Question for my TMFers

[grandizer]

I'm sure this thread has been asked before, but I was wondering at what point in a relationship do you tell a person about your fetish?

Do you tell them up front and just be straight forward? Before any romance begins?

Do you wait a few dates till they gain feelings for you? But if it doesn't work then one or maybe both are left sad.

Or even wait till that person is in love with you then spring it on them? But if it's something they can't live with you can end up really hurt.

I hate to compare this to say telling someone you have an illness, but it's a big deal for some.

I was just wondering if any of you guys have had experience with this? I want to tell someone if I date them, but at the same time I don't want to scare them. Ya know?

So what is your advise?

 

[socktickler86]

There have been a ton of threads on this and there seems to be very mixed feelings. I think there are equally good reasons to be upfront with people compared to telling them after the relationship has started to develop. I think it also has to do with how important it is to you. For example if its super duper important to you, being upfront with it might be better whereas if it's not as important, you may want to wait a while and have the option to think "wow I looooove this person, I suppose I can put this aside for him/her".

 

[ticklemepls]

nah just do what i did: meet an amazing person right here and its all good 🙂

ok so option B, cause I've got the amazing one: I waited to inform my ex till after we were together a while.. when it became more of a serious relationship, just when i was comfortable with it. everyone is different though...

 

[rhiannon]

I would wait until the topics you talk about turn to sex. Then it should be safe to mention. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[obama666]

If the person is Not into tickling you never tell them about your fetish. They will use it against you when the relationship goes sour... Just do it!