge on societies resources.
If you knew her so well, you'd know that she's now OVER 40!! If you're going to be insensitive and crude, at least get the information right!!
Since the thread started by scribe was deleted, I posted some information that I would like Laurie to consider. I am writing this only because I feel it bears repeating:
I had a friend who's wife and adult son put him out of the house something similar to that of an unwanted pet. He was unable to work and generate an income so he became useless to them. I had told him years prior to this to get help and leave the home before something bad happened to him. He didn't listen and when the enevitable happened, he was on the street with 40.00 and nowhere to go. He finally landed in the homeless shelter for three months.
He got counseling, an apartment, job counseling, and help he never would've received because his wife made too much money. Had he not been forced into the shelter, he'd still be at home and doing nothing with his life.
The moral of the story is-sometimes God (or your spiritual signicant other) sometimes backs us into a corner with nowhere else to go. Sometimes we have to stop running and face our demons before we can get to the next level. Eventually, a person has to get to the point and decide to make the bleeding stop in their lives. Eventually a person has to start asking the tough questions. "Why does this keep happening to me?" "What, if anything have I done to bring me to this point?" "What do I need to do to turn this around and NEVER end up here again?" If you keep running, you'll never get yourself together.
I know shelters suck-having to depend on others when you're used to being independent is even worse. I had to go through a situation similar with having two kids in tow-not fun at all. But I finally faced my demons and my self-inflicting pain and I started turning my life around. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm a lot better off than I was six years ago.
Your time could be best utilized by receiving the services the shelter has to offer. You can look for work at the same time you're spending on this computer to keep this thread alive. You can investigate social services programs that might be able to help you with subsidized housing. You might try to consider going back to school-between grants and student loans, you could live quite well. Get creative and start digging yourself out of this hole. You don't have to stay in it and you can leave it forever if you really desire.
Please don't take what I have said as anything else but the only help I can offer you. But I've been there and done that and I'm getting through it day by day. It is a process that is painful and ugly, but you must go through it in order to change your life for the better.